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I don't know what to do!!!
My friend Lo is really bitchy. She bitch about us in MSN and we're nice to her. She just thinks we ignore her a lot but she was just the one who doesn't talk and never tries. Lately it's getting worse and worse and this has been going on for about 1 month now. She's happy, she's sad. She spends most of her days crying and sobbing OOOH MY LIFE SUCKS! But she was the one who never tries. After a few weeks of this we were getting tired. Tired of her mood swings and bitching. Tired of her nosiness and jjjjjjjust wanted her to leave but she stuck to us. Now everyday I have to face her complaining and being a bitch to me.
Just now, she said on MSN that she wants to start doing drugs which really caught my eye, because it'll ruin her life. I know I hate her but i hate to see her ruin her life because of something so SMALL.
She wants us to be friends again but that is impossible. Like if someone liked her and was her friend I would easily stop being friends with her but the problem is now NO ONE likes her. In my class NO ONE likes her. If we really did give her up then who knows what she might do when she's gotten to the point where she wants to take drugs and talked about dying?!?
BEING FRIENDS AGAIN IS IMPOSSIBLE BUT THAT"S THE ONLY THING THAT WILL MAKE HER FEEL GOOD ABOUT HERSELF AGAIN, but is there another way? She thinks I don't care about her feelings! And now she doesn't even know what her brain is thinking about! How did such a small thing become so big? I know part of the reason is because she is a drama queen but I know it's not entirely her fault, but i just really can't be friends with her anymore.
HELP! WHAT SHOULD I DO?! (link)
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I understand you don't want to be her friend again, but she really needs a real friend right now, the least you can do is try. Being friends again with her is not impossible, anything is possible. I know it's probably crazier and more messed up than I think it is, but I had a similar situation, so I understand your point. What you need to do is talk to her and ask her why she's acting this way. You need to let her know that if there's anything she's bottling up and keeping a secret that she could tell you. I wouldn't be surprised if there are some issues going on in her private life. You need to let her know that whatever the problem really is, keeping it inside isn't going to do her any justice. You need to try a little harder, no offense at all but it's selfish to just sit there & say there's no way we can be friends anymore but she's driving me crazy. And if and once the thing about doing drugs or wanting to die seems to get out of hand, you need to go talk to an adult because she needs professional help. If it's already gotten out of hand, I suggest you do that ASAP.
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Okay, my friend, Linda, got into a argument with my other friend, Stacy, and made Stacy cry. In Linda's defence, though, Stacy hadn't been being such a great friend.
Anyway, even though Linda made Stacy cry, she really does not care. She was just able to turn her back so easily. She has gotten into fights like this before, where she hurts the other person, and really dosn't care.
Then, it's like other people can say mean things to her and insult her, and she can just ignore it like its not there and dosn't care.
A lot of the time its like she only has two emotions, happy and mad. I've seen her cry, but it's like, shes so mad shes crying. She can get pretty agrsive when shes mad too. Like she'll scream and curse and even punched walls.
She is a really good friend and is really funny and jokes a lot, but she dosn't seem to care about a lot of things. She cares a lot about her family and would do anything for them. But everything else its like, she can just leave it.
Once none of her friends spoke to her a day (like, completly ignored them), and she was completly unfazed. And every now and then she'll fail a test (she normally gets 90's and works hard for them) and she acts like its nothing.
Its also like, shes the one girl I know who dosn't like hugs from people outside her family. When someone hugs her, even if its her friend, she'll give them a "what are you doing?" look. There's only very rare times when she dosn't do that.
She also wears manily black and black iliener and sometiems black eye shadow.
Is this normal? (link)
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Girls can definitely be like that, and it's common around age 13. Stacy might act like she doesn't care about anything because she's holding back a lot. She may not be comfortable with opening up. She could be hiding those feelings behind the way she dresses and the way she seems to act tough. The way she acts when she gets into arguments may be her way of venting and letting out her emotions. Also you don't know what's going on in her life, she can be going through things that may not be anyone else's business. And with the hugging, it's understandable that she's uncomfortable with it. Some people aren't touchy feely. Anyway I would keep all of these possibilities in mind, but don't accuse her of any of them.
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so i have this friend 'jane'
&&her mom does && does && does for her.
she does everythinq she says.
i mean i quess you could call her mom a sort of 'push over?'
then my friend [13years old) starts screaminq && pouts.
im like wtf dude?
i tell her to chill out ; butt she acts like thats okay for a thirteen year old qirl to do.
its almost like when you see a qirl in a movie yell at her mom.
she trys that butt she looks ridiculous.
what do i tell her so she can stop makinq a complete fool of her ; her mom ; && me in public? (link)
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I think you should confront her alone. Try to describe or even reenact the way she acts, if she sees or is able to visualize this childish behavior in some form it might give her a wake up call. Tell her that she's not treating her mom fairly and shes being very ungrateful, and acting like it's ok for a 13 year old to do that is very excusatory, she can change if she wants to.
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