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i'm ashley.
i'm pretty much a good girl :)
i care about everyone.
i have a lot of first hand knowledge with a lot of things.
my life doesn't suck, so i'm not going to sit here and say it does.
i know how fortunate i am to have a family and good friends
i have a great guy named Eric in my life right now ♥
i help EVERYONE regardless it's just the kind of person i am
i give out my AIM and MSN for a reason, so people can reach me quickly, so IM me anytime.
i'm an honest person, trust me, my mouth has gotten me in trouble PLENTY of times.
i'm a smart person and make good choices.
i screwed up alot before, but as of now, i'm an amazing person in my opinion.
i'm one of the happiest people you will ever meet.
i will cheer you up, just ask, or show you need it
i don't judge you on how you get by, the company you keep, what you do for thrills, that's your own business. and i have no room to judge you.

advice

i am thinking about letting my boyfriend finger me,but i have really long large in lips on my "lower area" will he get freaked out? or should i do something about it, or not let him finger me, do guys think that is weird ?

don't worry about it. he isn't going to notice.

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I use to read on here gurls sayin they think there pregnant and im like man why dont they just get testedd yeah while i think im pregnant now! and i have noo money for a test. I slept with this guy the Dec 10 or sumthing and i still havnt got my period.When i get up to get ready for school i always fell like im going to throw up. I have yelllow discharge, and i keep having these pains right in my crouch ! , and its like stinging pains , and im really scaredd. cause i cant tell ANYONE who the dad is , and i cant ask my friends for advicee cause i cant tell them iv slept with this certain guy .. cause they all hate him but i dontt !

save your money for the test.

and if you are you need to go to planned parenthoood.
it also sounds like you could have an STD.
you need to get tested too. i believe planned parenthood does that for free.

and you need to ask the guy if he has an STD.

good luck. if you need me, IM me or whatever

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what does having sex feel like,what can i do to make it good for the guy and myself,and how should i start it off?

it hurts the first couple times for girls because it's new to have things streching you out. and for boys it's almost always pleasureable.

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hey...im 16/f and im in a long term, serious relationship with a guy. we're definitly in love adn ready to start to have oral sex.

alright...heres the deal...some woman have something called a big inner labia [lips] which is basically when your inner labia is big and sort of hangs...thing is...i have that...and im scared that maybe a lot of girls have normal, small inner labias and that because mine is bigger hell get grossed out or things wont go smooth and im just really nervous and self concious about it...does anyone else have the same labia like this and experienced oral sex...if so...tell me what heppend because im really nervous just about the way my inner labia looks and im scared of what hes going to think

don't worry about it, like you said your in a serious realationship. he loves, i think it's going to take more than a bigger labia to scare him away. he might be as selfconcious as you are. don't worry. he probably won't even notice.

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Is discharge the same stuff as the kub your make when having sex??

yeah. its basically the same thing as the cum/natural lube.

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i know this is kind of weird but i always over-analyze things so here it goes. i have only been to first base. i know i am going to go to second soon but the thing is, i have 32As. what are guys going to think? or will they not care?

breasts are breast. size isn't as big of a deal as you'd think. some guys will care and some won't. but if he cares, screw him you deserve better.

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Are you still a virgin even thought you've been fingered?

physically, yes. buut virginity is like mental.

i consider you a virgin still.

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Hi!
I have been giving my boyfriend handjobs, but he never cums. No matter what i do or how i do it, he just says it feels good. Sometimes if i've been doing it for quite sometime, he'd just say it's time (for him) to rest, then he just goes back to kissing me. Is there something wrong here? What does this mean?

there's nothing wrong. just some guys don't cum from handjobs. it's not a big deal and don't worry about your performance. he said it feels good, so don't worry

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If a guy was just using you for sex, would the guy actually makeout with you and kiss you?Or would he avoid it?

most likely he'll still kiss you.

and he'll lie to get in your pants.

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what if i skiped a period can i not be pregnat?

unless sperm came in contact with the vagina, no way.

and if you started your period within the last year-year and half. your period could be a little irregular.

dont worry too much :)

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Ive had sex ONE time.
Is my hymen most likely broken?
But, it didnt hurt at all, maybe for like .1 second.
Ive been fingered many times though
Just wondering!

most likely, your hymen YIS broken.

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When a guy says
" you were moaning like a bitch"
is that good or bad?

good. it just means you moaned like loud..

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ahh ok....soo im hanging out with my boyfreind tomorrow...and well hes my boyfreind...and its our 2 year anniversary, so we're going out to dinner and then we're going back to hig place, and well yeah. so i shaved...down there a little while ago, and now its all bumpy and red and theres still really really short hairs, and its kinda weird, ive never done this before...
what can i do to get rid of the red and hair?

pllleasse?

i use this special soap from bath and body its like body acne and it clears it up in a few hours. and just shave before you go if those little hairs really bother you.

happyanniversary

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me and my boyfriend had sex on sunday. it was only like for 2mins long without a condom. when he got his penis out he cummed. did some of it stay in me? what should i do?

wait til your supposed to get your period, i know it's hard.

but just because he pulled out doesn't me that you didn't get pregnant. he could have had pre-cum or whatever.

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so me and my boyfriend have had sex twice. the first time we did it i don't think he broke/tore the hymen even though it hurt really bad, basically i kept pushing him off me on reflex. anyway, the second time was yesterday and it also hurt really bad but i still don't know if he tore the hymen, it still hurt and i understand it will hurt the first few times but how do i make sure he fully "popped my cherry"?(i got tired of using the words broke/tore)

virginity isnt only about popping cherries, if your boyfriend and you had sexual intercourse, than your not a virgin.


ADDITION:

if you need to see if your hymens still intact, you could try feeling around or you could check with a mirror.

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well its the same as the title lol. My question is If you have masturbated in the past does that mean that your hymen is no longer intact?

not nessicarily [sp?]. many people can be fingered and keep their hymen and masturbation in the form of fingering will most likely not break your hymen.

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Hi, you answered my question on birth control. I was wondering if a physician(sp?) could perscribe it or if I would have to go to a gyno.

i actually think you would have to go to a gyno.

if you need to talk or anything sweet heart. IM anytime.

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Ok. Well Im 14 and I'm a girl. My boyfriend is just a few years older than me. Me and him have gotten sexual, but we haven't had sex before. I don't want to have sex, but he's older and he would do it if i did. And that kind of puts pressure on me. He isn't making me have sex or purposly putting pressure on me. He is a really nice guy and has a very nice personality and I could so see myself with him years from now and we have been together for 6 months. We have touched eachother in certain places before and like the other night we took it a step further. He touched me between my legs bare but I let him. I always get caught up in the moment and I am afraid I will get caught up in the moment and end up doing something I will regret. I won't have sex till I have no doubts I want to be ready and my mom said that if i want to have sex she will put me on the pill. So I want to wait another year or so and then i will if I'm ready, but I'm afraid he exspects I will have sex with him even though he's told me many times it's will always be my choice and when I am ready he will be to! I am scared! What should I do?

Oh sorry if it was so long, but if you can could you please give me some advice? :)

of course, its your choice ultimatly. just tell your boyfriend your limits before the situtation happens. if he knows your limits and you know them beforehand, it'll be easier too stop. but of course be ready just in case things do get out of hand have protection with you.

just try to take things slow.

goodluckloveely

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Ok...I'm 15/F and I was wondering if it would be a good idea to tell my mom that I want to go on birth control just in case something happens between me and my boyfriend. Or should I go on it when I am positive that something is going to happen? And do you think it's ok for a 15 year old girl to lose her virginity or do you think I am too young? Thank you.

virginity is a mental state of mind, if you think your ready to lose it, than it doesnt matter what someone else says to you. i think you should go on the pill now that way you'll be used to taking it everyday at the same time and won't miss a day. it's good that your being safe already and your mom should understand that.

you lose your viriginty you know there's no going back, just make sure that you and your boyfriend know that you love each other and your sure things won't go south afterwerds.

goodluckhunn

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