I am a 22 year old Female. I feel i have great advice in terms of relationships. I have been in 2 long term relationships in my time and have encountered alot of situations, abuse, mistrust,anger,drinking,drugs. You name it i have been through it. I am a very open understanding person. I will not give you typical answers or tell you just what you would like to hear. My advice will tell you exactly how i would handle the situation while still considering the feelings and actions that are hardest to do and now you can overcome the hardest of times.
Because of the way i answer questions i have become very popular with friends and family as the go to person for advice. Feel free to ask me any questions and i will help you the best i can. I love to hear stories and be able to help people in need of any type of help.
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E-mail: Brittany.j.konschuh@outlook.com
Gender: Female
Location: Calgary
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Age: 22
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I have a male friend I have known for the past 16 years of my life and I tell him everything and I love him but not in a romantic way but whenever we meet up for lunch or coffee I always start feeling a little nervous around him and five minutes or so after meeting him that goes away. He and I have tried dating a few times in the past but I felt like it would be better if we stayed friends as I just wasn't feeling it but I still have the nervous feeling when I see himy and feel like I need to put a little extra effort in to looking good for him or subtly flirting with him when I feel sure I don't like him in that way.
What can I do? I know there is a chance he still has feelings for me (he told me years ago he liked me romantically but I didn't feel the same way for him) but now this is happening and I'm not sure what to do or if I should just ignore it. (link)
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i love this question, i have been through this. But i am going to give you some advice that i feel will help. I will not tell you the typical "yes you love him". Although this might be true, you have to think about other things first. Dating someone will either end in heartbreak or marriage. Are you willing to take that risk.
it is a fact that best friends typically young adults will not last and will end up with a very awkward relationship after. my advice depending on your age is that dont rush into anything, if this is truly a great friend they will be there for a long time to come. i would wait for a time when you cant control it anymore and you dont wonder about this question if you like him or not. you will just know. Go with the flow and just be yourself. if things are meant to be then they will be. Falling in love with your best friend is either the most amazing thing in the world or the most terrible thing.
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I'm 14 years old, and I got my first phone when I was 12. I had secretly been going on a chatroom every night on my phone without my mom knowing. On there, I met a man who was 22 at the time and we chatted a bit- nothing sexual or romantic- but then we started talking every single night and we'd talk until the wee hours of the morning. I realized I had developed a crush on him and he said he kind of liked me like that too. By then we had been talking for a few months. So then he said he felt wrong and creepy about it and didn't want to talk anymore because he was afraid he was going to become a pedophile, but I loved talking to him, so I talked him into staying. That happened a few more times until I became 14 and I think he felt a little better about it. But now, I am realizing I'm just dragging him down. We never do anything sexual or inappropriate but we do like each other romantically and nothing can ever come of it. I would never meet with a stranger I met online so even when I'm grown up, nothing could happen. He's a great friend and I feel like I could tell him anything, but I don't know if I should stop talking to him. Is it wrong that we're talking? Is it unnatural and disgusting? He's one of my best feiends, so I want to do what's best for him and me. (link)
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So the age difference is a little off, which i assume you already though having to ask this question. but as other people will tell you the age is the problem. I think that there is much more to worry about, the fact that he is online is a red flag people can say whatever they want to doesn't mean it is what is factual.
Honestly i think that the mental age will become more of a problem, the difference between you too will more than likely change over the years you grow. you will run out of things to talk about and soon you will not have interest in communicating with this man. For now as long as you are just talking and no addresses or numbers or any personal information is shared - be extremely careful. I dont see harm in it, i am young as well and have had the same connection with people online. But its harmless as long as no further action is taken. most people might disagree with this but i am not trying to be "Motherly" im trying to answer as a friend whos been there.
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