Hey my name is Toni, i just ended my freshman year of highschool and like to give advice =) i figured if i started one of these i could help people since i havent done so in a while. Ask me anything and i'll answer you as soon as i can. =)
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Location: Mass
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Member Since: June 27, 2005
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hey toni. wat do you do, wen a friend tells you she cant talk 2 you about certain things anymore, and rather call someone else? we are like sisters, tell each other everything, and i mean everything, and the reason i smile is b/c she makes it happen b/c she helps me so much. toni, please help! (link)
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well you musta got into a fight or something bad musta happen, cause if you were sisters or really good friends, then that definatly wouldnt of happened randomly.
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i have this problem where i feel like this one girl likes me but when shes with someone else she changes and it feels like she doesnt like me anymore and treats me like crap. how can i talk to her about this? (link)
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like, like u like you? or just as a friend. cause if its just as a friend look at the question below this, but if its in the other kinda way, then just ask me again and ill answer that for you. -toni-
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so i have like a friend who i love to death when we're together alone ... but she changes when shes with another friend and she changes toward me ... she treats me like im not there or like crap ... but shes really good friends with the other friend too and like when we're together shes my bff but when their together i feel like she doesnt like me as much ... how do i talk to her about this? (link)
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k i just got like the same question except worded differently about 4 times. so ill only answer this one so i dont have to repeat the same thing 4 times lol. if this happens with more than just one person then definatly talk to her. but if its with one person try not to let it get to you, the other friend might pull beign mean out of the one you love to hang out with and the one you love to hang out with dosent even realize what shes doing. this happened to me, and if you let it get to you or get mad they'll just keep doing it, but if you ignore it and not take it personally then they'll get bored and stop. idk if that made sense but it worked for me. -toni-
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lets see if you can help me with my problem. i have this friend who is mad at me and wont talk to me. who stays mad for six months? if she cant forgive me after that long was i ever really her friend in the first place? how do i get her to talk to me? and dont give me that bs about how i cant do anything about it if she wont talk to me... (link)
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im not. but you have to keep talking to her. even if shes away online or wont answer you back. or leaving messages on her voicemail. cause if you stop all together, when will she ever talk to you? or how will u know she will. -toni-
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hey toni, i always feel like i have to change myself to fit in. like it seems nothing i do or whatever seems to be right to them. like im sort of friends with them but i get the feeling they dont really like me even though i talk to them usually. i dont know what to do (link)
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k. i changed to fit in, and whoever this is you probably know that. Changing yourself to fit in with people is not the way to go. your friends will like you for who you are, and how you act, not how you dress or if your like them. why would you want to be like them? thats frikin boring. see, my friends liked me for who i was, and when i changed i lost friends. it was because i wanted to be like everyone else and i forgot about me. just like your doing, trying to change yourself to fit in to be friends with people. if you dont think they like you why would u keep hanging around with them... im pretty changed back, cause the summer is here and i just forgot about everything and started new, and now i have my friends back who i felt far away from, just from becoming me again. dont change though. -toni-
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ok toni, im not gonna say who this is for obvious reasons, but i have a problem. alright so i like this kid and his nmae is brendan. everyone knows him and everyone loves him. hes just one of those guys and hes the best guy that i have met in a long imte but idk what to do. like i always wanna hang out with him and stuff but im scared to ask. i know that your gonna tell me to like follow my (link)
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i definatly know that feeling. honestly, you just have to take chances. you cant keep talking about it, cause nothing will happen. its true and i know your reading this saying i cant do that, i cant take a chance, im too scared, but thats all it is. takin chances and hoping for the best. you know? see, when i used to look like a little mexican boy, obviously no american boys were gonna like me ;) i mean who would do that. honestly. but after time, guys did like me. which was weird, i know, but it was for who i was. if you told him you liked him, and he ignores you and dosnt talk to you, you really cant worry about that. guys will like you for who you are, not if your one of those "girls". i have seen ALL my friends get hurt from this, but afterwards they find someone else. and or they have their friends make them better. i mean if your scared to ask him to hang out.. get a bunch of people to hang out together. then it wont be as hard for you to ask. hmm.. this is a really tough situation and if i was dr. phil id think id be better, but im only Toni. and i wish i could make everyone happy. but i cant =/ just remember what you want isnt always what you get, but in the end what you get is definatly a lot better than what you wanted. -Toni-
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so i have this friend lets call him ziek.well ziek and i are best friends and everyone keeps telling us that we look sooo cute together and well i just dont listen,well heres my problem. well now im starting to look at ziek more and more and i starting to like him more and more but not just cause i think hes so cute but because i like our friendship,and i just dont know if im really like "hott"or"pretty" enough for him...what should i do zagami? (link)
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this one is up to you. but if you like him then talk to him or flirt with him more than you would. but remember this. it dosen't matter what the hell you look like. guys will like you for who you are and if not then obviously it's not gonna go anywhere. -Toni-
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Well i'm not sure if this is under friendship or love life cuz it is kinda both. I've been best friends with this kid for a while, lets call him Mike. In the beginning we were just friends but he knew I liked him, and like he had this wicked sweet poem in his profile about a girl..and I found out it was about me. We didn't rush into a relationship because we figured we'd become closer friends first. We always flirt with each other and stuff but he also has a lot going on in his life, like with his family and stuff, so we never went out cuz of the stress and he didn't want to add the stress of having a girlfriend, which was fine. But a couple of weeks ago we got in this big fight because he hung out with these people that are a lot older than us at his house without his parents home. And then when we were fighting he told me that even if he did have a girlfriend it wouldn't be me and we are just friends. This obviously made me wicked sad because I didn't see when it went from us not going out because he has a lot going on to it being like me. I don't know if he only said that because we were fighting or cause he really meant it, because I have my own section on his buddy list, my own ringtone on his cell phone(which is like a love slowsong, which we have a lot of songs that he says reminds him of us)..and he calls me a lot, especially late at night. I always talk to him on the phone until like 1/2 in the morning! To me it seems like there is still something there to be more than friends, but its still because he has a lot going on. I don't know if I'm misinterpreting things and it really is just cause we are best friends. I don't know what to do anymore, should I continue to flirt like I normally do? or should I just step back and give him space and just be his friend and see where that takes me? Sorry this was so long, I hope you can help... (link)
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haha no worries. well personally, this is what i think. everyone who has a guy best friend, has feelings for him once in their life. and thats the same both ways. and no matter how much you fight about you goin out, or him liking you, or you liking him, you'll still always be best friends. you dont have to stop flirting with him, cause it wont hurt if you do, but u can give him a little space. but dont back away too much so that space that you left turns so far that he wont even talk to you anymore. i know that sounds forever gay haha, forever gay? wtf.. lol but it happens. and if you want.. watch this big word.. nonchalantly put a poem in your pro about him who knows what will happen. and why dont you call me till 1 in the morning =( what am i not cool enough or something? pft. thanx. =P hope things work out, and anything else just drop a question. k? Love whoever you are. -Toni-
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zagami, i have a friend, we'll say her name is fran. she is such a nice kid. i love her to death. but right now fran has another friend who has been a jerk to her for like ever. but fran still doesnt want to admit this. fran wants to keep making up with her other friend even though i know her other friend isnt worth the time. ive tried talking to fran about it. but it seems like she doesnt understand that instead of putting all her itme an effort into her other jerky friend she could be making friends with other better people. i dont think fran realizes what an awesome outgoing person she is. idk what to do. should i tell fran what im telling you? idk. please help. (link)
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wow.. lol sorry. I know exactly what your going through. And don't worry, fran realizes it. Oh does she ever.. and yeah, talk to her. Tell her what you told me. I'm in the same position right now, except i'm fran =/ And i have this friend who i don't wanna lose but then again everyone wants me to forget about her. The more you hang out with her more she will forget about her other friend. I mean summer is here, things change so fast. DOn't be mean about it though, just tell her you care and so many other people do too more than her other friend. Make her be on your side, but whatever you do, dont be mean to fran. Everyone does that to me and it just pushes me away from everyone more =/ But the people who are nice about it i appriciate more cause i know they dont wanna hurt me. I get a lot of "i'm done with you toni" and if fran gets that, who knows what might happen. Just talk to her though, she'll understand. Sooner or later. Time can be nothing but your enemy, has been for me. But in the end, it always works out. That is definate. -TOni-
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hey there, toni. i hear you give some good advice! well, i have some problems about my friend- her and i have been getting into fights lately.. maybe thats because we hangout everyday. but still- we got in a huge fight this weekend, and today! i think she thinks my house is her house and she can do what ever she wants to it, such as show up at my house with ppl when i wasnt even home.. and when i told her i thought that was rude.. she didnt understand why i was mad? i was like "okay, i am mad cause thats is kinda rude, and you couldve asked me, to come ove, but plus today was a day i wanted to juust hang out and relax by myself! like what should i do now? she seems to be mad AT ME?! when she has absolutly no reason.. but just today i told her we needed a break from eachother- she agreed. but she is still making me feel like complete shit :( ah toni what the heck do i tell her (link)
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i know exactly what your going through. people do that to me too, and i'll be in my room and i hear my door open and people walk in and go hello?! and like walk around my house then leave. Obviously you shouldnt walk into anyones house if its not yours, thats definatly a definate no. And especially with other people too. Well my advice to you for that would be lock your doors, thats what i do. Pull the shades down in the room your in.. they wont see you. About the fighting.. just take that break like u said and just let things slow down. Don't not hang out with her for so long to the fact she finds someone else to hang out with cause then your just gonna miss her =/ Talk to her aboutit.. and keep explaing. She'll understand. and if shes mad at you, she shouldnt be. Or i'll walk into her house and be like wheres your fridge bitchh? and walk to her kitchen. see how she likes it. Plus, best friends should understand.. just give it time. it always works out. -TOni-
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