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hey um this is kind of awkward, but i'm 14 going on 15 in a couple of months, and i belive i have met "the one" i've know him sience i was 2 1/2 and he wants to um finger me, and i am totally comfortable with it, but my parents arn't. should i do it behing my parents back, or listen to my parents and not do it at all, but my mom is the one whos conserned my dad doesn't care. i've haven't talked to them about it they kinda listen in my phone conversations with one of my good friends, have you ever got fingered or done it to someone? if not then how old were you when you did it, please.... im so CONFUSED! i'll rate! (link)
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You do what YOU feel is right. Your parents can't make up your mind about what YOU want to do. I know that sounds a little disrespectful but hun, we have all been there at one point or another and if we wanna do something then we do it. Thats just how we all are. I was about..13-14 the first time I was fingered, and of course it was behind my parents back. You think any parent would approve of thier child having sex or anything of the nature?. I say as long as your safe and comfortable, then why not?. You're at the age where thats when people start to experiment. The best thing to do is to just keep those conversations off the phone if your parents are around. Tell your friends/boyfriend somewhere in person so you dont have to worry about what your mom thinks. There's a few ways around all of that. But whatever you want to do and whatever you feel is he right choice for you, I say go for it.
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Alright .. so im 13 .. and i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last night .. meaning i was a virgin until last night .. well i heard your supposed to bleed your first time .. and i didnt .. it hurt like SUPER SUPER bad .. but i didnt bleed .. and i was just wondering if thats normal or not . Thanks :) (link)
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Yes, its perfectly normal not to bleed. Not everyone does thier first time, and yeah of course its going to hurt because for one, your 13 so your a bit tight. It's a shame to see 13 year olds going out and having sex but its your life and your decisions and thats not why im answering here. Just letting you know that yes its normal and just please, i know its overrated but if your going to start being more sexual active... just PLEASE BE CAREFUL!. :-)
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I have never had sex in my life, and i have never been "licked" down there, and i have been getting these bumps that are ichy and hurt.... What coiuld they be from? Please help me out, i'm really scared. (link)
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I'm sorry I couldnt get back to you right away but I have been swamped with work
Ok sweetie, I have a few questions for you.
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Question 1: Do you shave "down there"?
~ This is a big one because I have gotten similiar bumps that can hurt and itch on my genital region before too. This can be caused if you shave there and get too close and it causes rashes, and you get those little bumps as a result.
Question 2: have you shared or weared any underpants, pants that didnt belong to you?
~ This is another thing you want to be careful of. Sharing other peoples pants or underpants is the same as sharing both hats n combs and attracting head lice. Even staying over at a friends house and being on thier bed if they have either live or crabs, you can easily get it. You have public lice or "Crabs" and it can easily be taken care of with a prescription from your doctor. You could have also got it from something else too.
I think you answered my Question 3, about have you done anything in the sexual nature. I think you have caught a rash or public lice and you need to get that checked out right away. I dont mean to get personal but have you noticed any of those bumps, on the inside of you? or are they just on the outside?. If you notice them inside then you may hav genital herpes and you need to get to a doctor quick. It's nothing to relly mess with or wait about.
And if you had already gone to the DR before I got the chance to reply to you, I want you to please let meh how your doing and what the problem is, and again I apologize for waiting so long. I hope everything is fine and I hoped I helped you a little bit.
Best wishes and Take Care
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First off, I'm not sexually active and am pretty much a 'good girl' when it comes down to getting serious and sexual with any guy. The problem is, I have these very sexual, heated fantasies. When I meet a hot guy, and we start talking, I start to daydream about us having sex. I don't mean normal sex either - like rough, hard and in odd places. Is there something wrong with me? These fantasies are taking over my life and mind. (link)
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As was said by others I believe its just part of the bad girl starting to overcome the good girl so to speak. Especially still having your virginity, I think we all have had fantasies about having sex and doing wild things. I dont think you have anything to worry about. Nothing is wrong with you, it's just part of how we grow and develop, and of course never expiriencing it.. your going to think about it, and more than usual. Believe meh, once you lose your virginity, you will no longer have such fantasies or not as strong. Dont get meh wrong, dont go out there tomorrow and just have sex with some random guy...but its ok to think and daydream. Its not taking over your life or mind, your just curious and hormones and everything else are going. It's puberty. You will be fine and as suggested, if your really getting uncomfortable with these fantasies... talk to someone you trust and get the help you need.
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Okay, im thirteen and i have a boyfriend who is the greatest thing in my life right now, hes so suportive towards me..and i really would like to spend the rest of my life with him and i know alot of people are gunna tell me that im 13 and alot of things are gunna go on in my life that might change and i dont even know what love is, but trust me i do i know exactly what it is thanks too him, but anyways...we both wanna go further..cause we both have the same feelings for eachother, and i wanna go further but i dont know how far..i mean we have made out alot...and like fingered..whats next? help me and ill rate you (link)
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Well as I read over other people's responses (because I dont relly want to repeat lol) I think the next thing would be oral sex. Call me old fashioned but I just dont think a 13 year old should be having sex. You are still considered to be a child even if you are teenager. I dont want to put you down or anything because I've been in a similar position. But if you feel he is the one for you and you have ever reason to believe it and you want to go further, then sweetie thats going to have to be entirely up to you. No one else can tell you when your ready for sex, or ready to do anything. You need to follow your heart and your morals (if you have any that you stand for.) As I heard in another reply to you, I think you are very mature for your age and you seem to know what you want.
My advice to you would be to take it slow and one thing at a time. You've made out, played with each other, then if your going to take a next step it would be for oral.. but hunny, be sure you are ready and comfortable. Thats the most important thing of all that you are ready. You seem ready enough but I still feel some uncertainty and you just do what you think is right for the both of you
Good luck and let me know sometime how it went. I'd love to listen. :-)
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