Hey, I'm Emily. I'm a nineteen year-old college student. I decided to make one of these things because my planned college major will be counceling of some sort.I'm not easily embarassed, so ask anything you want. No question is too personal, too strange, or on a subject that I wouldn't talk about.
I did have to choose three "favorite categories", but please don't think that my abilities are limited to them. I know some about eating disorders/body image, religion problems (I often have those myself), drug issues or questions (experience is the best teacher. . .)and, of course, I can help out with any sort of relationship with anyone.
I dabble in a little bit of everything.
I hope I can help you.
Emily
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Location: Kansas City, MO
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Age: 19
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My friend is a total hypocrite. She talks bad about me then she pretends like shes my best friend! she also thinks she's sooo cool because she has aboyfriend who goes to another school, i understand if she likes him but when you start putting IL(*) on the end of your away and website entries it gets kind of anyyoying. What's hould i do? (link)
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Sounds like she's not being much of a friend to me. The most important thing about friendships, though, (and relationships for that matter) is communication. If you dont like something that's going on in your friendship, you most definitely need to talk to her about it. She can't fix the problem if she doesn't know there is one. Don't worry about her getting mad at you when you talk to her. Just tell her that you don't want to start a fight; you just want to know why she's doing the things that she's doing. You have every right to know why she's talking about you, so you have every right to ask.
As far as the boyfriend thing goes. . . even if this isn't her first boyfriend, she is going to change the way she acts for a little while; not around you, but around everyone. Her change in behavior since she got her boyfriend doesn't have anything to do with you, or him really. Girls do that because it means they're entering a new phase of their lives or they have someone new around and they're still adjusting.
Bottom lines: Talk to her about the problem you have with her saying things about you behind your back. Tell her it upsets you.
Give her time to get over the "my boyfriend is so amazing" phase. She'll realize that you were there before he was.
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one of my best friends is going out with a jerk. and i'm not just being judgemental. he really is a jerk and is a bad person. and i cant stand him. he treats her so badly. he's a player and is really flirty to other girls and gets their numbers.. this is while they're going out. it makes me sad to watch this happen.. and this happened in her last relationship and she was really crushed. i wanna tell her but i dont want to hurt her feelings because she's really sensitive about this kind of thing and probly wont listen to me. what can i do?? (link)
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You need to tell her; bottom line. Be her friend.
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okay, well just recently i entered highschool. i love it every way. but the only problem is that my friends, my old ones from middle school. they bareally talk to me. we all used to hangout every single weekend. and now they are all interested about being popular and hanging out with the right croud. and it gets me really upset because they all hangout together and im home alone and they dont even ask me to hangout when they know im sitting home all alone. my best friend still even hangs out with them and i ask her to hangout and shes like i cant im sorry and this is an every weekend thing. (link)
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If your friends are that shallow, you don't want them to be your friends anyway.
I suggest finding out what you're good at (a sport, band, theater, whatever), joining an activity, and making friends with the other people there that will have something in common with you. It sounds like you just want a sense of belonging along with some decent friends, and I think this would be a good way of helping you with that.
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alrighty, one of my good friends is...i guess what people would call a 'music elitist'? she's very unique and listens to old rock bands like the who and the beatles and stuff. she acts like she doesnt care what anyone thinks of her, but obviously she does or she would try so hard to be different, right? anyway, I on the other hand, am to her, the stereotypical prep. yeah, i get up and take an hour to get ready every morning, i shop at stores like AE and GAP, and i listen to pop music. whenever i give her a ride home or anything, she's always criticizing and making fun of the music that's playing, and if i go to the bathroom to fix my hair or makeup, she HAS to make a comment. i really do try so hard not to say anything to her about it. i tolerate her BLASTING the who and coldplay in my ears when i'm around her without saying anything, and i completely respect her political and religious opinions (WHICH ARE COMPLETELY OPPOSITE THAN MINE) and she doesnt. what do i do??? today i got mad and i blasted the music in the car and i kept making fun of her music, but now i feel bad. what do i do to tell her how i feel without coming off as a total b****??? (link)
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If she is really your friend, you should have no problem just bringing this up with her in conversation. It is very important in all relationships to keep communication lines open. You need to tell her how you feel when she does this stuff. If it makes her mad, then I don't think she was really that great of a friend in the first place. Talk to her.
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