Hi everyone! I'm andi...better known as sparkle26. im a female in my teens. here's some things about me...i love music...especially rock n roll and i play guitar. i'm also an artist-in-training. ive been painting at an art studio since i was 4 or 5.i'm also a runner. my philosophy is to always look at life at a bright, lively perspective. feel free to ask me a question any time!
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I'm a freshman this year and I got really close with this senior. I thought we were really good friends, but all of a sudden, he stopped talking to me. I was hopeful, thinking that he was a little busy, and he would just talk to me when he had time. But it turned into months and for awhile, I blamed it all of me until I found out he did the same thing to one of my friends. Then, I realized that he's a player and is so self absorbed with himself that he can't have a true relationship with anybody. So now, we haven't talked in....about 5-7 months. And I'm really in pain. I know that there was nothing I could have done about our friendship, but I still feel like crap when I think about him. Every time I see him, it hurts. And I want nothing more than to get over him. Part of me has, but I feel like I'm holding on to it. I just don't know what to do. (link)
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have confidence. it's obviously not your fault he stopped talking t you. why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is so self-centered? no guy is ever better than you. he only wants attention...don't fall for someone who doesn't treat you the right way. there are plenty of fish in the sea. you have plenty of time in high school to find someone who truly cares about you. don't lose your dignity over him. don't doubt yourself. try the best you can to distract yourself from him.don't worry if you feel like you can't get over him. you will. you just have to find the right guy. but don't try to force it, just give it some time. he will come to you in good time.
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Hey there (apologies for the length!)
Hm I don't even know where to start with all of this this..
Okay so basically 7 months ago the night of my 18th birthday I went out with a bunch of my friends to celebrate.(18 is the legal age here) anyway my drink got spiked pretty bad. I suffered a major reaction and doctors say it caused a chemical imbalance in my brain. Basically I totally tripped out I was hallucinating and became super paranoid around people. My mood went from completely up to completely down. I essentially suffered a psychotic break down. All of this couldn't have happened at a worse time as a few days after my birthday I was to receive my exam results and head off to college. I was placed on medication to reverse the effects. Anyway the day I received my results I was still pretty out of it. I did exceptionally well but missed out on my dream course by one grade in a particular subject. So I decided not to go to college this year (given everything that happened I wasn't in a fit state) and to re apply for a similar course next year.
All of my friends got what they wanted and headed off. so basically I'm feeling completely left behind. All of my friends have moved away and begun new exciting lives. We all still keep in contact and they have been extremely supportive over what happened to me but I'm still sad all the time. It kills me hearing about all their stories when they are home at weekends or when we have get togethers. Looking at their photos on facebook I just get pangs of jealousy seeing them with their new friends and I don't want to feel that way. I used to be such an outgoing vibrant girl ready to take on anything excited for college etc. But now I feel like i've been replaced with this shy girl. I get nervous before meeting up with my friends because I worry I won't have anything to talk to them about even though most of the time it goes fine. They even threw me a surprise party to celebrate me coming off the medication a few weeks ago. I just feel like my life was turned upside down. I was soo excited about college. I start next September but now instead of being excited I'm terrified. I don't feel as confident as I used to and I'm so scared I won't make any friends. I also fear I Won't be able for the course work. I feel nervous all the time. I worry i'l never be able to accomplish anything. I worry about silly little things that shouldn't be a big deal but for me they now suddenly are. One friend in particular keeps asking me to visit her in college but I keep putting it off because Im actually scared of traveling on my own! something I used to do all the time!
I used to go out and party all the time and now I hardly ever. The only thing that keeps me going is my boyfriend who has been so amazing to me. I'm just feeling lost. I don't know how to break free from all this and get back to how I used to be?
I suddenly compare myself to people all the time. The medication made me gain weight not a lot but a little to make me feel even worse about myself. Ive come a long way since all this happened but I'm still not there yet. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
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don't let one mistake define your life. you have alot to live for. when was the last time you ran out in the sunshine and took in the beauty of what it is to be happy? imagine yourself at a time when you were happy. you are still the same girl. in order to prepare yourself for college next year, try to explore your surroundings and see the world in a whole new light. maybe there was a reason you made that mistake. when i feel like i'm not myself, turn up the radio and list all my favorite things. i go outside to knock some light back into me. be confident. you can get through this. the bad things in life we get past make us stronger people. don't give up on yourself. in the words of the Beatles, the world is at your command.
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I have an issue. One of my close friends who I've known for many years isn't being very...smart, per say. She hurts me and our other friends mentally and physically, and she makes terrible choices on purpose. She's refused to let our other friends and myself help correct her bad behavior and downhill lifestyle for over a year. I kept persisting, but now I think I'm wasting my time if I keep trying. Should I try to keep helping or leave her on her own? (link)
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i was in a similar situation. my best friend, who i had known since kindergarten, started changing for the worst about 2 years ago. she started intentionally making me feel bad and lower my self esteem. every time i tried to talk to her, she would start laughing and making a joke about what i was telling her. if your friend no longer makes you feel good about yourself and puts you down ask yourself this...is she really your friend? do she really care about you? don't blame her horrible behavior on yourself. you're doing nothing wrong. she has to be responsible for her own actions. a friend, especially a best friend, should always be there for you through the good and the bad, support you, and make you feel good about yourself. it is up to her to change her ways. if she doesn't, its her loss. get another friend who actually cares about you. if she really cares about your friendship, she will come to you and apologize. my friend never realized her mistakes. she continued being the person she turned in to. i had to move on, because i didn't need a "friend" who brought me down. i found friends who cared. surround people yourself with people who care about you. IT'S NOT your fault. some people unfortunately change for the worst.
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Me and my best friend were really close. But one day, she started hanging out with a girl I didn't like(She knows I don't like her). And the other day, the girl started talking crap to me, and she just agreed to everything. Anyways, she started hanging out with her, and I can't stand it. What do I do? I don't want to tell her I don't like the girl or ask to hang out.. Help quickly please! (link)
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Be honest with her. tell her that you miss her. if you were really close, most likely you'll forgive eachother and move on. best friends have their ups and downs and sometimes what they get through together makes them closer. if she doesnt agree to forget about it, most likely she's not your true friend.
good luck:)
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There's all these things saying that everyone has a best friend and what not but I've never felt that comfort in my life, ever. I've had friends.. but I never was close with them enough that I'd truly be able to call them best friends, you know? I was very close with 3 or 4 people in 4th grade but so far that's the high in my lifetime friendships and I'm 17 now. It seems like most people I consider "friends" are just "school friends". So I don't feel like I can depend on people, cause they will let you down. All those fun friend experiences I've rarely had. I haven't been invited to a birthday party in years, I've never been invited to a sleepover, I haven't hung out at a friend's house in more than a year, etc. I don't know what I'm doing wrong but then it just hurts to go on sites like Facebook where everyone seems to be having so much fun with their friends. I mean I don't seek popularity or anything but I'd just like at least 1or 2 friends where I could feel totally comfortable with them and we'd totally gel and could hang out and almost be like sisters. But for now those sorts of relationships seem like a dream.. and its just very frusterating. Like what am I doing wrong? Even people I'd consider mean have a lot more friends than I do. With a lot of people I feel like they have ulterior motives.. like maybe they're embarassed by me or something.. I just pick up on when people are genuine to me or not. It's just hard to be a confident person when I don't even have anyone to text everyday and share problems with, you know and help each other. My sister and I are too different.. we've always been that way. It just makes me feel alone. Does it get better at college? I feel like I'm socially awkward with certain things since i haven't really experienced it with friends.. and self conscious over a few things too without friends to reassure me. like its always my fear in school when we have to partner up or do group work cause often I dont have a partner. its even harder in my new school (I moved here last year) and I feel even more alone and even though I prefer working by myself when everyone else is talking and laughing and I'm by myself working.. it just makes me feel sad and I don't like it. ughhh what is wrong with me. im a caring friend and what not.. maybe its because I'm not really a mainstream sort of person? I don't knowwwwwww how to fix this (link)
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I would definitely branch out more and be yourself around people you want to be friends with. Keep in touch more, set things up to go shopping or go to the mall. Some people dont want to hang out with you, because maybe they think you dont want to if you dont feel comftorable around them.I hope this helps! rat me if youd like:)
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I just graduated high school and i lost ll my "friends." now all the friends i have live 4000 miles away. i feel alone alot and it puts me in depressions. What should i do. (link)
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Try to make new friends that are close to you, but still keep in touch with ur old friends. Get to know them, hang out, don't be depressed. Explore new things that are good for you, exercize, meet new people, get out of your comfort zone. I hope this helps!Rate me if youd like!:)
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ok so what i want to know is that should a dump a bff because i help her do anything i get here friends and then she said that her and my boyfriend were dating behind my back so should i drop both of them or who? and the problem is that my boyfriend is still realy cute and loving even though i told him i knew. what should i do? pls help me? sorry if its the rong category and not good speller. :-) (link)
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I would drop your bff. It doesn't seem like she supports you or understands you in anyway. Thats like the bff I had. She always wanted me to feel jeolous and was so sensative. I found new people to hang out with, and my life has been so much better. Don't let people mistreat you. If you can find 2 to 3 huge reasons or more why you shouldnt be bffs with her anymore, chances are you should find a new bff. With the whole bf thing, shes probably jeolous and wants to end the relationship between you and him. In case I am incorrect, ask your bf, get the full scoop. I hope this helps! Good Luck! Rate me if youd like:)
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Ok so I was at work and I was texting my friend. We were supposed to hang out after work. And right before my shift she's like can you give me a ride home I don't live that far. I said I can't. (because I'm saving up for money on a new car that I HAVE to buy). And she's like why not. I'm like because I can't drive a lot only the places I have to go to if you want a ride home you need to give me at least 5 dollers on gas. She said "No your a cheap girl your my friend you should give me a ride home" and I got really hurt by that I said fine we won't hang out. And she still wanted to hang out with me. I didnt want to since she called me a cheap girl. But I dont give free rides. Gas is really expensive. So we didn't hang out. Then she texts me and acts like nothing happened. Do you think shes using me? Do you thnk I should not be friends with her? I'm not a cheap girl , and I dont deserve to be treated like that. My best friend always pays me for gas money because I take her everywhere.
Should I stop being her friend? (link)
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If she treats you like that and bullies you on a weekly basis, you shouldnt be her friend. If that was one time that she just slipped, give her one more chance. She shouldnt of called you that. She seems like shes not sympathetic at all. Dont tolerate it if she calls you that. She probably thinks your so sweet youll forgive her every time she does something wrong, and theres no reason to apoligize, and if she doesnt bring it up youll forget about it. If you already have friends that understand sticky situations, you dont need a bully to make you feel bad about yourself. Ive had friends like that, it actually seems we would have alot in common..I had a friend who did that, one day she would hate me the next we would be going on a ski trip and she wouldnt even apoligize! As soon as we got back from the ski trip..she went back to being mean to me. I hope this helps!Rate me if ud like!:)
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