I believe that everything happens for a reason. The bad things happen to you because God knows your strong enought to get pass it
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I have a problem with people being jealous of me. I don't know why they are - I'm not extremely beautiful or wealthy. I'm just an above average looking girl with average intelligence. I don't have a bf either, so this makes their jealously all the more perplexing.
I have a part time job with a union, and can afford to live on my own. I have an appartment I rent, a car, and a lot of nice furniture. I own about 150 CD's and 70 DVD's.
I by no means am rich, but only have myself to look after. So I can afford to spend my paychecks on what I please. I had saved up a bit and just bought a new futon and recliner. That made some of my friends REALLY jealous.
This one friend of mine makes just as much money as me but says that most of his paychecks go towards paying credit card depts. I have never had a credit card so don't have this problem. My sister is also jealous of me because she owes money to student loan payments. I never went to college so don't have this problem. Some of my other friends don't have cars, and are always saying how lucky I am to have one. But they don't relize how much money I put into it. I just paid 400 to replace the breaks. I wish I could just enjoy what I have without people feeling jealous. I earned it. What can I do, and how can I stop people from envying me? (link)
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Hi there! Jelousy is a nasty thing! Did you try to tell the people who you say is jelouse the same thing you told us, that you don't have other people to look after and that you work hard for your money so you deserve to buy what ever you fancy.... If you get yourself something new try not to tell anyone (otherwise they might think that you are bragging or rubbing it in their face...) try to make some new friends that have the same type of things you have (earn the same amount paycheck or more than you do) they woun't have any reason to be jelouse and will enjoy going shopping with you or what ever because they can afford it aswell...
Hope I helped!
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When i was in 5th grade this kid had a crush on me and i had a crush on him, we never went out because we had boyfriend and girlfriends but we both knew we liked eachother.5th grade seems like we were to young but i remember this.but 5th grade he moved, and i remeber the day he moved he wrote me a note and told me hed never forget me and he wanted to keep in touch, we never talked after that day he moved.and now im in 10th grade and the other day i looked his number up in the phone book and called every person with his last name.i didnt get a hold of him then today he called me and it was weird he said ever since the day he left 5th grade he thought about me.but the problem is i have a bf who i really like and were doing good.but i really want to see him.and were supposed to meet at the mall tomarrow.and im not sure if i should go? should i? he lives right by me. and i miss him. thanks (link)
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Hi there!! :o) Wow that is weird! well the thing is you tried to call him before he called you even though you have a boyfriend... think really hard did you want to meet up with him or did you just want to speak on the phone... If you really want to meet him at the mall I would say go for it, after all your just friends, see if things are still the same between you guys (memories stay the same but people change!!) But tell him you have a boyfriend and tell your boyfriend your going to meet up with an old friend (don't hide it from him)
Hope you have a great time!
Goodluck!
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My best friend Shianne has now screwed me over 2 times. It seems every time I tell her I like a guy, she offers to "help me with them" and she always ends up giving them her number, and dating them behind me back!! But she doesn't even tell me until the day after they start dating!
She did it with a guy named Steven, and now Brandon. Then whenever she breaks up with them, she expects me to not like them anymore, and to not want to date them because "friends ex boyfriends are off limits to other friends."
What do i do?!?
Should I really consider her my BEST friend if she's done this to me two times already?
Should I wait to see if she does it again?
I honestly don't know what to do, and I'd LOVE for some honest suggestions.
-Thank you so much!-
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Hi there :o) hmmm... If I were I would take revenge!! hahahaha... ask her who she likes (but don't let her expect anything) then start flirting with the guy and then go on a date with him... maybe if she gets some of her own medicine she would stop doing that to you, if she's mad just tell her now you know how that feels, tell her you really like her as a friend and you enjoy her company alot but that hurts you if she does it to you because you are suppose to trust one another!
If she does it one more time DROP HER!! You deserve so much better, you deserve a friend who gets excited with you if you have a crush and who will only do things to help you get the guy ect..
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I have this friend, who told me that she thought she might like this guy, and added him to her 'list' of guys. There were maybe 3 guys that were on her list of people she could potentially like. I knew all of them, and found out that one of the guys was in my homeroom and one of my classes. I was supportive of my friend's feelings for all the guys on her list, and kept away from them, but I found myself sort of attracted to this one guy. I started to like him, and my friend found out. I felt (and still feel) horrible, and apologized in person, over aim, over the phone and i wrote a really long letter, but she ignored me every time. She also brought a bunch of my other friends into it and they took her side, and pretty much stopped talking to me. they were my four best friends, and now they hardly even look my way. i don't know what else to do, so i've sort of just...given up. but i couldn't help it, i felt terrible, and tried really hard to make it up to her...is it so much my fault that i deserve to lose those friends?
by the way: i'm a freshman in high school, girl, 15. (link)
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Your friend is being really childish! I mean she has 3 guys on a "list" that she just might like.... You have the right to like anyone you like, even if you like one of the guys she likes.... If she is a true friend she wouldn't make such a big deal about it, I mean she still has 2 other guys that she can crush on... Try one last time, maybe you can win her over by setting up a date with one of the other 2 guys she likes as a surprise (get one of the guys to ask her to go to the movies with them) If she really starts to like just one guy she might forgive you :o)
If she's still mad at you after all your effort, Try to make new friends because then she isn't really a good friend, because this is really a stupid reason to be mad at you!
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just to let you guys knwo im not using the real peoples names but still the situation that is going on.
ok at the beginning of the year i was really close with three other girls (Jessica, Lisa, and Natalie) we were all really close and kind of had a little clique thing. we told each other everythin but i was kind of closer to Lisa and Jessica and Natlaie were close together.
as the year went on it kind of split off into me and lisa and jessica and natalie.
we always had stupid fights which ALWAYS ended up being misunderstandings. like me and lisa thought they were ignoring us and they thought we were ignoring them. whatever. so these problems kept on happening
eventually me and lisa jsut sort of gradually stopped talking to Jessica and Natalie.
then the other day natalie let my friend see her phoen and my friend saw a text message that jessica sent to natalie saying "i hate samantha (me) and lindsay" this really through me off guard.
i mean i knew we had some problems but come on hate is a very strong word.
my question is i dont know if i should try to work it out with jessica and natalie i mean we were all really close or should i just stop being friends with them. i really dont know what to do please help! (link)
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Have a talk with Jessica and Natalie... tell them what your friend saw, tell them you still like them both very much, name a few things that you like about each of them and ask them why they said they hate you, ask them what you did to make them feel that way.... I think they would feel sorry for saying that... but if they don't then maybe its best not to be friends with them anymore...
Hope I helped!
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