14/F Sorry this might be a little long.
So there's this girl who's been at our school for awhile now maybe a month or two let's call her L... there's been two new girls after her, so she's not really the new girl anymore... So my friend, let's call her E, has been friends with her for awhile (L was at a school with a bunch of people from our school, so it's not like she doesn't know ANYONE), so she hangs out with us.
I kind of liked L at first, but now she's getting on my and my other friends nerves. She's sort of clingy to us, and she kind of doesn't shut up. She talks about weird things, like how she talks to ghosts and how much she loves her little brother and how much she loves bologna...etc.
Now, I'm not a mean person at all. I'm always really nice to her and I talk to her and stuff, but she seems to ignore me a lot, and she doesn't even know my name still. And no, I'm not exaggerating that, she really doesn't know my name, or any of my other friend's names (except for E). She's also really mean to my some of my guy friends, and two of my girl friends in particular. With my guy friends, she doesn't let them sit at our lunch table and yells at them and calls them creeps. With my 2 girls friends, she picks at their interests/disinterests and is always yelling at them and being a bitch to them
So yes, I know there's really nothing I can do about it. And yes, I also know I might sound like I'm being judgmental, but I'm trying really hard not to be. I always give people chances and I'm really nice to people, but she seems to be passing up every chance I give her, and she's mean to me, so that's not fair.
What I'm asking is, how am I supposed to tell E that no one is really warming up to her? I know E is allowed to be friends with whomever she wants, but I can never, EVER be around E alone or talk to her privately without L crowding around us. E is totally oblivious to her behavior. So I need help on what to do! Thank you so much!
You sound like a very nice person. Now, enough is enough. You can't be so nice that you allow that kind of treatment for yourself or your friends. Whether your friend sees it or not, you see it.
You can pick one or a few or your friends that do see the way she is, and that will be nice, and sit and talk to her. Tell her the things that are getting on your nerves or creeps you out. Just say it in a nice way. Then ask her if she can try and not do them anymore. I know it may be hard, but communication is the key.
If she doesn't respond well, then I would advise avoiding her. You can only take so much.
It really sounds like this girl needs some mental help. I'm not trying to sound funny, but it sounds like she has some major issues. You may tell one of your teachers how she behaves and ask if she has an illness. That's not a rude question. You just may want to know so you'll know how to handle or deal with the things she does.
I hope it goes well.
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im very depressed
my good friend died of a brain tumor july 29th 07
and i misss her sooo much still
i cannot deal with it it never gets easier
i dont know what to do
everything reminds me of her .
i cry. and i miss her
.we were so much alike
we were suppose to do so much together
she was only sixteen
and its not fair
and.. i want her back
i do not know what to do
i just cant ever face it, or believe it
or..move on.
help
It is natural to experience sadness when death claims someone you love. Even the perfect man Jesus “gave way to tears” when his friend Lazarus died.
You will always miss her. That will never go away. But it will get easier. And only time can help you with that. And if you have a faith, prayer is always very strengthening.
Talking to someone about how you feel and your happy memories with her will also help. Try not to keep your feelings bottled up inside.
If you ever feel you want to die and becomes increasingly worse, you should see someone right away.
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I have a this B.F.F um lets just say her name was Yhauns and um almost every single year she JUST has to play up on me and dose not want to talk to me,be around me,have any thing to do with me,be my friend
or ANY THING.
Its like SHE has a problem with me being my self.The 1st time this happen to our friend ship was when i was a year 7 starting intermediate she was at primary and was a year 6. I was a year older but that did not stop us from being B.F.F's
we were B.F.F's ever since i was 3 and she was 2 she was my next door neighbor.
Once a year she either starts a rumor,did not talk to me or she totally blocks me out like a brick wall.In 2006 she ignored me and did not want any thing to do with me [maybe it was because of her friends at primary ?.
2007 she had claimed and started a rumor about me it was the starting of a new year and we had started school by now she was a year 7 and i a year 8 it was in the middle of camp term 1.
it was raining and my tent was leaking she had decided to go and sleep with her other same aged friends while i looked around out in the rain i soon had settled with her and a group of people that i didn't know at all.the next morning i had to put my tent down ALL BY MY SELF how did you think that made me feel. the day before i had introduce Yhauns to a new group of friends of mine.
She had taken off because i would int hang out with that day on. I had figure that she did int like me because i choose to hang out wit a less cooler person named Layal she had no friends and i stepped in to play that part in her life. because she was a year 7 i no longer have only a little bit of contact with her.
Yhauns later on that day had set a rumor claiming a lie and it was that i had deliberately thrown her clothes in to the near bye bush but she had no alibi or witness that i actually did. It was a LIE another way of her saying she did int want me as a friend. she took me back after 2 terms of TORTURE & ABUSE.
Now 2008 she has done it AGAIN! not like 2007 not like 2006 but in a whole new way with no rumors or avoiding BUT NAME CALLING !!. Is Yhauns afraid of the truth in friend ship or is this part of her pathetic ways in life.
WELL WHAT I THINK IS SHE CANT BE FINDING TRUE HAPPINESS WITHIN OUR FRIEND SHIP.
HELP I MAY SEEM REALLY DESPERATE WITH THIS BUT IS IT ME THATS IN THE WRONG
I DO FORGIVE AND FORGET ABOUT THE BAD THINGS
OR IS SHE BRAKING MY CONFIDENCE SLOWLY ??
It sounds like your "BFF" doesn't know how to be a friend. I don't know her, but has she had a hard childhood? What is her family life like? If so, this may have made her one of those people that doesn't know how to be friends with a good person, which it sounds like you are truly a good, kind, forgiving person. And one day she is going to look back and regret how she treated you.
But listen. No matter what her problems are, you DO NOT deserve to be treated that way. It's been going on long enough and you have given her many chances at friendship. And she seems to only be getting worse.
If you can, I would suggest you try and talk to her and let her know that what she has done over the years has really hurt you and you cannot be friends with her anymore. If she refuses to listen, just walk away and go on with your life. It may be hard for you to do because it sounds like you really care about her, but you need to think about what you need. You deserve to be happy with your friends. So get out there and make friends that will treat you like a friend.
And you never know. She may miss you so much that she may change.
Hope this helps.
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I have moved to a new place less then a year ago. I'm a student in high school. I hate it, because I can't make any close friends here, or friends that I can hang out with. I am pretty shy, and its hard for me to connect with other people.
How can I change this? What should I do?
It can be really hard to make new friends. And feeling lonely can make you feel frustrated. But no matter what, do not give up.
I know you are shy, but try your best to muster up some boldness and just start talking to people. I had the same problem when I was in high school. So I would look around me in class and decide who I wanted to talk to. Them I would compliment something that person was wearing or doing. People love it when other people compliment them. For example, just say, "I love you necklace, where'd you get it?" or, "Your hairstyle is really cool, I get mine done at the salon on Main street, where do you get yours?"
Just any question you feel comfortable with. Then you can just go with the flow of the convesation from there.
If by some chance the person doesn't want to talk to is rude or whatever, don't take it personally. Just forget them, walk away with confidence, your head held high, and go talk to someone else.
It will be scary, but you can do it.
Let me know how it turns out.
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