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hey im 13 and ive had many problems thoughout my life and i would like to help you with any of yours. I will try to answer your questions with thought and truthfully. My favorite catogories are love life and friendships. so if you have any questions ask away!

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ok so there is this really really nice guy who goes to my church he is a good friend and stuff and i kind of like a little is that a bad thing or if i tell him do you think our relationship will change i am not sure!

thats definalty not a bad thing...well what i would do is try to figure out if he likes you more then a friend. Maybe have a friend ask him. If he likes you as just a friend then try talking to him more and get closer friends. If he does like you more then a friend then just ask him to go to the movies or somthing. But just get to kno him more and keep tlaking to him. i hope i helped!
sincelry,
katie
*feel free to ask me any more questions*

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Well, I have this friend. He's not super close, but he is a good friend of mine. We have had a lot of talks about smoking pot when several of my friends started and I said "no one thinks it's a big deal anymore and I don't get it." He said "I still think it's a big deal and I think it's pointless and would never try because I would be too scared." Then, he showed up to my friend's party high and I don't get it. I thought he meant that and I haven't had the chance to talk to him yet. I'm really upset about it, and I don't know what to say to him. Does anyone have any idea how to deal with something like this? Like what to say to him?

[keep in mind we're only in 8th grade]
thanks soo much for any help I get !

i had about the same deal. Some things you can talk to him about is how much harm hes putting himself into. Tell him how much you care for him and that you dont want him to get hurt. He might not want to listen near his friends so i would take him some where private and just confront him about how you feel about him when he smokes pot. Also talk to him about why he even does it. Some people do it for the attention and to fit in others do it to relief themselves. Talk it out with him and just tell him how much harm hes putting himself into .....i kno it wasnt much but i hope i helped...
sincerly,
katie

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Im goig to a new school next year with my best friend, she is great and ive known her forever, but im a fraid that if i hang out w/ her alot that, i wont make alot of new friends. plz help!!!

well i do think its great to have a friend like that. But you also need new Friends. Try making more friends but keep including her. Try going to somthing you all would like then you would meet new friends and also keep your best friend. If she doesnt like the idea of you making new friends then maybe shes not the best friend you could get. i hope i helped!
sincerly,
Katie

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My best friend, Hillary, all the sudden likes Mike. They are now going out, Mike is a bad kid. No joke, he's only 12, [shes thirteen] and he's already had sex with another girl, cheated on 3 of his girlfriends, he smokes, drinks, and is on drugs. Hillary knows all this, but doesn't care. I can't pull her away from him, and even since they started going out, its like, shes trying to ignore me, ditch me, and just forget about me. I've tried calling her, IMing her, talking to her, but she won't listen, I don't want anything bad to happen to her, what should I do? x3

i kno how you feel.
it had happend to my best friend
i tried talking it out with her but like you said she just wouldnt listened. All i could do was tell her i really cared for her and to be careful. she got mad at me for saying it but in the end once she got hurt, cheated on, and almost preagnant, i was there for her and she thanked me for it. i kno its hard but all you have to do is watch her get hurt and be there for her if she does. and shell thank you for it,
i hope i helped!

sincerly,
XxBrokenloverxX

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My friend is going to kill herself next Friday.

She seems happy about it.

I've tried to change her mind, but that didn't work.

She doesn't eat, she's an insomniac, and she is very stressed.

She's been to shrinks but she says that they were a waste of her time.

She hates her parents because she can never talk to them, I guess.

I don't know what to do.

Yes i do think you should tell your parents about her. They could help alot. Also i would keep talking to her. Call her more and tell her the good things in her life. Tell her that there are people that love her and that are there for her. Even try calling up a few ppl and telling them about her. Maybe even get them to talk to her, showing her that she has friends that dont hate her. just do whatever you can!
i hope she will be ok!
sincerly,
XxBrokenLoverxX

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So..there's this gurl & i guess we're " best friends" well like 1 min. she'll be fine w/ you and then the next she goes crazy and talks behind ur back and says all this crap about you that's not true!

I don't know what to do because i thought we were friends...?

Confused.

if she was really your friend then she wouldnt go behind your back. IF you really want to stay friends with her then you should try talking it out with her. Tell her that you want to stay friends but you've heard her talking bad about you. If that doesnt work then shes not a true friend and its not worth it.
i hoped i helped!
sincerly,
XxBrokenLoverxX

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