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hey, my question is that i have a friend ok shes going to be 14 next month ok shes like all scarying me bc of her x.. like he got with a other girl he said they r going to get marry but see the thing is that the girl his with he doesnt even know in person i told her to move on she said its hard i know it is but what can i do to make her to move on or for her not to be hurted all da time bc it makes me sad my self bc it makes me feel like im not a good friend if you can help i would love it ok bye!!

Dont feel like your not a good friend, your trying your hardest! Sadly, there is nothing you can say to her that will mend a broken heart, if you have ever been there you know how it is. The most you can do is listen to her, let her steem off to you, and try and support her. Its an emotional roller coaster for her, but unfortunatly it is just the first of MANY to come in her life...its just the weather, it wont last forever! Let love free, and if its meant to be it will always come back home.. thats what my mom always tells me! She just needs a friend to lean on, and it will be tough for her, but she will get through it

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My friend just started going out with her first boyfriend, and I am really happy for her, but he is also my X. It was kind of weird, because shes taller. And I jokingly teased her, about it. and a little part of me was because I was kinda mad she was going out with my x, but I don't have feelings for him. ANyways, she was getting mad, and I didn't know, so she talked about me behind my back to her other friend that doesn't go to our school. Then her other friend was online one day, and I said hey, then she started going off on me. I was offended, and unsure of what I should do NOW.. What should I do??

I would tell your friend your sorry and you didnt know it was hurting her feelings, let her know that it just kind of upset you that she was dating your ex, but you have nothing against her and your over it. Remember to let her share her feelings and to listen to them! Try not to say anything that makes her feel like she has to defend herself so she dosn't get mad easily (from expierience) Try to be honest and just let her know how you feel

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OK well, I have two friends. Recently one of my friends has been hanging out with another group who me and my other friend dont like. Well, My friend who is hanging out with the other group always acts like nothing is wrong, but it feels like she is drifting farther and farther away out of the friendship the three of us have. I want to ask here not to hang out with this other group. But how, and how can i do it w/o hurting her feelings? Well I'm looking forward to advice! Thanx in advanced.

That has happened to me before, and its tough. My friend was understanding, so it helped. But what i did, is i pulled her aside one day and i told her how i feel. I said that i feel like our friendship is falling apart and i really dont like that, and im telling you this because your friendship means a lot to me. Then let her speak her mind. Why do you not like her hanging out with the other "group"? If its because they dont have a very good reputation tell her that... tell her that your afaraid it might hurt her. But if your jelous then you could tell her that too.

Hope it helps! I helped for me! If yall are good friends it will mean something to her.

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Okay my friend is kind of lets say gothic... everyone picks on him at school and sometimes they get down right cruel. He has rocks, footballs, popcans(full),anything they can find thrown at him. He is also now afraid the go to school because of everything that goes on. Well anyways I was talking to him tonight and he told me that he almost lit a house on fire and he is thinking about homicide.. to the kids that are mean to him.. should I tell someone so no one is hurt... but then wouldn't he get mad at me.. I dont want him to get sent away cuz all his mom has left is him.. but wouldnt it be wrong not to tell anyone and have someone get killed.. plz help and fast before he does anything stupid.. thanks

Whenever you see someone make fun of him, stand up for him. Tell people about him, and how cool he is and how they should really get to know him. Make sure you let him know that killing himself is not going to help anything. Tell him how much he means to you!

You could also tell him to "kill them with kindess." Most people make fun of others b/c they enjoy seeing them hurt peoples feelings. But if he is nice to them (even thought it is tough) It will eat at the ones making fun of him.. b/c they expect them to hurt his feelings, and it will make them confused when it dosn't upset him.

Hope it helps!!

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