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Q: Ok... I'm 16 and a chick. Well my high school is really cool. There aren't that many cliques... except for one. The girls are all blonds, stick figures, and worry about every little thing. I'm friend with one of them. She's really awesome, I used to be friends with the rest of them to. Well like whenever I talk to my friend all the girls at the "table" just like totally give me the eye. Then there's the original "Queen Bee". I really just want to show them that they shouldn't judge on what people wear and stuff like that. Basically, I don't know how to make them like me. If one of them does, shouldn't the others?

Don't try to get someone to like you. That's not being true to yourself. Im sure your an awsome girl and if they dont like you then it's there loss!! But don't change who you are just to fit in. That gets you no where in life.

Q: what do you do when your best freind almost always has her bf over when you are around and yet wont do anythign with you and your man? and she almost always has him come over when you are over, knowing that you arent too fond of him, but you are giving him a chance for her sake. but everytime i mention hanging out the four of us, she says no, i gotta do this or that and she wont even hang out, but she even brings him over to my house and thigns like that. what am i supposed to do?

Tell her that you dont like it. And if she continues to do it, do whatever the hell you want. Dont let her control u!

Q: Hi i'm in 8th grade and am decideding if my friend is a good friend or not. So i have this friend whos bf broke up w/her a long time ago and shes still not over him, she says she is but she isn't and we all know it and she just gets mad when we bring it up. And she also gets really mad if i hang out with anyone but her, i think its dumb she has other friends y can't i, and she tells people things about me that aren't true, like she told a boy i liked him when i clearly did not. She lies all the time and i jus don't know what to do.

Are you sure she actually lies all the time? And that she is really saying stuff about you? Talk to her about it. Seriously, that is not good. Im sure she doesn't get mad when you hang out with other people, maybe jelous. Or maybe she feel neglected, like are u telling her that you will hang out with her, but end up hanging out with someone else? And are you not telling her everything. People get really upset when that happens. Just talk to her about it tho!

Q: speaking of american pie there use to be kid you called stifler at school who was that again????

Zach.. lol

Q: 15 female

i got my 1st GOOD hicky from my best friend (which is a girl) but we are really close...we were on the way to someones house w/ her and her boyfriend and she was showing me the hickys' that her boyfriend gave her and i was like hey i want a hicky!! and she gave me one...is that wrong for ur best friend to give u a hicky!!??

*I AM NO BI!*

i think it's totally natural to experience different things.. everyone has their own opinions tho..

Q: Hey, i have a problem. I have this friend and she has a Boy Friend i really want to spend more time with her but she always is talking about him or with him. I HATE IT. i really hope you can help me with this problem, thanks.
Amy =(

Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you feel she is putting him before you and she shouldn't be doing that. Its chicks before dicks. If that doesn't work she wasnt truely a good friend

Q: what if I have a friend that I care about soo much but i know she is hurting herself by smoking weed and doing other drug. but she gets all pissed and says its none of my buesness when I tell ehr to stop. what should i do keep trying or let her do what she wants to do
Signed,
lost and confused
15/f

Try talking to her again. If that still doesn't work I would tell an adult like a school consuler, or a teach or a parent or something. Your friend might get really mad at you, but just think about how you could save your friend. Your friend will thank you in the future, I am sure.

Q: hey there is this gurl that i like alot but she seems to like every other guy but me and that is ok i guess but i mean i like her so much that i can't stand how much she like every other guy in the skool but me i can't stop thinkin bout her and i think she is perfect in every way but i can do ne thing bout it i can't seem to make her realize how i feeli have kno this gurl for a long time but i can't seem to tell her a get her to realize how truely i feel bout her wut do u think that i should do ?

Tell her how you feel. If you dont let people know how you feel... how will they ever know?

Q: hey i gotta problem u see my friend is alwayz choosing her boyfriend over me wat do i do!!?? do i tell her do i tell him??? uh......help me!!!!
thanx~
~*RiSs*~

I would let her know how you feel. And if nothing changes, then she wasnt really that great of a friend in the first place.

Q: I have a friend named Chris Roberts, and I think he is gay. I don't have a problem with homosexuality. But he got a hand job from his ex-girlfriend and he sayed and I quote, "Oh Jimmy!" I am worried about him and don't know what to do, or what kind of help he needs. I would think pussy might change him around but he just keeps mention other men. What should I do, I am clueless. Please help me lady. Thank you.

Mokes

I would never question someones sexuality until you know for sure. Accidents happen. We are teenages, we have a few drinks here and there. And also I would appreciate if you wouldn't use last names in my advice column and if you would not sign your name.

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