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"some say that
time changes everything
best friends can
become strangers
but i don't want that
no, not for you
if you just stay with me,
we can make it through
so here we are again
the same old argument
and now i'm wondering
if things'll ever change
all the things we talk about
you know they stay on my mind
don't say a word
i know you feel the same
just give me a sign
say anything"


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ive been friends with this girl since 1st grade, on and off (little elementry school fites seperated us`during elem. school) and 5th grade everyone hated her, even my new best friend hated her too, and i almost went against her but didnt. Ive stuck by her side for the longest time, but then 6th grade came and she became freinds with everyone, and she hung out with everyone else more and more, and me less and less.

I felt betrayed, like 'what am i not good enough'. we still hung out but not alot. Then 7th grade came, and we were in differant clusters (other schools mite use teams, groups,...) and she made friends with so many differant types of people, most hated eachother. from the preppiest happiest girls, to the bitchiest wanna bees, to the 'punks' of 7th grade. and so she hung out with me even more less than last year.

We went on a summer vaca together and i thought things would be differant, or well thats what she said.

Then 8th grade came and she narrowed down her friends, and i was 'one of them' but i didnt really consider myself it. We attempted to become best freinds again like 7 times, I would send her random long notes throughout the year saying, things have gone bad again, we'd hang out, then i wouldnt speak to her for like 3-5 weeks...then id send a new note.

now 9th grade has come,in the begin, of the year, we didnt talk much but she would atleast say Hi. and talk to me alittle. then she asked me if i wanted to come over and we went through our busy sceduales (she always says shes busy) and i stayed after school with her, and she hung out with like other people and basically ignored her, then at her house we watched some boring movie, and i fell asleep. then i havent talked to her for like.....4 months. then i found out 3 weeks ago that she is always high and smokes pot, and that she isnt usually really busy, but is hanging out with potheads. geting high.

i dont know what i should. she hasnt been a good frend since elementry school, but when i needed her desperatly, she was usually there....idk.

its long but you can just skim it if you want.

Okay girl, well it sounds like you've always been a true friend and she hasn't been. Not spending as much time with you because she has 'new friends' isn't acceptable. She has to realize that if you guys are going to stay friends, she'll have to change her ways. You obviously value the friendship, because you've been trying for years to get it back to how it used to be. I say, ditch her for awhile. Hang out with other friends, keep yourself occupied. I promise you won't think about her as much, AND you'll have new friends who you can talk to when you need them. Yeah, maybe she's been there when you needed her MOST, but think of all the times she hasn't. She ditched you for other people, and now she's smoking? Wtf. I'd really say just all out quit trying to be friends with her, and find some new, better ones, that will respect you. If you keep wanting to try to be her friend, then just wait it out. Hopefully she'll come to her senses.

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What does exactly"attached" to a friend mean?

It basically means being dependent on someone, always wanting to see them/talk to them, clingy, etc. It could also mean you're just good friends with someone, like that saying, "attached at the hip", could just mean you're best friends.

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how do you know if your friend is attached to you? and do you think being attached with your friend is bad or good and why?

Hey, it's basically when they call all the time, want to hang out all the time, get jealous/mad if you spend time with any of your other friends. It's someone really clingy. It can be bad, for example, if someone was really clingy towards you and you DIDN'T like it, it could get annoying real fast. You'd end up not wanting to see them at all, and they'd probably end up being more clingy. (Wondering why you don't want to talk to them and see them, etc.) I guess it can be a good thing as well, like 2 best friends. If you both are really clingy towards eachother, I guess you're both fine with it. But usually after people spend too much time together, they eventually get annoyed and want their space.

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