I hope to help those in need in life lessons, love, friendships, and hardships.
It's a tough life to live for anyone, either in their work world, love life, their children, their money...."There is always Hope"....and I aim to help those find that hope and successfully get passed the woes of the world :-)
I carry a degree in Information Technology, but have also taken previous courses in Child Psychology and General Psychology to gather an understanding of our emotions and how we deal with them as humans.
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I found out today that my ex-boyfriend from a couple years ago was invited to the same small new year's party as me. I haven't been able to stand being around him since we broke up, and every time I'm in a room with him, we end up fighting. I would love to hear anyone's suggestions as to how I can work through these bad emotions. I really don't want my new year's eve to be ruined by negative feelings for one person. I get really worked up every time I even think about being around him, though. How can I stay calm? (link)
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It's hard to deal with those awkward moments when you run into your ex at mutual friend's get-togethers, but moreso, trying to just act normal when you still have those negative feelings pinned up inside. I want to say that its a choice to either let those emotional feelings come out, or just say to yourself, hey, it's all in the past.
Your past is supposed to be reflected on to look at your life lessons. He is from your past, and your break up will serve as a reminder of what you learned in that relationship and avoid the same issues in your next relationship. You should totally want to move forward with your life and not let this one little individual bring out a side of you that you don't like being, you know?
It's going to be a New Year, and hopefully you will not want to let another year after your break up have any further negative influences on your emotions.
Keep your chin up and find that inner strength to get passed the Past :-)
Go to that Party and look forward to having a great time. Get happy drunk and don't sweat what he's going to make you possibly feel like!
Enjoy yourself and be safe!!!
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i am a 16 year old female and I'm gay. It's a girl I like that i knew for a few years now. She's not gay though but she said she'll think about it for me. It's been a few weeks and I want to see where we stand now. i want to know if she wants to continue being friends or if she wants more from our relationship. How do i ask her this without me sounding so desperate and without making her feel forced into the situation? (link)
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Right off the bat, I think I would take into consideration that it's been a few weeks since you discussed your interest in her.
If someone knew what they wanted, it would not take them weeks to come back with an answer.
For the sake of you not being hurt, I would let it go, but act normal around her. Don't show her its affecting you so that she wont feel any pressure from you.
I think that she might come around on her own and possibly tell you her feelings about the whole idea, whether they be good or bad. No matter what, don't lose a friend. She can be a good one whether in a relationship or not.
Good Luck to you both...
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For the past three years I have been best friends with a girl my age. We've really had no problems before this, but lately things have started going the wrong way. Because of the school we go to, we no longer have any classes together, or lunch. I've seen her only five times outside of school since the beginning of the year.
At our Halloween dance, she waited up for me, and we walked there together and hung out for the first twenty minutes. But after a while, a friend of her's named Kylie (They share several classes together) came over. Kylie came and went, but after an hour at the dance, Emily (my best friend) ditched me and started hanging out with Kylie. Every so often she would come back to talk to my other friends, but every time that I tried to start a conversation, she would say, "Yeah..." and then ignore me.
Then, we went to a movie last Friday, we sat in the back talking, and she mentioned that we should hang out on Sunday. I agreed and she promised to call me Sunday morning to set up the where and when we should hang out. On Sunday, she never called. At noon I got on Facebook and she IM'd me. She said, "Hey." So I answered, "Hello," And then she promptly told me that Kylie had stayed the night at her house the night before and that they were going to hang out all day, never apologizing to me for canceling our plans.
Kylie has been a growing problem since the beginning of the year. Not only is she starting to take Emily away from me, but she already turned my friend, Sami, and my other friend, Kiersten, against me. Whenever I try to be friendly with her, however, she always ignores me.
Now I'm resentful towards Kylie for stealing my best friend and other friends away from me. I know that I need to tell Emily about what's going on, but I'm not sure how. Please, tell me what you think about what's going on. I would really appreciate it. (link)
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I know exactly where you are coming from with this one.
I'm not in school, but I too have that friend that is actually going to be my Maid of Honor, but she made herself a new friend when she moved into her new big house in this new neighborhood and they started hanging out alot and so forth.
This new friend would go out of her way to like interject into our conversation....for instance, we would talk about about things we've done in the past, and she'd want to come in with things they've done together recently...everyone notices this!
First and foremost, you have to find that security within yourself, that your BF is just going through a short-term phase. Surely she could not have just forgotten everything about y'alls friendship, but merely has ventured off nearby to get to know this other friend. Granted, she doesn't seem like the best friend kind of material, seeing as how she is not showing any interest in making sure you guys stay friends, u know?? like perhaps including you in what they do.
It will be hard now that the strong feelings of resentment have kicked in, but apologies are in order, u know....
hopefully, you can voice your concern to your friend and they'll be understanding of your feelings and hopefully do something to change things. Dont walk around with hate..it's a wasted emotion, especially when your friends are your life support through life.
Friends can come and go, but true ones know how to be life long friend worthy....
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Like in my history class there are 2 guys who poke fun at me. especially this one guy. like this one guy always makes comments to me almost everyday.. hes in a couple of my classes. like he'll call my name pretty loud when i come into class or something. like he actually wouldn't be that bad if he wasnt such a jerk like 90% of the time. so then i think it carried on into history and then now this other guy who sits in front of me does little things and says hes just messing with me. and its annoying cause im not good when people are like that.. especially when i dont know them that well so its like... you think they are being genuine when they arent. and im not always the best at detecting when someone is joking or not and just arent the type to like come up with all these good comebacks on the spot and stuff. im not into drama, its just not me. like if i talk to some guy whos sitting next to me, the guy whos sitting in front of me joins the conversation and is like "no" and then he laughs or something. and the guy whos sitting next to me actually seems fine but its just annoying how the other guy is just trying to make me look bad or something. and i dont know what to say or what to do in that situation. but its kinda embarassing. like theres this other girl in the class who everyone makes fun of cause shes really not smart and everything but still i wonder how that girl can take getting made fun of like 24/7. like i think im confident in myself and what i do.. so when someone else has a problem with me it can suprise me especially when i hadnt done anything to them or anything. idk if they have a problem with me or not, but they say they are just messing. but its annoying when like half the class laughs then. the guy next to me doesnt though.. from what i've seen. but idk if hes now doing it just to be nice. ahh well its better to do that than to not try at all though. but im just like wtf about it cause im not like a total weirdo or anything but its like the 2 guys are trying to make it seem like it in front of the whole class? ugh. i know i repeated in here sometimes but blah.
like other things w/ the guy who sat infront of me.. sometimes he fakes handing papers back to me and stuff like that. like today he suddenly took the book from my desk and put it on his cause he was called to read (we didnt have enough books today). and then when he gave it back it was like in the middle of someone reading and he just dropped the book loudly on my desk and like half the class stared at my reaction and im just like wtf. like i dont prepare myself for that type of thing you know? i dont know what to do. i dont even have any friends in that class anyways.and my teacher is like really laidback and stuff which is actually pretty annoying cause i wanna learn. i dont want to spend half the period listening to him asking people about their weekends ,and then me having to listen to it. like theres this group of kids that the teacher spends a lot of attention on and it just takes most of the day. like his teaching style is so bad and everything, its like teaching us stuff isnt his priority or something. i guess thats what you get for being in a CP course. and then the other guy who called my name and stuff i used to have a crush on him in 7th grade.. i have no idea why since hes not even good looking. he actually used to be nice before he like changed to being super annoying. i didnt even tell him too.. i told like 3 friends and then somehow word got to him and someone said he said that he only liked blonde girls. hes such a ******** anyways. like i hope hes not just trying to act macho cause he thinks i still like him or something when i dont. ughhhh FML
help me out pleaseeee? sorry this is really long, too. (link)
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This is all too common, when people just do dumb things for attention. There are those people who just have to have other's approval by making them laugh...and from what it looks like, it is at your expense.
Having quick come backs is a trait, and I don't know if it can be learned. I say this, because my boyfriend is quick! I mean like, someone can say something, and he has a comment for it within the blink of an eye...funny, yes, but sometimes annoying...but he likes that he got someone to laugh.
I too have this annoyance, but it does not carry on all day, like what's happening to you.
I totally feel that you do need to speak up...even if it's just a quick comment like, "dude, come on, relax", or give a look just to make it seem like they are crazy, and they will just laugh all by themselves.
You seem to pretty much be the observant one, just the bystander that watches other people make fools of themselves...and sometimes, there's no need to blend into all that craziness.
Don't stress on it though...it will pass, and you'll think back on it and think how silly people can be sometimes.
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Okay so my best friend since... ever and me are fighting, well sorta. I'll give you the story it may be long but it is essential to knowing my problem:
Okay so yeah we have been best friends for six years {sophmores}. And now he is changing! It is horrible, his parents are seperating he is moving away, in a year!!! I feel so bad for him! However he has treated me like crap! He won't text me or anything! I txted him one day and asked him something. When he didn't answer i got my cousins phone and txted him, and he replied to him!!!!
When I asked him why he wouldn't talk to me he says he forgot to! Also he only likes to talk to me or be my partner, or eat lunch with me when no one else in the world is around! Its like he is so into being popular now.
He has changed his looks, wears different clothes, and he flirts with sluts. I know that sounds bad, but its true. He used to like descent people and now he talks to girls who will just use him!! But what can i say to him??? Nothing , its his life. But its eating away at me watching him change. Also his grades are dropping. And why is it he can talk about anything to someone he doens't know, yet me his friend, can't even have a conversation!
What should I do, after he didn't txt me a week ago tomrorow i got mad at him, and have been ever since! But i miss him i guess... he doesn't even care i am mad at him!! He doesn't even CARE>>>>>>>>>>> ugh.
Is he my friend or what, what should I do. I don't wanna watch him change, but i guess i just don't have much a choice do i? :(
16/f
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It has to totally be driving you crazy that someone this close to you becomes distant and different towards you. You get so used to having him a certain way, and when that goes away, it kinda scares you and of course you want to know what's going on....
Establishing what's been happening in his world lately, he maybe escaping his own realm. His world is about to change, and you know he has no idea what his life will be like after that change. Perhaps he is running from you now, only fearing that he will have to anyway if he has to move.
I know the saying, you hurt the ones you love, but surely, you dont want to give up in finding out what you can do to get this closeness back.
All in all, you have to let him know you care about what's happening to him and let him know you are there for him, in listening, or whatever it is he might need. But don't push the issue either. Note to him some how that he is affecting you and it is hurting you that he's pushing away and his actions are just not normal.
He has to be given that space, unfortunately, to give him that time to come back to the real world.
All that negative attention he's getting from those other people are only temporary...he will see that on his own.
I hope this helps. I know it hurts to lose a forever friend. Been there...
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