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hey guys! my name is suzy, and i'm currently a freshman. i love my friends, they are amazing and i can't live without them. i live to have fun, and i love meeting new people, i am a friendly person, but that doesn't mean i let people step all over me. yes i can be a pain if i am pissed off, but deal with it. i love to laugh, and i love people that can make me laugh. i am here to help as best as i can. so just ask away! =]

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15/f... if that helps?

lately it seems like i am losing my best friend.. she had liked this guy a lot for a long time and i knew for a fact that he liked her too, but he was too shy to ask her. i was friends with both of them so one day at a party i was sitting with the guy, lets call him BIll, and i was like SUZY [my friend] really likes you and i know for a fact that you like her so stop being stupid and just do something about it. needless to say, they ended up hooking up by the end of the night. it was all really good at first because it was good knowing that i helped them get together and they were both so happy. but now it seems like she has no time for me. me and my other best friend... me, suzy, and this other girl were all really close. well me and my other best friend, lets call her JAN, have noticed that she doesnt really hang out with us, and when she does she is very distant and always talking about BILL. i miss her so much and i just dont know what to do. everytime i call her and ask her to hang out she is always like well can BILL come. and i feel bad so i say yes, and then BILL ends up getting on my nerves majorly. i feel so crappy because it is my fault that they are together and i wish that i could be happy for my friend... but i just feel so left out.

i am sorry this is long, but i really just need some advice as to what to do. i keep telling myself that eventaully they will get sick of spending every second together, but it doesnt seem like that will ever happen. i dont know how much longer i can take him!

please help!

aha my name is suzy :D.

anyways, the best thing you can do is be straight up with your friend. tell her basically what you told us, that she's drifting away and that ever since she got a boyfriend, he's been her world. tell her that she needs to make some time for her friends, you guys miss her a lot. suggest a day once a week where you guys have a girls night in, or out whatever you prefer. this one day will bring you guys closer if you keep doing it every week. everyone has their own lives, but it's nice to have a day to catch up with your best friends.


hope this helps (:

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15/f [it only looks long because i put spaces.] BUT STILL, PLEASEEEE answer. please. i need your opinionin. even if its just a yes or a no. ill ratee.

so, me and this boy were like best friends,and then, he liked me or something, and i dont know, i basically rejected him. it was realllyyy bad. so we didnt talk anymore, and each passing day, makes me miss him more and more. and whenever i see him, hes always staring at me. always. like sometimes he'll try to sneak looks [this is what all my friends say] his friends are always looking at me. [but there not like laughing or anything, there just staring.] and sometimes he'll look me straight in the eye. and we'll be staring into eachothers eyes, which seems like forever. my one guy friend, said he thinks that he misses me, and he wants to talk to me, but hes embarrassed that i rejected him.

DO YOU AGREE? yes or no.
and should i talk to him? yes or no.

oh yes yes yes! you should deffinitley talk to him. it sounds to me that he does miss you, but i think he's afraid he'll get rejected again. but just go up to him and talk to him. he will feel better because it shows that you have an interest in him. but then he might be afraid because you did reject him, he was probably hurt by that. just talk things through. im sure things will pick up from there. see what he says, or how he feels. whatever you do, talk to him! =]


hope i helpeed && everything goes well. if you needd any more help just let me know. =]

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i want to do something really memorable with my girl friends this summer. i have a lot of guy friends too and despite that they're my friends the guys just normally cause stress so i want something to do with my girls. there's about 5 of us and i want like a girls night out sort of thing, or something to do during the day, doesn't matter. i want it to be something that we dont normally do. we're 15 some 16 and we normally go to the movies or the mall or to somebody's house. so any ideas? thanks a bunch

there is a lot of things you can do! throw a party at someone's house. go swimming. go to the beach; it's a lot of fun, plus a good way to meet guys. go mini-golfing! it may be silly but i love it and again there should be guys there. have a huge bbq party, invite all your friends. go out to dinner or lunch. get really dressed up and go out somewhere fancy for dinner, that will be fun. have a sleepover, but sleep somewhere crazy. take a "tour" of your town. go to an amusment park or water park.

that's all i can think of right now.
haha hope i helped! have fun =]

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ok,i really need to build up my confidence,personality,and stuff like that. i feel like i want to change,for me,to feel better about myself. i want to be able to yell and scream and have fun,not care. what i need help is, how can i do all this***? how can i break down my wall i've had up for so long?

i was EXACTLY like you. i was always shy, not really outgoing. i'd just sit back and basically watch all my friends talk to guys, get the guys. and i felt like crap about it. one day i finally opened up to two of my best friends about it. i don't know why but it was emotional for me. but they understood. now i am differnt. i am a lot more outgoing, just think to yourself, i am such an incredible person. anyone that doesn't want to get to know me...oh well that's their loss. its hard because i was always thinking, what if people don't like me? or how do i just act "carefree". well you only live once, so make it amazing. you can even pretend to have confidence and then you'll get used to it. just do something you wouldn't normally do. take a chance go out of your comfort zone a little bit. it is very hard, but it is wayy wayyy worth it, truust me.


hope i helpedd

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My bestfriends baby shower is this afternoon. I've known about this event for about 2 1/2 months now. the problem is i dont have any money to get the baby anything im young and i've been trying to find a job but i hven't gotten 1one yet. i feel really bad about it. she will be very dissapointed in me if i didn't show up. i dont know what to do.

well, i think you should get creative. a scrapbook of the two of you, you can try baking her one of her favorite desserts - cookies?, then you can make a coupon that says VALID FOR A DAY OF BABYSITTING or something like that because im sure once the baby comes, she will be very happy to have a babysitter. or you can make a scrapbook for the baby, so when the baby comes she can put all picturs in it, like babys first word, or babys first tooth. hahah something like that. or go to google and type in babyshower gifts or homemade baby shower gifts, something like that.

i hope i helped a bittt

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my best friend and i have been doing gymnastics together for a long time. the gym we've gone to is really good (the best in the state), but its really far away and really expensive.

well, this year i decided to try out for cheerleading at my school, and i made it. i thought i'd be able to stay on my gymnastics team, but it just wouldnt work out with the cheer schedule. so i changed to another gym thats a lot closer to my house. its a lot smaller than my old gym and the team is not as good. and it was really hard to leave my old teammates! but at least i can still do gymnastics, which i love, and also cheerleading.

well, now my best friend keeps making remarks about my new gym... like how small it is, how bad the coaches are, how ugly the leotards are, and how she'd never go there. and she keeps bragging about how good she's getting, and how great things are going at our old gym. and then she has these parties and sleepovers with all our teammates from the old gym (who i know as well as she does), and she doesnt invite me. but she makes sure i hear about it. it really makes me feel bad.

i dont want to get in a big fight with her becuz i still have to see her at school and stuff, and we do some other activities together. but it really hurts when she does this stuff. why is she being so mean??

aw. im sorry about you and your friend =/.

well honestly i think she is just upset that you left your old gym. she probably misses you a lot and all the fun you guys use to have there. and since you're a cheerleader and you have a busy schedule she probably feels neglected. i think you should talk to her about it and tell her how you really feel, it hurts you when she says this stuff. tell her that you just couldn't keep going to the old gym because of you crazy schedule...but that you still want to hang out with her besides gymnastics. maybe you guys could have a girls night and just hang out together like once a week, or something. just let her know how you feel.

hope i helped! =)

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