I'm really good at advice and want to be a therapist some day! so feel free to ask anything and everything, if you are under 16 then I have prob been through it all.
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Hey one of my best friends knows soo many ppl. She knows everyone pretty much and she always leaves me out. Like when Im with her 1 on 1 shes great but when im in a group of friends shell ignore me. What should I do (beside confront her)? (link)
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okay well i have a problem similar to this...
okay. well no don confront her as a first thing, use that as a last resort. Um..the sign of a good friend is someone who will NOT pretend to be or not be your friend. If she really is a good friend then she will not be like this. hang out with her one on one and have her as like that kind of friend...then have other school firneds. also, try to hang out with her at school and if you get the hint that she really doenst want you there, then go hang out with someone else. She shouldnt be one of your best friends if she treats you like this, but i think you should keep her as a friend. She can be a one-on-one friend, and have other school friends. Then, as a LAST resort talk to her!
Hope i helped!
let me know if you need more help!
xoxo, rose
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Hey rose,
I'm in-love with this guy who lives in a different country. While I was there I met this who was too. She found out that we kissed but I didnt know she was in-love with him because she was so excited about liking another guy so I thought she got ovr him. So she got mad at me and made me chose between her or my guy. I chose her but I regret that decision. She told that I should forget about him cause hes hers. But the truth in the matter is that he doesnt like her. She can't just hog him, now if he liked her then ok maybe I can accept that but he s her. I am in-love with that guy but I can't cause hes hers? whats that about?
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Heyy--
I think i know who you are because i remember you tellin me bout this! well.... hes not hers! thats the thing because like you said, he doesnt like her. So i think you should just nicely say you know i really like him and want to go out with him but i want us to keep our friendship. See what she says, and She cant stop you from liking him and you shouldnt let her!!
Write back soon!
xoxo, Rose
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Hey Rose,
My friend who's a freshman in college just introduced me to one her friends.I haven't met him in person since today was the first time i talked to him.He's not that bad looking!Well anyway to cut to the chase he wants to hang out tomorrow because his parents are out of town which would mean we'd be alone.I want to meet him in person but I don't feel comfortable being with him alone and i dont want to ask any friend to come with me because i actually dont really have any (yes its sad but true lol).I wouldn't feel comfortable being alone with him becuase i don't know him real well and what if he wanted to have sex or something or even like rape me?You never know!And if i do hang out with him how am i suppose to leave the house with out my older over protective bro seeing me get picked up?
-frm well you know who...lol..hope u can help me! (link)
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heyy--
hah yeah i know who you are. DONT take any chances...since he is so much older, you hear about those cases all the time with older guys. Im not suggestin hes bad just to be alone with him is a lil risky. I luvv you sooo much and i care about you. I think you should listen to your bro and you can use him as an excuse to not go. Go somewhere with this guy in public first, lik a mall or soemthin where there are a lot of people!!
I luv u!! lemme know if you need more help! i want you to be safe!!
xoxo, rose
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Hey Rose,what's up?
I've got a problem i was wondering if you could maybe help me by giving me some good advice.well now that school is starting, I am really afraid of being left out. there is this one girl that i have been on and off friends with for 4 years and she is in 5 of my classes so i donno what will happen this year. She is friends with all my friends soo she might take them away from me...u told me that you had a prob similar to this in like June, but im so scared! Please help!
thanks a bunch!!luv yaa bff
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heyy--
yes i do know EXACTLY who you are. And yes i had a similar problem to this in june, that i still have now. So i think since she is in 5 of your classes you should try to talk to her. Just become friends with her in the begininning, and um like if she takes away your friends than include yourself in their group. Just start talkin to her and sincce you were ONCE frineds she will remember that.
Wow my prob is sooo similar to this! lol!
xoxo, i luvv u!
Rose
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Hey rose,
One of my ex-boyfriends and I are really close. We are like family. Hes really good friends with this thats really mean and she is very judgemental. So i was telling him one day how i didnt like her and stuff and I was like DONT TELL HER! So today (I dont know how we got into this conv. but)I asked him about her and he was like O she doesnt like you either. She thinks your obnoxious(or however you spell it). And I was like did you tell her that I didnt like her and he was like yea. And I was crushed. I trust him a lot and I honestly thought he wouldnt tell her. So I was like why did you tell her and he was like well u never told me that I couldnt. Anyway this is just an all-around not a good person, she's a hypocrit and I just dont like her. I have 2 ?'s: 1. how can i make him realize that shes really mean? 2. What should I do about my exboyfriend... like should i be mad at him or should i just forget about it or what should I do? Thank you!
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hey!! good question!!
well theres a guy i like that has a girlfriend who is really mean to me too, and i want him to realize it just like you do. I think you should talk to him..tell him all the things she does that makes you mad, and tell him that he will realize someday. For the trust factor...it is really low of him to have told. You trusted him. I think you should tell him that next time you tell him something not to tell anyone, and dont trust him AS much but if he does it again then lose all trust for him!! Good luck! Lemme know if you need more help!!!'
xoxo,Rose
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hey Rose,
My Friend Katie(not her real name) has this friend named Frank(not real name) I've never meet him b4 but we talk on aim and on the phon3 only 2wice. I have his other friends sn and i ask them if Frank likes me and there like all he ever talks about is you but I relly DONT like him but i dont want to tell him...hes ugly...what do i do!?! (link)
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well i think if he asks you out then you should say no because you shouldnt have to go out with him if you dont really like him because i dont think he wants you to pretend to like him, but remember looks isnt everything so if you like his personality then maybe give it a shot, so just say to him that you think you should just be frinends because you dont have feelings for him. Tell him the truth. Good luck!
xoxo, rose
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I have this friend who has a friend(guy)who I talk to on aim and hes cool and i knw he likes me and hes at camp and i found out he had a gf while he kept asking me out and when he had a gf. he had 2 gf! Im relly mad at him what do i say to him wen he gets back? (link)
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hey! well i have a problem KINDA similar to this What i think you should do is tell him that you dont want to go out with him when he has a gf but you feel that you are helping him cheat. So tell him he either has to break up with her or not go out with you.
good luck!
xoxo, rose
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I have a friend who has a guy friend and i talk to hum on aim and hes kinda wierd but he likes me so what do i do? i dont wanna be mean... (link)
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Yeah well if you don wanna go out with him then you shouldnt have to. Just tell him that you dont want to and he should understnad. Good luck!
xoxo,
Rose
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Hey Rose,
The other day i went to the supermarket to buy some socks. It sounds weird but anyways. I found these really great pair. When i was walking out the sound thing went off and eveyone thought that i was shoplifting. So i sat on this bench inside the store and waited until it stopped. Then this guy came over and told me to go into the batheroom and wait till my mom came to pick me up because i "shop lifted" but i really didn't. So i was scared because my mom doesn't speak english..she can listen to it and understand it but she can't talk it well. So i came out ad i saw my mom come in the store so i sat on the bench. The hole time my mom kept going "Mi babi no take soks from store. She good. Not take soks from store." and yelling on and on and on at this person. Then ppl that i knew were walking by and saw me and i just started laughing like she wasn't my mom. Then i grabbed a random shirt and bought it to make it even more convinsing but then the guy i like came up to me and was like "Nice mom"..and i was like " Oh..yeah i'd hate to be..her child" and i walked out of the store with him to the ppl that i knew outside the store and then i realized that my mom was about to come out so i quickly told them that they were giving free ice cream out in this other store so they ran away. We finally went home. I told my friend about it and she is now mad at me because i was mean to my mom..which i don't think is any of her buisness which i told her. What should i do?
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Well, I agree that it is none of her business, and you were not mean to your mom. Tell her that you accept her advice,k but do not agree..good luck!!
xoxo,
Rose
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Hi Rose!!
I don't have many friends, so the ones I do have are really close to me. Anyway, my "best" friend all the sudden starts getting all these other friends! I am getting really jealous and we all get together my friend gangs up on me...
What do i do???
Luv Ya Rose!! (link)
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Well she shouldnt be ganging up on you, but you have to realize that she can have other friends, but she shouldnt leave you out. I think you should tell her that it works better wen just the 2 of you hang out... and you can hang out just the 2 of you... Good Luck!
Love, Rose
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hey rose
the other day me and my boyfriend were at my house and he slept over. the next morning he told me he had to go to work, so he left. then i noticed he had left his jacket at my house and it was chilly outside so i drove over to the restaurant where he worked. he wasnt at the counter so i figured id wait for him til it was his turn. i waited for about an hour and he didnt come, so i figured id go in the back door. i opened the door and i found him making out with a girl that he worked with. they were so involved w/ eachother that they didnt notice i came in, and i was so in shock that i just shut the doorand left. he called me later that afternoon and asked me to come over, but i was still so angry and upset that i just hung up on him. i dont know what to say to him...help!!! (link)
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Wow....im sooo sorry for you! I do not think you should forgive him anytime soon... HE CHEATED ON YOU!!!!! I think you should tell him that it was wrong of him and that you're worth more than that. Tell him it will be a long time till you forgive him and dont feel bad for him (he frikin CHEATED on you)!!! Hope i helped!!! write bakk if u need anything else!
--Rose
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I have a friend that i hang out a lot with. And whenever we hang out, our other friend gets mad. So she always has to hide that she comes over or something. I told my friend who cares if she knows you don't have to listen to her but she is always like no i don't want her mad. So what do i do to make the other person less annoying? (link)
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Well i have this same exact problem... I think you should tell her that if your other friend is gonna get mad at you then she is jealous and you should not be friends with her because she wants you to be just her friend. Also, talk to the other friend and be like we can get together if we want without you gettin mad!
Good luck, rose
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Okay so 2 days ago I went to the mall with my best friend. And we were looking at these purses at this one store and then these two guys walked in that went to my school (they were there with these two other girls so thats why they were in this purse store) and so my friend tells me that we should leave but i was like no we are friends with them so i walked over and started talking with them and then 5 minutes later when we were walking out she said "ooh i hate those people" ..the next day i saw her outside talking with them and then she went inside with them. I was wondering what she was doing so later that day i called her and i was like "You said you hate those people" and she was like " There's a problem" and so she was just saying that i was like not cool or something and then so the next day i was talking to my other friends and they said that she hung out with them not the other people and then so i was confused so i called my friend again and i was like where were you and she was like i had to go see my father and i was like what so i got enev more confused so i decided that i would go back to the mall. So the question is..Should i buy the brown purse or the pink one???
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HAHAHA!!! nice question... i like pink better so i say buy the pink one!! =)
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one of my really good friends and i got into a fight with this other girl from school (shes now my enemy). and now my really good friend is becoming RLY good friends with the person we got into a fight with. i really dislike that....ive tried talkin to mi friend but shes always like 'oh im going to the movies w/ her today' and my friend CLAiMS she doesnt like her. but now shes doing EVERYTHING w/ her. and when i ask her why shes like 'oh its because im bored and have nothing better to do' and i have a feeling thats not why. and its really bugs and annoys me. What should i do? (link)
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Hey--
Ok well i think you should talk to her. If she was mean to you or soemthing then you're friend shoudlnt be friends with her because she doesnt deserve her. Also, make sure you're friend isnt saying anything to her you dont want her to. And i mean like you cant control who she is friends with no offense, but i dont think she shoudl claim not to like her and then hang out with her. That shows that she is worried about what you will think if she admits she likes her. So anyways, unfortunately you cant control who she is friends with but you can talk to her and be like " Why are you friends with her if you know I hate her and if she was mean to me" or like "why do you deny you're friendship". This was a tough but good question. Hope i helped... write agen if i didnt!!
--Rose
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hi,
there's this that i used to be best friends with but im just like acquaintances with her now. She keeps on asking if I want to do something with her but Im not sure if I want to be friends with her yet. She can be really annoying and stuff. What should I do? What should I tell her? Thanks for helpin me out. (link)
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Hey--
Well what i think is that you shouldnt pretend to be her friend. Like if you dont want to hang out with her then just be like I dont think im ready yet, but you should give her a chance if you ever want to be friends with her. Like a walk or something! So just tell her that you dont wanna like hang out but you'll like walk with her or something because a walk is quick and simple. Good Luck!
xoxo, rose
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my friend is a 'sexy beast' so to speak. And can get any guy she disires. She could even get Arbauck if she wanted to(thats how sexy she is). While she is lookin hott and flirtin i feel like the ugly stepsister ,so to speak, that cant get a guy. Everytime i try flirtin with someone they runaway and go to my friend. I desperately want to be like my friend and want to get head. I dont even care who it is nemore i just want some action so i can feel special even if that means bein called a slut. What should i do to get more guys to notice me and not my friend? (link)
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Well, no offense but let the guys decide. But what you can do is go up to them and start talking to them and see what happens, but thats kind of all i can say. Its up to the guys and im sure theres a guy out there for you. And you said you wanna give head... dont just do it to be able to say you did it... do it when you feel affection for someone. Also, tell your friend that you want a guy and maybe she can set you up with one that she doesnt want. Hope it helps!
xoxo, rose
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hey rose,
i have a really good friend and i really like her a lot. she is fun to hang out with and stuff. the only problem is that evryone else hates her and thinks that shes annoying. sometimes, she ditches em in the hall to talk to the preps cuz she thinks that they actually like her. i mean i love her a lot(as a friend),but sometimes she does get annoying. wen i talk to her about a problem, she says that im controlling. what do i do? (link)
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Well... dont do what other people do like if you really like her, then it doesnt matter that people think shes annoying, because what if you stopped being friends because of what THEY thought. And if she thinks people like her that dont, then let her think that because maybe she gets joy out of it. You know? Now, the other part is more of a biggie. Everyone gets annoying now and then, and the fact that she says you are controlling is what gets me. If she says you are controlling, you should just say "I just want you to know because i dont want people to think you're annoying" try it and see what happens. GREAT question by the way. Let me know how it goes!!!
xoxo, rose
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Hey i just join a new chapter and every one know every one and when ever i go to things they all just talk to there friends but no 1 talk to me do u think i should be in a new chapter or just be with the one that i am in now? (link)
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hey... i had a problem kind of similar to this... what i think you should do is stay with your chapter, just talk to someone like the nsiah or sganit, also try to get yourself involved and like include yourself in conversations. Good luck!
xoxo, rose
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i wrote you b4 about the best friends thing...i wrote it wrong.....what i ment to say was how do i know if she considers me as a best friend? thx (link)
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Oh well i think u should ask her... just be like "i dont feel as close anymore, is there soemthing wrong" and just be like "sometimes i doubt if you consider me a best friend" and see what she says. Good luck! If this doesnt help let me know please@!
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i have this friend, but i dont know if she is my bestfriend but i do consider her as my best friend. what do i do in order to find out if she is my best friend? (link)
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Well thats a VERY VERY good question. Well lets see... what do you look for in a best friend? Do you look for honesty, trust, fun, manners,... or what? Think about what you want from a best friend and then see if he/she fits all of those. And do you feel that he/she considers you a best friend, and can you go to this person for advice or questions? Think about all this and think about what you want in a best friend! Hope it works!!! xoxo, Rose p.s. write again if you need more help!!!
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