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Hey I'm Laurell. I've been through a lot so whatever the sitch is i can probably relate and try to help though I know in many situations it seems as though no one but yourself understands completely of what's going on; in some cases there's too much to express or type in words. As the days pass by, time is going by faster, and faster so I wish you the best of luck and wisdom through the rough spots.

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okay....i wanna know if i'm blowing this out of proportion...... my friend, who says shes my bff, likes the guy i like, and he likes her back. i was @ his house with her and something happened....i didnt find out until several days later when we were at lunch. she was talking about a convo he had with another friend of his and it ended up comming up in our convo. i asked her about it and she denied everything at first. then she said something to another friend of mine and they had a whole convo on it and didnt tell me anything. i got up and left the lunch table after accidently hitting her. i felt really bad about it and she kept dragging it on even when she knew i felt bad about it. she eventually told me after i flipped out on her. she says shes my bff, but she wouldnt tell me. am i blowing this out of proportion?

i think you have the right to be a little ticked at her and she is your so-called BFF, then she should tell you. maybe you should ask her why she didn't tell you. maybe she didn't want to hurt you somehow or something but that still doesnt really give her the right to tell your other friend about it.

in any case though people have their own business and my bff and i don't get in eachtohers biz about stuff. if she doesn't want to tell me every bit of her life or something that happened i could really care less. same for me, i dont tell her everything. hardy! but i know she wouldn't not tell me and then tell someone else. yea i would be mad. especially if it sort of involved me somehow (like me liking the dude).

i personally have wanted to rip off another chicks head before but ive never gotten into a fight with anyone. never. like hitting and tackling eachother with a certain befriendliness is fine but im guessing you hit from anger which is not good. therefore i think hitting her was outting the situation out of proportion. but thats up to you.

down to the last hit/talk whatever yall are going to do to fix it, i think you should definately talk. conversing can go a long way.

hope i helped a little

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i feel like i have no real close friends excapt for one person who goes to a different school than me and ive tried to hang out wit alot of different groups of girls and i just dont know what to do anymore, i feel like the girls i hang out with are just people who allow me to sit at their tablw..what should i do

-lost

sometimes i feel like that too. i guess it may mean you choose your friends carefully and who your trust is limited-which is fine. or maybe these people you hang with aren't real friends and could never be, maybe they're fake- acting like/i love you we hang out all the time we're the best fo friends...no. if what you're looking for is a lot of close friends and more bff's- there's not a lot of true friends so you're lucky to have one but..so i guess what im trying to say is:
1. deal with it-you have family
2. try a new personality- turn around your personality, go from w/e you are to preppy,optimistic,fun, playful, flIRTLY,
3. hang w/guys

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how do you get a best friend? I have some friends now that I dont really think will be best friend material, though they are my friends.... but sometimes i want that person that i can do anything with and just have fun and stuff. but its hard to find!

13/f

just to sorta verify what a good friend should be like:
they're not ur friend if they demand your silence, or denies your right to grow.
think about it...it should make some sense LOL

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15/f

I seem to 'be everything' but 'have nothing/no one.' I have a good personality, good looks and exceptional intelligence. I try to be nice to everyone and understand who they are, but no one does the same to me. In the halls at school people make comments on how good I look, how nice I am and such. But really, I only have one best friend. And no other friends.

I know everyone in my grade. Everyone. I've tried being in every different clique that there is but it never lasts. Tonight, I have no new years plans.

I haven't had a boyfriend for two years now either. Whenever I get close with guys they start to be complete jerks and use me. I am a virgin and have only kissed one guy in my entire life. I didn't even like him and he was 19. He just used me.

I feel like I have exhausted my options. What can I do? I need to be a little more than nice, because I have tried so hard. And I've tried not trying at all. I have made countless plans but I am still missing what I want most. Friendship.

When I invite people to my house they always say they are busy and will 'call me some other time' but never do.

I realize this was a terribly long question, so any comments, insight or answers on any portion of my question will help tremendously.

Thanks so much!
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ok well it sounds just like me, a couple of years ago....its as if you are always trying your hardest to be nice,please people,help, w/e you can do to others right?! they take advantage of people like yourself, you always call them they never seem to call you, it neer seems like you can keep/have/get a best friend(s) or just find more friends or people to hang out with..now i dont completely know you but mayb others see you as too good, possibly a saint? im not sure but whatever it is you are others may be jealous thats why all that happens to you.... you have options:
1. leave it be [you are you and if ppl have a problem with that too bad]
2. instead of sticking with a clique and being apart of them until they get old then going to a new one, dont be in a clique at all...befriend everyone -different cliques- you may have your own group of close people but you dont need to be so close like a clique BE OPEN
3. get in a sport or something you enjoy maybe you'll find some nice guys who have similar interests and wont take advantage of you or some really nice girls who may become you bff's

p.s. having only kissed one guy is awesome i applaud you that is really great

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Ok, I apoligize in advance if this is really long.

But, i have this friend. We've been really close since elementary school. I really enjoy spending time with her. But when the topic about money comes up, it just makes me ache inside. I don't show it. Okay, so my family doesn't have the kind of money like her family does. Most of the time she just shoves it in my face, i don't really know if she does it on purpose or it just comes naturally.. but it's really starting to make me extremley upset. For example, we're supposed to hang out, and then shes going shopping. I sort of had the option to go with her, but i don't have any money to buy anything. And truth be told, i don't want to watch her shop, that makes it worse. I just want her to realize that theres more things to do than shop & spend money. She has everything i've always wanted. I don't know how to explain this to her, nor i don't even know what to say to her. Any advice on what i should say? Or what i should do?

Thanks Much.

Sincerley, Unhappy.

OK WELL, i would start with telling her how you feel....i dont think you should make it into an argument just tell her one day when she asks you to go to the mall .....tell her the reason why you cant go to the mall then why you dont want to go to the mall and next tell her whats bothering you...try to reason and dont use harsh tone because it could hurt your friend when all that you want to do is get the message across right? ***hopeihelped***

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Ya see my friend and i both have aim, and we were both telling eachother how we both how we would neva get on eachothers s/n.. and today i did,, do u think she'll ever forgive me?

yes she will,if shes a good friend and you mean a lot to her ...

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All my friends are so much prettier and skinnier than me, and it lowers my self esteem. They are always the ones that get all the guys attention, and I hardly get any. I know it shouldnt matter at all, but it still bothers me. My friends dont treat me badly or anything, but im always worried that they are secretly thinking lower of me. Any suggestions on how to quit becoming so jealous and to stop thinking Im not good enough for my friends?

well this situation is sort of like mine when i was in the 7th grade, its disturbing and it took me a whole year to just not care anymore be mysefl and carryon in life and hangout with the guys more often dont act shy ***goodluck***
advicegal26

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im sick..i have a lil bit of a fever and yesterday i got with my boyfriend a few times but i got cold beofre i did but like do u think he is ok. i dont kno how he is feeling but what do u think

Im not phycic but i think ur best bet is to go check up on him

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