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i dont know why,but i cant make a conversation,i cant be funny,i dont know why no one wants to be my friend. im really self concious(sp?) how do i become wild,fun and outgoing? and funny? like i cant hold a convo. i have like no friends here for some reason. whats going on?i find myself boring,and blah,i dont like it! thanks for any help!

Well, firstly, i dont think not being able to hold a decent conversation, not being funny or anything like that really matters. You should be whatever you want to be and not to change yourself just because you may want friends etc.

Secondly, i used to be alot like you, couldnt hold a coversation, wasnt funny, didnt know what to say to people if it is just me and them etc. Well id love to say there was some magical way to fix all this and you can become very outgoing, but you cant. The way i changed (and not because i wanted more friends - it just happened) was through experiance. I went through lots of times were i would be on the phone or with somebody in person and it would just be dead silence. But you will go through some akward times but trust me after you have had some experiance it can only get better. You start being more confident, and thinking of things to say, even if its just "How are you?".

I dont think you should worry if you dont have friends, true friends will come about and like you for who you are and not what other people want you to be like.

Hope ive helped..
Let me know if you need anything else..
Sanj

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hi sanj, i need advice again. im still abit confused with all this. i asked for advice before aswell. Im the 15 year old girl who thinks she started falling for her good friend. i have really wanted to tell this boy how i feel, but i just dont know how to. I also have a feeling that he likes someone else, so im kinda scared to tell him now, because then, if he likes someone, that obviously means he doesnt like me. i know that i may regret not telling him, but also, im scared to tell him. i know u might not exactly be the right person to ask, seeing as your a guy, but u can still kinda help me, from a guys point of view....
o and thank you for your advice before. it kinda helped.

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I still think you should tell him, it is best for your relationship..being honest...

You just have to talk to him, sit him down and tell him, even if he does like this girl, its all about being honest in a friendship.

Ronan Keating - If Tomorrow Never Comes
^^that song you might want to download..one of my favourites...whenever i am going to tell a girl i like her i gotta listen 2 that...it rules! :)

Dont be scared to tell him, if he is the friend you think he is he will be ok with it and things will be fine.

Sanj

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hi sanj, i have read your other answers and your advice seems to be very good. I am a girl and im 15 years old. Recently, i think that i have started falling for one of my good friends. i dont want to, but i just have. its kind of annoying aswell seeing as we have been out once before and that did not work. sometimes to me, it seems as though he is flirting but im not sure. how can i tell if he likes me, or im just reading the wrong signals? please answer me back :)

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hmm tricky situation really...as like with every other relationship/friendship sort of thing, yeah you can always try and read a persons signals to see how they are feeling. But no matter what there is always the slight chance that you are wrong. You said you two have been out once before but it didn't work out, so i am going to take a wild guess and say you two are pretty close if you got through all that. I can give you little tips n stuff..but in this case i would advise you to tell him..if he hasnt made any obvious signs or moves to tell you he likes you then you should be able to tell him..

Being close friends with someone is all abouit honesty, and two good friends should be able to tell eachother anything, not matter how good or bad it is. Besides, if things turn out badly in other words if he never speaks to you, you will know that your friendship didnt mean much from the start, but if things go on as per usual, you will know you and him have something strong going on..and well you know what they say..love always starts from a friendship...

Sometimes even just going straight in there and go to kiss them will tell you if they feel the same, although it is usually alot better if the boy does that so i wouldnt strongly advise it..

Dont get any false ideas from flirting..saying from experiance..some people just naturally flirt with everyone and not just with the person they fancy. So yeh dont think he is flirting with me so he must like me.

So yeah i think the best way is to take a risk and talk to him abou how you feel n all...if you dont take any risks in life you wont get nowhere..trust me.. i know what your thinkin you dont want to risk it because you dont want to loose him as a mate etc etc...but its the only way to know for sure what he is feeling for you

hope i helped :)...lemme know if you need anything else..

Sanj

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