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My friend and I got into this argument last week in which we realized we both thought the other a bad friend and we had been kind of been unknowingly avoiding each other because one thought the other would be a bitch and all of that fun stuff. Typical female passive aggressive bullshit. We talked it out and made up. Then I invited her to see this concert with me of one of her favorite bands, since I had some free tickets.

Today we were sitting in English and she starts ranting and raving about how shes going to a really good place to eat right after class gets out. We both don't have any class after English. I kind of hint that I want to go because it's my favorite place but I just assumed it was a one on one thing with another friend so I didn't come on too strong. 10 minutes later she brings it up again and says to our other friend, Hey you should come with me! I'll sneak you out... just ditch the rest of the day! (she doesn't get out early like us).

So let's recap. I just saved her 30 or 40 bucks by taking her to this show with me tomorrow, plus I'm going to be giving her a ride, and she knows I had nothing better to do and could have gone to lunch with her, and yet she sits there and begs this other girl to go, and she said last week that *I* was the bad friend.

I assume I should confront her about this before the show so I don't have to spend the whole time with her being pissed off... but I just wanted to double check I was being reasonable and maybe get some pointers on how to go about starting this.

if you dont think talking to her before the show will cause any problems during the show.. then i would have a talk with her before.. just say basacally exactly what you said above..tell her you felt really left out by her inviting the other girl instead of you..

if you think that talking to her before will ruin the show for you guys.. then maybe after the show talk to her about..
hope it works out.
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manda

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When i was in 5th grade this kid had a crush on me and i had a crush on him, we never went out because we had boyfriend and girlfriends but we both knew we liked eachother.5th grade seems like we were to young but i remember this.but 5th grade he moved, and i remeber the day he moved he wrote me a note and told me hed never forget me and he wanted to keep in touch, we never talked after that day he moved.and now im in 10th grade and the other day i looked his number up in the phone book and called every person with his last name.i didnt get a hold of him then today he called me and it was weird he said ever since the day he left 5th grade he thought about me.but the problem is i have a bf who i really like and were doing good.but i really want to see him.and were supposed to meet at the mall tomarrow.and im not sure if i should go? should i? he lives right by me. and i miss him. thanks

well if you guys are "just friends" then i think you should go. tell him about your boyfriend..and i think things would go fine. hope it works out.
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manda

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omg. my best friend in the world is being a slut. i mena i love the chick to death but her ex-boyfriend who used her then broke up with her to have "fun" over the break are doing any SEXUAL THING U CAN THING OF. theyve tried haveing sex 3 times but dude. the guy doesnt even like her and isnt planning on even asking her out. and shes inlove with him. hes such a man whore and i told her that she can pick up desises and stuff like that but she acts like she didnt even do anything wrong. i dont know how to tell her to stop without coming off as a controlling freak you know. I LOVE HER TO DEATH but i dont want to yell at her and make it to where she cant tell me stuff anymore. PLEASE HELP! what do i do.
ps. SHES TWELVE.

whoa 12.. hmm i was expecting a lot older..but you can try having a talk with her saying like.. (you dont want to sound like a control freak, like you said) just say i dont want to be like controlling or anything.. but i love you to death.. and i dont want anything to happen to you..and tell her how she is only 12 and thats way to young for sex. wayyyy to young. hopefully she'll listen to you. good luck with the situation..
hope i helped
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manda

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me and this one girl have been best friends forever.. and she got into a huge fight with my other best friend about 3 months ago.. now i hear shit from the both of them about the other ALL THE TIME and one of them is mad at me because they say that i hang out with the other one too much.. but i dont! i just try to make everyone happy!.. what should i do?

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hopeless

just tell them how you feel about it. say how you dont like being stuck in the middle of their fighting, and your friends with both of them.. if one of them start talking to you about the other just say im friends with her please dont talk about her to me. they might get a little mad at first.. but they will soon realize they shouldnt be..
hope i helped
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manda

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