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So my friend asks me for homework which i really worked on really hard. I was stupid enough to give it to her. She didn't even thank me! I was really mad at her at that time. Then, after half an hour. she replies "thnx. i didn't really need it. it was for someone else who needed the homework"
1) i know that i shouldn't have given my homework...but is this a good friend or not.. I'm gonna ignore her tomorrow..so that she knows that I didn't like what she had done.
she never even told me that she was gona give it to someone else! (link)
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The best way to deal with a friend like this is not to ignore her. Let her know straight out that what she did was wrong. You worked very hard on that homework and she had no right to ask for it and then give it to someone else without your knowledge. Tell her that what she did hurt you and that you thought the two of you were closer friends than that.
If she's pulling stunts like this and acting like a jerk, she's not as good of a friend as you may have originally assumed. As hard as this is to cope with, if she doesn't stop acting childish, drop her. Ignore her completely. Perhaps it will get the message through to her.
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Hi, I'm 15/f and these past couple years I've gotten really close to two of my friends. This summer my two bestfriends (who weren't at close to eachother as they were to me) and I kind of formed a group of five with two other girls that I wasn't as close with but still was pretty good friends with. We were always doing stuff together, hanging out whenever possible, going to events together, ect. Up until mid October this year, all of a sudden my two original bestfriends started getting REALLY close. Leaving me out, ganging up on my opinions, taking sides with eachother and telling eachother everything about their love lifes. This is what they both used to do with me rather than eachother. I'm glad that they got really close but now its gotten to the point thatI don't hangout with either of them that much anymore and that its just akward when I do. I would love for me to become closer to them again but I don't want to be the only one trying. Does anyone have any advice on how to act in the meantime, what my additude should be towards this situation, what i should do in general? Please help me, I'm like really depressed :/ (link)
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I'm going through the exact same thing this year. My best friend of 3 years has gotten really close with two of my other friends, and, seemingly, forgetting me. Yes, it hurts a lot and there's really nothing help get rid of that pain.
Someone gave me some advice, and I think maybe it will help you too. What they told me was; Stop. Think for a minute. Evaluate the situation. Once you've done that, turn around and spread out. By that, I mean make new friends. Hang out with other people that you don't see often. Become close with other people. Then, maybe they'll have an idea of what you're going through. If they still don't understand after that, they aren't worth it.
Breaking off friendships is a hard thing to do, but once it's done, it will feel better than having yourself forgotten by two people you trusted completely.
I hope this helps. If it doesn't, you can kick me. :D Good luck.
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