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OK so my brother like's most of my friend's most of his gf has been my friend's but most of them i hooked him up with,just cause i was bored but now he starting to like more and they don't like him we always make fun of him,but what i wanna no if it is okay if my brother goes out with my friend's he is in the 10th grade now and is 15 and me and my or 13

I think it is probably not a good idea because you wouldn't want to lose friends over something your brother did to them. Also, try to not talk junk about your brother with your friends because it will end up getting around to him at school etc. I know you love your brother and you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.

Good Luck!

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Okay, so next month I am turning 17 and I want to do something fun for my birthday and I can't think of anything exciting to do! I would appreciate any ideas you guys might have (:

I live two hours from DC if that helps and I would like to go see a concert or something, if that helps.

One of my friends did a video scavengar hunt for her 21st B-day. It sounds really corny, but when we all went to her apt later that night it was hilarious. Basically all that is is you split up into groups and make a list - tape yourself doing everything on the list. Like ride the bicycle in walmart or pump and old man's gas. It's fun. Trust me.

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okay, so on friday it was my friend katias birthday "party" hang out, whatever you want to call it. amanda r. and amanda b. were also there. we all went to the movies and had a great time, we did our own thing with different people there. it was all good.
when we got home, this is where it all started going downhill. amanda r. and amanda b. and katia started fighting, i just kept my mouth shut. the amandas and katia were drinking. well, im not a big drinker. they call me a pussy and if i do drink im a lightweight, who cares.
we were sleeping in a tent, why? youll see why. i didnt have any idea why. but it was in 30 degree weather and we were sitting out there for 2 hours in it, today is monday and im sick because of it. i have a terribal cold and a fever.
while we were sitting there for two hours, 3 random sketchy guys, whos age deffinitly ranged from 18-24 just walked near the tent and came in. right when they got in, they took out a ciggarette box and took out cocaine. the girls and i didnt do it, but the guys snorted it. i texted my boyfriend ryan and said "can you come pick me up? three random guys that look like they can be from 18-24 just walked into the tent and their snorting cocaine, help!" i texted that at about 12:27. he dropped everything he was doing and came and got me atabout 12:50. when he came and got me i went back down to the tent because i wanted to stay incase if katias mother came and checked on us, but when ryan got to the tent katia got in his face and said "GET THE FUCK OFF OF MY PROPERTY!" and he said "IF MY GIRLFRIEND TEXTS ME ASKING ME TO GET HER BCOS 3 RANDOM GUYS STEPPED INTO THE TENT, THEN ILL DO WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT" he was about to punch her but i pulled him away. i saw 1 of those 3 guys look at eachother nod their heads and one of them reached into their pocket. i was like ryan, lets go to your house. leaving him unaware of what it looks like what was going to happen.
so basically, i just left. but my ''friends'' knew that ryan was there, they could of assumed that we left. i guess a little after i left katias mom came and checked on them and saw that i wasnt there. her mom saw the 3 guys. ryan and i fell asleep at his house about 1 and i woke up at 3:30 and said hey hun, i should go back. he was throwing an argument saying he doesnt want me to go there he wants me to go home, but i still had my stuff there and it was expensive clothes and parfumes and stuff like that. all my makeup. i wanted it. when we got out of his area i turned on my cell phone, i finally got service by the high school and i had 15 voicemails and 67 new text messages... they tried calling and texting my phone but i dont get service at ryans house, they left about 10 voicemails asking where i was... and to answer my phone, and that the TROOPERS were involved!!
i get back to katias house and i go to the tent assuming their in there. their not, i say oh god. i go up the deck stairs and i see the amandas katia and her parents sitting there. i was like oh helll naww, no way. i took a deep breath and knocked. they all came running to the door like yes your safe! katias mom got up called the troopers saying i came back and called my rents.
katia said to me "tell the cops you just left.. okay? thats what we told them". i was like "im not lying to the cops katia.. thats so bad" well, it is true that i just left. so i said that to save their asses and mine too. i told the troopers about the 3 guys that were there and my parents looked so happy that i just left. i didnt tell them about the cocaine though..
well, the troopers had to go to ryans house to tell his dad the situation. i agreed with that and showed them where he lives since i didnt know the exact address. i didnt go in with the troopers and my parents. but my parents met his dad finally. they got along and they liked eachother. my mom thanked ryan for getting me. but she wished that i went home and not to ryans house.
when my mother got in the car i explained that the three guys sketched me out, they were looking at me weird. my parents said thank you for leaving your not in any trouble at all, they just didnt know where you went. i said thats the point mom, they didnt have to know SHIT. i still havent told them about the cocaine.
its now 6am and im finally home safe in my own bed. i fall asleep and im starting to get calls at like 10:45 asking what happened. i explained the whole thing. my mom knocks on my door at about 1145 and she says "i was talking to ryans dad, and he told me that there was cocaine there.. is that true?" i said "yes mom, im sorry i didnt tell you" she totally understood, she said "i know sometimes throwing your friends under the bus is hard, but in this situation you have to laura."
later that night, i have my friend brittany saying katia told her that i didnt even SEE the guys. well the cops have a printed report of my texts from 11-3am. so they have proof that i said at 12:27ish that three guys came in the tent with cocaine, and to get me! so shes proved wrong there but she is telling everyone i never saw them and im making it all up. i was at brittanys house yesteday and brit called katia and katia was changing the story around SO MUCH! and ryan was there for the whole story so i have my boyfriend to back my ass up. he saw the guys, he was there when katia blew up in his face. katias saying ryan didnt even come down to the tent, when he did. WHAT THE FUCK! i dont know what to do. can you help me PLEASE?

If you are not in any trouble with your parents or the police, I would stop talking to them. They have dragged you into a big mess.

You did the right thing by getting out of the situation.

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Well i have two best friends and well made a small click Called ABC im A my moved away friend is B and C is my other best friend. and well B told C that she was moving a while back and she never told me. she told C and C told me to say good bye when she came and was ?!?!? okay.. then one of my other friend told me that she was tranfering..... :\ so that was one concern about our freindship. Well B told me a couple times she was pregnant while laughing so i didnt believe her. and well she txted C saying that she was pregnant for reals no joke.
Is she my friend even if she prefer to tells everyone else before me? or am i just flipping out bc she left? well what do i tell my friend about her being pregnant? when she has a loser boyfriend....? for reals he should common sense to use protection? shouldnt he? and well my friends ex boyfriend is pist that she got pregnent bc he still cares about her. what should he do? bc he wants B to give up that life with her loser boyfriend and go to the ex boyfriend.
well i seriously dont know what to tell my friend or how to help her.
Pls. help me

I am not sure how old you are but I am guessing you are in middle or early high school. There is both simple and complex answers to your questions. The simple thing to say is: "It's not you so it doesn't matter. And your friends change." However, I believe the answer is alot more complex than that.

If you are as young as I think you are, then your pregnant friend has made a HUGE error in judgment. There is nothing you can do to solve her enormous problem. You can be supportive of her during this time. I do think you should learn from her mistake so that you do not make the same error she did. I think she should try to make a relationship work with the father. The ex-boyfriend should not get involved. This situation is much bigger than he and this other girl.

part of this simple answer is also true. Your friends change and this time in your life is probably a rough patch of that.

I hope this helped but because of the complexity of the story and all the question it was hard to address all the issues. Please email me if you have more questions or need more advice. I owuld love to help you.

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14/f
What do you guys consider as flirting? I'm a girl and I'm a tomboy sorta. I'd rather hang out with guys (because there is way less drama then to hang out with girls) play video games with them, joke with them, and ust basically do things with them rather than girls (keep in mind that this is all rate PG stuff)

And everytime I make a guy friend, they end up wanting to go out with me and I rather just stay friends with them then to go out and ruin the friendship. And so I say no most of the times and I feel bad at the end because I said no (I know I shouldn't) and I've hurt them.

And then when I do want to go out with a guy (that I usually don't hang out with...don't ask why. I just can't do the whole hanging out thing with my crushes)he 1)doesn't want to because he's intiminated by the number of guy friends I have or 2)breaks up with me because I end up spending a lot of time with my guy friends.

The question is how to I attrack fewer crushes from my guy friends and more from guys I do like?

p.s. what's with the guys and tackling? they know i have like no strength whatsoever and they just tackle me (not hurt wise but friendly wise)

The reason you probably can't "hang out" with the guys you have crushes on is because you are not as comfortable with them as you are the guys you dont have an intrest in. You see, around the guy friends you dont "like" you arent trying to impress them and you arent worried about how you acting or what you are saying. You have complete confidence, and THAT my dearie is why they are attracted to you.

It is the same reason why the most popular people are popular. They are confident, they arent worried one bit about what others think of them. And thats what people want, ironically, is for people not to care about thier opinions.

So, when you are around the guys you do like, my advice would to be just to imagine they are just one of your friends and be cool and confident liek you are with everyone else. That will make and keep them drooling.

*AE*

PS- any gut is going to feel awkward if you have like 100,000 guy friends. It just screws with their males egos.

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