hey.... im not ur average person. most important lesson i'd like to teach every1 is that you should respect everyone no matter race color sexual orientation, beliefs or anything else. i love music and talking to other people. i give advice and get advice. hope i can be of service.
i can help u with anything...
i lve gining and getting advice. theres 2 ways to learn lessons in life
1)experience
2)ADVICE
suny
E-mail: sunybee0405@hotmail.com
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Ok, last year I think I went through one of the most horrible things a 14 year old girl could go through, my bsf(best sister friend) got really jealous of me, and mad at me when I saw how bad me and her (and other friends) acted. So, she did stuff to make me gain weight, and then at one point, she just stopped hanging out with me, and got my other 2 bff's to leave me. So I speant 3 months by myself and being my own best friend. Now, today, I hate myself, I'm super shy(i used to be outgoing) and I never talk to much! And I want to make new friends but it seems like I'm to shy too! I need advice on how to love myself and tips on how to gain a friendship.(I'm sorry that I'm asking for advice on two things, I couldn't find a place that looked right for hating yourself and stuff..) (link)
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number one dont hate yourself... ive been in that position and trust me i know how hard it is to be alone... but seriously that girl sounds evil... i think you should just make new friends and be happy with yourself! some stupid girl is not going to destroy you!! like my display name
destroy to create... you have to be destroyed before you can be created into something new.. and better. just be yourself karma works in mystiiiiirious wayyys!!!
but the best advice i can give you is
1) dont try to get the girl back... make other friends
2) dont talk about her to others, dont stoop down to her level eveantually she will feel guiltty.
3) make new friends! find someone that yo can relate to and you dont have to lie to to make your self sound intresting...
you sound like a nice person and i hope that stupid girl gets what she deserves!!!
messege me back if you have anymore ?'s and to tell me how it goes...
i really really hope i helped
pluus if you feel really lonely i would be happy to talk to you
i have a myspace but i understand if your creeped out over the whole stranger over the internet thing...
love sunny
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okay well last year me and this guy were really close friends. but during the summer we didnt talk at all & when we got back to school this fall he wont even talk to me and says he hates me. i dont understand how he could just like foget about me. i wanna try to talk to him but i havent had a normal convo with him in soo long i would feel super awkward. what could i do to try to be friends with him again.? (link)
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just say hi to him..... and try to talk to him about how his summer was, what classes hes in etc.. and if he doesnt want to talk toyou just ask him why, and if he doesnt answer that than sorry but i dont think theres anything yu can do...
personally i dont know why you want to be friends with someone who hates you for no reason... u might want to say this to him..
i hope i helped and messege back pllz on how it went. thnx & good luck
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ok so im 13/f and my friend (13/f) goes out with like every boy in the school and i know you like cant go out with your best friends ex but shes like getting them and dumping them. what can i do? (link)
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if yofur friend is being lke that and wont stop go ahead and date those boys! let me clearify that rule for you:
do not date your friends' ex IF SHE FELT STRONGLY ABOUT HIM (especially if he dumped her)
and your friend doesnt seem like she cares...
also u might want to ask her if its ok to date one of the boys she dated in case you really dont want to hurt her or something. if shes like what you said she probably wont care
hope i helped... tell me how it goes
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My best friend is dating this boy who has been with 23 girls. They've been together for about 6 months. She didn't believe in having premarital sex before she met him. She gave it up to him a few weeks ago. He broke up with her a week later. He started talking to another girl. He begged my friend to keep having sex with him, although they weren't together anymore. She said no. He asked her back out a couple days ago. They started doing it again yesterday. Does it not sound like he's using her? He's this very munipulative type person. It's driving me crazy. Should I tell her how I feel? (link)
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yes you should
dont let your friend get hurt, and even if she does, atleast you'll know that you warned her. i also recommend personally speaking to her "boyfriend", but that depends on your friend... if you doon't think she would mind...
how could she not know hes using her?????
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i'm 15...and yeah... so... ever since i met this person... she hates me... and she hangs out with my best friend. i know she's a pretty insecure person since she's overwieght and her mom was a whore(literally...i'm not tryin to be mean) and left her as a little kid. and my best friend feels sorry for her. i used to, but her past gives her no right 2 boss me around and treat me like shit. and it's only getting worse every day. i jus can't take it anymore, and i don't know what to do... i've tried avoiding her, but if i do that i can't ever hang with my friend b/c she's always hangin with that person. we play on the same basketball team at school, so during practice she'll boss me around about the stupidest things, and i don't want the coach yo see us fighting b/c try-outs are still going on, so i jus do what she says... i've tried telling my friend about it, but evertime i try i litterally get pushed out of the way by the person. all my other teamates tell me 2 forget them both... but i could never forget my best friend, i care about her 2 much, and she's goin through sum pretty sucky stuff right now (link)
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when you and your best friend are alone tell her your feelings openly. say that your not trying to break her friend ship with the other girl, but you just want to get over your problem. also tell her that you would leave the other girl and avoid her but the only reason you wont is beacouse your friendship means alot to you.
and sweety if she doesnt listen shes not a good friend.... no matter how long you've been friends. if u really care about her like that she cares about you. if not just forget her. i no its hard but hey...
as for the othe girl tell your b-ball coach about her and every time she says something be like "i dont really want to do that" or "no i dont think thats such a good idea" or be like "i dont feel like it" try to polite to your enemy when you insult them... its like a fist. and if she doesnt stop.. seek help from guidence councler. avoid her. or just tell her to get the shit out of your face.
glad to help ;)
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