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Q: I have start school again on Wednesday, and all the girls in my grade are starting to wear makeup and jewelry, but I am more or the sporty kind, What should I do

Well if you want to where make up then go ahead or you can hold on to your independence as a sporty type. I mean, no one is forcing you to where makeup. Although, if you really feel out of it, just add a little bit of eyeliner and it will TOTALLY make a difference and excentuate your eyes and people will notice. That way, you can be wearing makeup but you don't have to change into a girly girl just because everyone else is.
Be your own person :)

Q: alright well i have these two friends, Kelly and Jamie. they used to like hate each other last year. now they have all of their classes togehter and are like attached at the hip. Kelly has been my best friend for a long time. i met Jamie last year. well Kelly is the kind of person that when she finds a new buddy..she forgets about all her other friends. well kelly ans jamie have been hanging out alot lately and kelly has forgetten all about me. it doesnt help that we have only 1 class together. i get jealous really easily too. ive tried talking to kelly but she doesnt take me seriously. i say to her, "kelly im serious" and she goes "i know" with a smile on her face. im really starting to get pissed here. i dont know a way i can talk to kelly and make her take me seriously and not get mad at me. me and jamie hang out alot still so it isnt her fault. mostly kelly. i dont want to tell jamie to lay off kelly cuz then shell tell kelly and then kelly will get mad at me and everything will be bad. im really getting very mad and jealous. i dont know how i can get things back to the way they used to be. i liked it better when kelly and jamie hated each other.

please help me i want my friend back!!

Hm, well a way to talk to kelly would be when you guys maybe have a silent moment or when your doing homework or something because if it's after a joke then kelly may not be braced for a serious convo. Let her no that you don't mind that she has new friends but not to forget you because your still her friend too. If kelly still won't be serious say "Ya know what? This friendship won't work if we can't have one serious talk together." I'm pretty sure you will get her attention if you let her know you're not fooling around. Mention that maybe you guys can hang out together so then you're not left out and it will remind kelly of why you guys were best friends.

Q: i am 17 years old, and is a female. i've been best friends with a girl for 6 years. she always been the "diva" in our friendship,and what i mean by that is that she takes all of my self esteem when she tells me that i can never get good grades or be as cute as her .even though she plays around like that it hurts. recently i've borrowed 35 dollars from her because she wanted me to go somewhere with her, she told me that i had to pay her back on june 2. since i didn't have a job and my mom couldn/t afford to give her the money, i couldn't tell her that i was poor because then she would brag about it and make fun of me and even tell my other fiends. so i hesitated to give her the money. i would tell her lies like i forgot or iam babysitting to get it. and when she finally had enough she totally blew up on me over myspace saying that i am acting funny and i need to give her her money. 2 months later i gave her the 35 dollars.my question is what do i when i approach her at school in sept because i don't know how to handle this situation and what would you say or do?

Best friends, huh? Well personally I don't think she's acting to much like a best friend to you. And being the "diva" of the friendship does NOT give her a right to be a bitch (pardon the language.) If this girl truly was your BFF you wouldn't have to worry about her spreading you secrets, but honestly, i would be worried if i were you too. Also, teasing you isn't the most friendliest thing and people can only take jokes so far 'til they start to get personal and hurt. So apparently your not the richest person in the world? I have the same problem, and my BFF is LOADED with money. But I know that I'm not afraid to say that I can't afford everything she can. But if you are afraid to say that, then maybe this girl isn't as best of a freind as you think. But if you trust in her have a serious sit down and be totally straight forward, you don't want her to misinterpret anything. What you say is your decision.
You've got a voice, use it

Q: hi,14/mif it helps. well yesterday my friend accidently told me that she liked this guy that she used to go out with. the thing is, he treated her really bad, as in cheating, and makin her cry. and after that i never really liked him much, until a lesson we were made to work together. and we were kind of talking and then a couple days later(yesterday) she tells me that she likes him again. the thing is, im just so frustrated about the fact that she still likes him after how he treated her. Im really angry at her, even though i know she cant help her feeling. what do i do?

You should definatly talk to your freind and remind her that this guy is no good and shes better then him. Maybe take her out with some of your friends and maybe switch her interest to someone better.

Q: First of all... my friend broke up with her ex a few months ago. He was devastated, and they never got back together. She likes someone else now.
Well, I liked her ex for a little while, but it was just a little crush, and it faded away (I told her I liked him, and then I told her that I didn't like him anymore).
A few days after I told her I didn't like him anymore, she confessed to me that she would be really jealous if he went out with anyone, since she still kinda has feelings for him. But, she likes someone else (who likes her back) and said that she wasn't going to go out with her ex again.
But now.. I like her ex again. He's so perfect. It's more than just a little crush. But she doesn't know that I like him again. I know I should talk to her about it, but how do I do that? What should I do? Thanks!

Oh...this is a interesting problem. Well although your best friend would be jealous if he dated anyone else, she DID dump him and he isn't hers to protect. You should definatly talk to her and just tell her that you understand how she would still be jealous over his future girlfriends, but he isn't hers and she has moved on and he's allowed to also. Also, if she is really your friend she will get over it if you like her ex. Remind her also he is her EX BOYFRIEND!!!! And she should accept that you like him and if she doesn't, explain that your not doing this to piss her off, it's just a feeling that you got and you can't control whether you like someone or not. She should understand since she obviously still has feelings for him too.

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Hey I'm Emma and I'm 13 years old. I live in Massachusetts. I love acting and modeling and hope to do one or both of those things for a living. I have a best friend, Hannii, who is seriously like a sister to me. I love giving advice because it just makes me feel better that i'm helping other people out.