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16/f (we are all 15 or 16, all female)
Question:
What should I think about all of this?
Is it wrong to not want to forgive them?
Situation:
For months I was excluded from everything by my best friends. They refused to include me yet were nice to my face so I stuck with the group and went through a lot of hurt. I found out others in the group were being excluded too.
So I stood up to the girl who was purposely trying to exclude me, and we got in a huge fight but somehow it was resolved. But not really. Then they started to do it again and an even bigger fight broke out and I left them.
They got people (at least 5 at a time) to try to beat me up. I was harassed by the other people and it was an unfair situation. They harassed me over a computer but had other people do it in person. I tried to resolve the situation (so that I was not in physical danger) and block their computer attempts. The situation seemed hopeless and dangerous for me.
I lived through it all, and somehow, they didn`t make me look bad for very long. Now they mimicked one of our videos (me and my three new best friends, one from the old group) on facebook (which wasn`t about them, it`s about our inside jokes and has nothing to do with them) and made us look like whores in their attempt to copy our video and "ruin" us. They tried to copy our makeup and clothes and told everyone to say who was better, us or them. We ignored them (this happened less than a week ago) and kept ourselves looking good and happy.
Finally, one of the girls (the main one who was excluding me before) broke and told my best friend (from the old group) that she feels like a bitch and wants to be friends with us again.
Please refer to the above question, any insight or advice is greatly appreciated! This has been a nightmare and sometimes I feel lucky to have made it through without being attacked physically. Although that did happen once but I walked away.
Two of the girls leave for a month next friday, and I am not going to forgive them (ever) or before then just so they can feel good about themselves when they leave. In no way do I want to join back into one group of friends, even if my new best friends do, I will stand alone and have no friends. Is this wrong? (link)
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it's totally not wrong at all to never want to forgive htem, if they're going that far as to have people phsically attack you, they're not worth any of your time, my best advice to you is that you not get mixed in with that group of people again. they'll only leave you hurt again. girls are vicious, they'll do anything to get what they want, you should find real friends who care about you. friends who wouldn't even think of doing that to you ever.
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alright. i have this friend and i kind of love him. he's the totaly opposite of me and i've done some things he doesn't agree with. most of them, he knows about, a few he doesn't. this kid knows me better than i know myself and by not telling him, i've felt kinda guilty. so. question basically is, should i tell him, have him be disappointed, or just kind of let it go and not worry about it?
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i think you need to tell him, i get the feeling he's a good friend and won't abandon you for it, let him know you've learned your lesson [if you have] you can't let yourself feel guilty, i've done that, the truth came out, and he's over it. i think it actually made him more comfortable with the subject actually.
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Okay. I kind of need a quick reply, please...
My best friend went out with a boy (we'll call him Shawn) for 7 months. She was head over heels for him. But then while she was on vacation he called and broke up with her through a VOICE MAIL.
Well, her best friend (we'll call him Mike) was there for her through it all. Now, being a bystander in this, I could tell mike had feelings for her. And recently he asked her out. Mike and Shawn were best friends...and as soon as shawn found out he began calling my friend wanting her back. It's been 4 months since they broke up, and I think he just doesnt want her with Mike...what should she do? (link)
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okay recently, i was in almost the same situation, and honestly right now i'm just sitting it out, not being with anyone. because i couldn't bare hurting ethier one of them. your friend needs to figure out who she's happier with, and if it's the first guy, she needs to understand he might nt be as trust worthy as the other guy, he hurt her once, and it could happen again. she needs to be with the guy that makes her happy, don't play games with their heads. just pick one and stay with that, and if she can't, she should maybe find a new boy. there's a lot of them out theree.
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well i think you're the terriblest advice giver. my name is NOT eliza. and you WISH you had hair like mine. damnnit. (link)
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actually, i love my hair, it's not blonde, and i can put colors in it because my parents don't care, so hahahahhahaha. :x
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I have this friend, well, actually, I would say more of "ex" friend. We were friends for about 5 years, and then, In the whole year of 2006, and the beginning of 2007, we became more like sisters. Seriously, we hung out every freaking day, we basically lived at each others houses, and I told her anything, and we were so alike.
We were fine, and then she accidentally told someone from another school a rumor about me, that she claimed that was true, and it wasn't, and since she told everyone, and she had never stabbed me in the back, I completely over reacted.
After about 3 weeks, we were fine. But I knew things wouldn't be the same -- and they weren't. She moved on to different people, and so did I. I would have to say, shes one of the most popular girls in the school, and definitively the prettiest. So believe me, being her best friend, was definitely a privilege.
After that, we were friends, but slowly, we just stopped talking. I knew why, but she just.. "changed" Her attitude, her friends, her personality, and everything.
I am bi-polar, and yesterday, I caught myself crying for no reason, which happens often. I kept trying to find out why, and I think I found out. I miss my best friend, I miss telling her everything. I never found another best friend, just friends. I miss her, I miss everything.
I want to talk to her, but I texted her asking if I could, and she said "only in person". I can't do that, I just can't. I am too shy to talk to her. I'd be too nervous, believe me.
What can I do? What do I say?
Sorry for this being so song. Any help is extremly appreciated. Thanks.
13/female.
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okay, almost the same thing happened to me, except she didn't say anything about me, something tragic happened to her, and it affected me, and i wasn't there for here, and she went off making bad choices, it killed me, for a year i did stupid things over it, and now we kind of talk, i wish i had done something earlier, but i didn't. and i regret that everyday, i think you need to talk to her, whether it be in person, or over the phone, or internet, or whatever you need t do, i think you need to start hanging out again. invite her to stay at your house, spend the night eating a half gallon of ice cream and just talking about everything. i really think you can get through this.
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ok,i really need to build up my confidence,personality,and stuff like that. i feel like i want to change,for me,to feel better about myself. i want to be able to yell and scream and have fun,not care. what i need help is, how can i do all this***? how can i break down my wall i've had up for so long? (link)
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okay, i had a lot of trouble building confidence in the past two years, i think i've got it down though, you honestly can't think about what anyone thinks about you. and i promise, they'll like you better because you're opening up and being yourself, if they don't, you don't need them. if life's about taking risks, then you need to go for you, you need to just act totally messed up, be loud, and fun, and i promise, it'll make you feel amazing.
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