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Be4 anyone reads this that is a punk i have nothing agints you. i just dont understand you.
My problem is that my BESTEST friend in the whole world was like a pretty girl and was well prepy and now all she wants to do is be a sk8 boreder and wear black and she is always like pink is and evil color! She used to let me brush her hair and put her make up on but now she wont even let me touch her. I think that are relationship is floating away and i never wont that to happen. I know she has a right to be her own person but i dont like the person she os becoming and I dont want to change her bak its just i wont to understand wats going on with her and y she want to change all of a sudden i just am confused plz help me dont let our friendship fade wat should i do to figure this out and be able to understand her again.
-confused-

well there could be a reason why your friend changed. if there is then maybe you should talk to her about it. if not then just tell her how you feel, but not in a rude way. just tell her you're concerned that your friendship isnt what it used to be and you dont want anything bad to happen. good luck!

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My eigth grade graduation (semi) is coming up & Im freaking out because its in June but Im not ready like my friends are. So, I have two q's ..1st is where can i find a cute inexpensive dress website besides Gojane.com? Also, I want to sing a song at the ceremony but I dont know what ..PLEASE dont say Graduation by vitamin C. thanks

just go shopping at the mall for cute dresses. they dont have to be super elegant but make sure they look cute! as for the song just pick a song you like alot thats about friendship and reminds you of your friends. have fun and have a great graduation! good luck!

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I go to a private school, and my friend did also, but then she went public. i still keep in touch with her and she is still a really great friend. But now i have this other great friend in school with me and i'm not sure wiether to think she is a better friend or not. Should i replace her? is it bad that i do not feel as close to my previous best friend?
-dorinflower55

dont worry... its not replacing your friend its just having another friend. its okay to have more than one best friend and if one gets jealous talk to them about it. good luck!

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Lulu* and I used to be SUCH great friends. Then Sam* became friends with me, and eventually Lulu too. We were like inseperable, until Sam and I got in a fight. Then Lulu was stuck in the middle. She would like have to " switch off " between Sam and I and I hated it. She would hang out with Sam more, because she didn't have any other frineds. I was talking to Lulu online and told her that i was jeolous. She told me to apologize Sam so we could all be friends again. So i did. The thing is, that even though we're still all friends again, Lulu still hangs out with Sam more!!! Something that really ticked me off was when Lulu told me that she was sleeping over at my house, and then canceled and slept over at Sams! I don't know what to do!! I really want it to be like old times. The thing that bothers me is that I think Lulu likes Sam more than me, but I'm angry because we were friends first!! Sam kinda like "stole" Lulu away from me. Help... I don't know what to do. Really complicated situation! Please help!!!!
Signed Jealous :(

i know its hard but try talking to lulu again. tell her that it hurt when she ditched you and tell her that you want to be included more like old times. if this doesnt work try hanging out with sam one on one without lulu. maybe sam has something wrong that only lulu knows about so try getting to know sam more since you havent been friends for a while. if sam doesnt want to talk then just keep talking to lulu and telling her how you feel. good luck!

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ok, i have a really big mouth, i can't keep a scercret & all of my firends get mad at me when somethihg slips. they never tell me a scerect any more, even though i am working on it. does anyone have any advise. plese help, if u can!!!!!
signed blabber

i know it might be hard but instead of you bringing up something about one of your other friends bring up something about yourself! try not to talk about your friends and just concentrate on talking about yourself. (dont worry its not selfish even though it might sound that way) if theres nothing new with you or nothing you want to talk about yourself then dont talk about anything at all. if you're on the phone tell the person you have to go. if you're talking to them in person make up and excuse or talk about something like music or movies! i hope i helped!

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hey. my best friend moved last year, well during the summer of 8th grafe to high school, and well we haven't talked much. i text-ed her yesterday and we just texted each other back and forth for a little bit. i wanna ask her to come over and maybe hang out cause its spring break and all but i don't know what to do. can anyone give me any ideas? she's really preppy and her dad is the president of the school board and she's very riche she moved very far away and i want her visit to mean something! i rate well! :) Thanks in advance!

well it sounds like you two would have fun just catching up on what you missed out on over the year. just invite her over and start talking about stuff thats new and ask whats new with her. if she doesnt really want to talk then ask her what she likes to do and maybe you two can do something you both like! good luck and have fun!

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hey.. i have a friend and shes really sweet and all but my boyfriend was talking about her earlier this week.. im one of those girls that everyone comes to for problems and everyone tells me everything but this time what he said about my friend just got to me so much and thats weird because i can always keep secrets. lets just say that him and her when out before and he think she still likes him and he said "i bet she made up that kid so it will make me want her" i dont get that haha.. and he also said "the only reason she wants you to go out with him instead of me is because she wants me" and those two things that he said really got to me.. now dont get me wrong i really love him.. okay well i told my friend what he said because she slept at my house last night.. and she was like I HATE HIM OMG!! and stuff and im like dont tell him pleaseee. and shes ilke i wont.. but something tells me she will.. and if she does then that could ruin my friendship with her and me and my boyfriends relationship... i already know i ruined their friendship :'( .. i feel so bad and i dont know what to do.. please help

this isnt your fault. they obviously have issues from back when they were together. you need to let them work it out themselves and try not to interfeir. if it gets involved with your relationship with your boyfriend or your friend then try talking to them and telling them that you dont want to be rude but you cant get in the middle because its hurting the relationship between the 2 of you. (whether it be you and your friend or you and your boyfriend) i hope i helped and good luck!

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