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heyhey, well this is where i tell you bout myself im guessing, well im 16, i live in norwood ma, i go to a technical school. my screenname is chiquitablaze420. and i have a myspace website and an xanga, thats it. the rest are fakers! alrighty well ask away kids, im here to help you the best i can :) peacee

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im a junior now and just switched schools. i went to the school im at when i was in 8th grade but went to a catholic school for freshman and sophmore year. theres a girl who i was really good friends with in 8th grade and i really liked her, but more or less we were just friends. i asked her out but got denied. now that im a junior i started to talk to her now that i weould see her all the time, but for somereasons i always get the vibe she doesnt really want to talk to me, but other times it seems like shes comming on to me. today she was invited to this kids hosue where we smoke some chronic and she endedd up showing up i didnt know, so she would casually nod my leg or rub againt my arm as she stood up, but we dont talk like we used to, am i just not getting the picture?

hey hun, sorry this response took so long. you seem like a nice guy. I think that you just stick with being her friend for now. It is the best thing you can do at this point in time. Just go with the flow about. Be yourself and she will respect that. If she likes you then she will eventually make it known. Just keep talking to her.

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Hey im 18 and I met this girl last week and I really like her. But how should i go about telling her? What would u want? PLZ help me!!

Hey, Well first off. If you lie this girl then you need to find out if she likes you back. If I was the girl in this situation I probably would just want a friend. Personally, There are too many guys in my life, so I get really annoyed easily with guys liking me. I dont like when guys drop hints on me or try to impress me. I just like them to be my friend. If I was the dude I would try to get over me as soon as possible. But I dont know what this girls deal is. So I am sorry if I this didnt help. But if this girl is diffrent then me then you should just tell her how you feel. I am not like most girls so you probably dont want to go by the advice about me in that situation. If this was a more normal occurance then I would just say go with the flow, tell her how you feel and do something sweet? lol well i hope it helped a little sorry this took so long

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ok...this summer i met an amzing guy...he was sweet, funny and really cute...but then my friend that introduced him to me...started to flirt with him then he broke up with me to go out with her...they broke up a little while later...then my other friend met a guy that goes to her school and they were going out for a while...and then one night shegets dumped by him and he tells her he is going out with the other girl...and i really feel bad beucase she has done this to me...and then another itm ehtis happened was with her other firneda nd she hooked up with her b/f and then he dumped the other girl for her...what should me and the other two girls do?

heyy, i say you confront the girl and ask her why she is doing this and why she is treating you like that. Tell her that what she is doing isnt cool at all and if she wants to keep her friends then she should keep herself off her friends boyfriends. What she did was soo grimy and shallow, just tell her exactly how you feel and dont start screaming and flipping out at her unless she starts flipping out at you first because if you just chill and say it without screaming than you will look like the bigger person but if she starts flipping just tell her that she isnt going to have anymore friends if she dosent stop. Put your foot down on it and make her understand that what she did wasent cool and make sure she understands and respects that! alright! I hope i helped! Good luck!

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i`ve been friends wit this guy 4 a wile. i`d say we r pretty good friends and i like him as more then a friend, wat should i do? i`d think ud say to tell him but im 2 nervous bout his reaction Nd i dont think tht he`d eva wanna go out wit me.... thanx!

heyy!, ill try to help you out! first off if you two are really good friends and your close and looks at you like a sister than i say you guys should just stay goodfriends cause if anything you dont want to ruin that! But if you are just good friends, like yall talk sometimes then just kind of give hints or just just to find singals that he likes you. Or if you guys are talking on the phone just casually say heyy would you ever look at me as more than friend? and if he says no that would be wierd ust pretend to agree with him that way your friendship wont be ruined and it will just be like a regular convosation on the phone. But if he says yes than thats when you should tell him and step up and say "heyy you are a great guy and i have alot of respect for you. Do you want to try dating and that dosent work we can go back to being friends?"
You never know what he'll say until you try! So go for it! alrighty! i hope i helped and good luck! write back to tell me what happened!

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ive never been popular at my school, ive never been asked out by any guy (im thin, and gorgeous) and ive always been average and i stutter everytime i talk and i dont no what to talk about and there always bored of me and i hate how i act different at school then i do at home

my question is

* can someone give me tips to flirt
* can someone tell me what to talk about so i can be a little bit more popullar

desperatee

heyy girl, dont even worry about being "popular", just go with the flow, tell yourself before to talk to somebody that if they dont like you then thats their problem, dont even worry about it! But just make sure your confident and feel secure about yourself! Think about what you are going to say and even practice it in the mirror! Just be nice and dont do everything the crowds doing, because that sure isnt cool, just be yourself, thats it! And when you find a guy you like start talking to him, dont throw yourself at him but just start conovsation, look for something is he wearing and be like nice shoes or something, where'd you get them? and just start talking and eventually some guy will be lucky enough to have you! Just dont worry about being popular because it really isnt worth it, just be confident! alrighty! Good luck girl!
peace
love unity

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well theres this kid i like.... and ive known him for a lonng time.... but i only see him once a year for a week.... and that makes me mad cause hes real cool to chill with... anyways... my best friend knows i like him and she talks to him online... and i guess he likes this other girl and she told him to go out with her... and like she knows i like him and i know i shouldnt be mad at her cause i know me and him will never work.... but i was mad... is this bad?

Heyy, no its not bad to be upset over that, it hurts, although it is hard to talk to him if you only see him once a year for a week every year. But dont even sweat it, talk to him when you see him and by then he probably wont even be going out with the girl he liked anymore. And when you see him just strut your stuff and stay happy, and that will make you look good in his point of view, be confident and you will probably get a chance, but to answer your question, is it bad to be mad at your friend, ehh, i can understand that, i mean you like him and for her to tell him to to go out with another girl isnt cool at all, especially when she knows you like him! Dont sweat it and everything should go out alright!
peace

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well im a guy and so far most of my friends have been girls, but recently i made a few guy friends and it jsut occured to me that i realy have no idea how to hang out with guys, what kind of activities etc...

Well with guys it depends on what they like doing, like if their jocks then probably sports, baseball, football etc. or if their more into music they probably like to sit around and listen to music. Its probably easier with girls to hang out with cause you can pretty much talk about anything and not seem like a wierdo. But with guys just talk about basically sex or burping? haha im sorry that probably didnt help but just be a guy. Act how your friends who are girls would think is gross or wierd lol. All my guy friends are into music and they sometimes play cards, do the gutiar and drums or go into the city or something. Or either sit aroudn and talk about random stuff. Oh and some of them get drunk, but i dont recommend that for everytime you chill with your guys friends lol.
alrighty! hope i helped out alittle bit!
peace

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Ok I have this friend and I thought she was ok until recently I was dumped by my boyfriend and now she flirts with him like hell the other day he was saying how much he hates her so he doesn't even like her but is trying to make me jelious and I'm sick of it because I'm not over being dumped and she's saying stuff like oh he's flirting with me now and keeps trying to hold his hand should I ditch her because she's really getting me down she's keps going on about him 24/7 some friend she is I'm really gutted but have just kept it all in me and not said a word but I'm really upset about it but can't even cry because my feelings are so deep inside of me please if you can help me if you can't then ok

hey hunni, tell this friend how you feel, that you are not over being dumped, and you dont like the thought of him doing that because it hurts you. but if you want to just play her game than find a gorgeous guy and start going out with him, and dont worry this guy and girl both seem like creeps, so you will get better, at least your a good person who wouldnt do that to your friends! alright! im sorry about that

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i became friends with this one girl named Jenna who was new this year. weve been in school for about 5 monthes now and me, one of my best friends, and one of my guy friends are her only friends in our school. well one of her guy friends from her old school likes me and i dont like him back. he saw me at the movies one night and gets mad because im with another guy, he tells Jenna and Jenna gets mad at me and says some extremly mean things to me, things that a "bff" (as she calls us) would NEVER say. she then apologizes the next day when she hears the real story from one of my friends. i dont know if i should forgive her because she really feels bad.. or shes apologizing because she needs friends at our school and if im mad at her, then she knows my friend and my guy friend will surly be mad at her too.. also she has gotten me in a LOT of trouble.. like trouble with cops.. please help!

hey i think you should tell her off next time she treats you bad. that you dont like be treated liek that and you wont tolerate it, and that friends dont do that to friends and if she dosent listen then give her the boot, girl you deserve to be respected, especailly by you friends. alright! i hope i helped!
love unity

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i went shoppin with my friend the other day and we kept running into my dad there and everytime my dad would ask me a question shed answer for me. well a little later my dad got rly annoyed and raised his voice at her and told her off for doing that. i got a little pissed because he had a point but i didnt like the way he was talking to her. so i told him to not yell at her because shes not his kid and he took her home just because i said that. then later he told me how my friend is a liar and she bossed me around and she takes advantage of me and all this shit. i kind of agreed with him on some parts but some of the other things she said was totally out of line. now i dont know what to beleive because my dad got me all confused. is it fair what he said and am i being bossed around? ill rate high because this is so long. thnx

hun thats hard, i think your dad is munipualting you, putting things into your head, think about your friendship with her and all the things shes helped you through and base it on how you feel, stop listening to your dad because your dad cant think for you. and hopefully all goes well, im sorry if i didnt help, good luck though!
love unity

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