i satarted at a youth group after i went to camp for a weekend in the winter for them, and i really love it and all of the people there. i don't really have any close friends though just people i flirt with or hang out with when i go.it's really fun and there is also a summer camp. i had so much fun at the winter camp it was them ost amazing weekend of my life. and if i'm ever upset i think that i NEED to go back to that because it was perfect. so i obviously want to go to summer camp, but the only problem is my 1 close friend that introduced me to this youth group and introduced me to a lot of people there can't go to the camp because she is going to the beach the same week. i don't want to go to summer camp alone because that has always been a fear of mine and i need someone that i'm really close with to be there with me. even though i do have friends there i still don't want to go alone. i also don't want to invite another friend because both of us hang out with people together so if i brought another friend, no one would know her and it wouldn't be as fun. so, i am asking if there are any ways i could try to make their vacation not happen? like get canceled or something? i know it sounds selfish but they always go to the beach and i've been trying to convince her to go to camp but she won't budge. also don't say to invite another friend because i'm not. i just would like to know if you have any ideas about how to get their vacation canceled, like if there is ANYTHING i can do because this situation is so important to me. and please don't just write back that i'm being selfish and shouldn't try to get her vacation canceled because that won't help me at all.
When you ask for advice that is why we're here to give it,and at times our advice is not the answer you're looking or the answer you want to hear.
You really want to go to the summer camp so go.
Your close friend is not going but that does'nt stop you from going. It will be others there so you won't be alone. Her decision is to do something else and that's ok. Friends don't always do everything together at times and that's fine. She might want to go at another time and you might have plans to do something totally different . Your close friend is not going and you do not want to invite another friend and you don't want to go alone so just invite another friend anyway, you might have a good time and you won't be alone.
Good Luck,
Val
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so i have a friend. lets call her A. so A and i used to be really close. we would go on vacations together and everything. then she started to steal my clothes and whenever i'd find out she would deny it. i know for a fact that shes taken about 6 shirts. and sometimes i would be at her house and i would see something of mine and ask if it was mine and she said that i left it at her house. and i usually dont even go to her house. anyway, we started doing a sport together. after it ended though she always sat with that group at lunch and basically abandoned me and my friends. then i made a team for a cancer walk but i didnt ask her because we barely talked anymore anyway so i didnt think it would matter. then she found out and got really depressed and my other friend made me ask her to be on the team. i asked her to be on it but i dont know what to do about her. i mean, we used to be really close but i cant trust her. help please?
Good friends are so hard to come by especially when you have one an they do a very hurtful thing to you. For one she took your belongings and for two she denied it and for three she put it all on you saying you left an item at her house knowing that you didn't,that is not good at all,you don't want friends like that and even if she admits taking from you and apologizes to you(which would probably not happen)It would be very hard to ever trust her again.
You can not have close friends if they can't be trusted.Friends come and go all the time. You win some you lose some.
Hope I was helpful,
Val
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I have a guy friend who has dated my best friend off and on.Her and him still talk like nothing ever happened between them. My guy friend lets call him S, has a weird friendship with me. He acts like he's my best friend when we are on the phone or not around a big crowd. But when we are with a group for example sitting down at lunch together (which is everyday except for when he has lunch detention or is absent he tells me to sit by him) he jokes about me,says bad things about me & talks about things that he knows & everybody else knows isn't true then I end up cussing him out. Then people are like how can you be friends with him & do that stuff. So its like we can only be friends around each other and only each other. Yesterday he told me I was his best friend that was a girl. And I am thinking are you serious which I knew he was. So should I #1 when we have lunch tomorrow not talk to him or sit near him but with a different group of people. #2 continue treating him the same & just act like nothings happening. #3 talk to him about the way he treats me. #4 none of the above if you choose this give an explanation. AND THE BIG QUESTION is he my true friend. PS is this signs of him liking me even though I don't date my bff's exes
As you know all people are not the same and it's very hard to try and change some but if he talks to you on the phone and everythings A-ok then you deserve the same respect from S, when you're around others. Yes #3 talk to him about the way that he treats you and that you demand respect at all times,let him know how you feel and if this is a sign that he likes you he is definetly going about it the wrong way. In life always demand respect..
Lots of Luck ,
Val
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