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Hey! My name is Emily and I am 14, I signed up because I came across the site and my friend suggested I sign up because I am like the adviser of our group and people come to me with thier problems. I like helping people and try to give the best advice I can where possible. I am best at relationships ect but will give any other challenges ago!! And my pic sucks but I tried putting one of me but it kept saying file size too big, I got annoyed and settled for my msn pic!

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Ok well i have a friend who I can talk w/ abou my issues. Me and her go through the same stuff, right? Well, I read one of her and my other friends conversation. She was sayign how she htought she could talk to me about the stuff we're going through but she thinks I onyl talk about myself. And I only care abou myself. what can I do to prove her wonrg and show her that i realy care abotu her too? Thank-you

Just listen more to her, even though you are going through the same things she might like to try and explain things for a bit. Let her talk and listen, give advice referring to your problems so she knows that you still have problems but you care about her too. The more you are there and the more you listen she will realise you care....you obviously do because you want to prove you do but the best way to show if by listening, and giving advice, also try and find more close friends (e.g. i have two best friends and 3 close close friends) so i can balance how much i tell them with how much i help them. The more people you can find to listen to you the less pressure she will feel under.

I hope I helped :P
xordinarygirlx

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I was recently asked to attend a party a friend of mine is hosting. I would love to go hang out with my friend and meet new people. But there are a couple problems with this. I wont know anyone at all and Im not exactly a social butterfuly, my friend lives really far away, the party will be at night and Im not the best driver at night, and Im afraid since no one knows me I will be left out of conversations.

How can I politely say no? I want my friend to keep inviting me to do other things, but not this particular event.

I rate.

I think you should go tho this party. You could always drive up during the day and stay over night. This way you can have some drinks as well. All you need to do is start conversations yourself, don't wait to be included get in there bring up topics and make sure people listen to what you have to say. If you feel left out all you need to do is let your friend know, they will get you involved or stay with you.

If you really want to say no, just explain it to your friend.I think the best option is going because you are going to feel the same at the next event, and the one after.

HOPE I HELPED xordinarygirlx :P

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I have a group of friends at school that I have been hanging out with since Semptember. I have known one of them since last year. We all became very close very fast and I liked that. Lately, however, I have been feeling as if I am drifting father away from them. I don't want this. I want to be close to them again. They went up to one of my friend's cottage without and they spend a lot of time together without me. They have so many inside jokes. I feel really inferior. Does it sound like I am being paranoid? Should I talk to them about it or just leave it alone? How can I become closer with them agian?

Thanks, I will rate high for good answers.

You are NOT paranoid! We have a friend who recently told us she feels left out because we have inside jokes....she was in your situation. She told us about it and it really helped because we didnt know how she was feeling or that it bothered her so much...we made sure shw came out with us more so she was there when the inside jokes were made. I suggest telling them they probably dont even realise it bothers you...and thats not because they dont take notice of you...being in a group of friends can be difficult I suggest trying to find a person in that group you can be close with because that means you will never be left out if they go off again.

Hope I helped xordinarygirlx :P

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I got a friend that copies me and now i think she likes the boy i like.


-Amber

What should i do about the copying and then boy liking? I'm not flattered about it either i shouldn't be.

There is a girl in our form who will do anything to fit in, she will like the same music, boys, clothes to anyone new she meets to try and get them to like her. Maybe it is the same with your friend try and let her know just because you might not have the same interests doesnt mean she isnt your friend and try and get across its putting you off her a bit. With the boy it is probably fake and if its not she might like him, me and my friends have similar taste in boys but it doesnt come between us. I wouldnt be flattered either but the best thing to do is to try and get her to get a mind of her own and tell her you dont have to be identical to be friends.

xordinarygirlx :P

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well i have this friend, and like most people ive made new best friends. and whenever i talk to them and not him, he "feels left out" i told him that there are a lot of other people that hang around with us, who you can talk to. but he says "he feels left out" of the conversation im in. i mean, i cant stop talking to them just so he's happy. nor can i run around making sure he doesn't feel left out, or make him be involved in the conversation's. if he feels that way, he should involve him self right? well i told him that, and he just isn't having it.

thank you, please give advice, need it badly

p.s then when he feels like that, he goes and tells everyone so that i look bad.

Your friend might feel left out but you cant abandon your new friend for him. You have tried talking to him which is good because you are talking about what you feel he is just not taking it well...maybe he is having trouble adjusting to the situation or maybe he finds it difficult to make new friends as well. I suggest trying to bring him into conversations if he is struggling ask him what he thinks and try to get him to open up, if he does he will feel he is part of the group. Also try getting him to meet new people, introduce him to maybe your new friends next door neighbour for example. This might sound like setting up a couple but simply giving him the push and oppurtunity to make new friends should help.

xordinarygirlx :P

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my bestfriend sandra has a big problem and my friends and i dont nkow what to do well shes turning 14 she has small boobs she wants them to grow but she dosnt want plasctic surgery everyn 1 teases her tells her omg go get a breasty surgery she wanst them to grow really bad what can she do to grow them because i feel really upset whn she crys :(:(

People all develop at different rates so at 14 its nothing to be worried about. I am 14 and have been in a similar situation to you, I am a little more developed than my other friends who are picked on for being flat chested. Its all a matter of development rate and it will happen for her eventually.

I would suggest talking to her about it, and if the teasing continues get bad tell a teacher or her parents. She needs to know she is normal and if some adults know the people who are teasing her they can be educated on how its not a big issue.

I would show her some pictures of flatter chested celebrities and tell her how amazing they look as well as letting her know not all boys like large boobs, as I have seen in polls in girls magazines.

Best thing to do is be there for her through all the teasing and let her know she is being a strong and good person with her plastic surgery opinions! Hope this helped xordinarygirlx

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