My name is Christina, and I love giving advice. If you ever need advice, I will help you in the best way I can :).
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I'm a 13 year old girl. My best friend is a girl. We've kissed before and I really like it. But she always backs away when I try to kiss her. What do I do to make her want to kiss me again? (link)
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Unfortunately, you can't make someone kiss you. They have their on decisions. As much as we all want that to happen, you can't just make someone want to kiss you.
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there is a huge back story so I'll just bullet point in the chronological sequence of events however before that, I am M and was 16 when this happened.
1. I found out the person(lets name her X) I liked got an anonymous card for valentines day
2. I told my best friend that I liked X
3. Next day, best friend said He liked X and then told me he was the one who sent the card to X when I queried if he knew who sent the card.
4. I talked to X, if she knew who was the person who sent the card (since I know), she said no, she said she could 'wait'
5. I asked X a week later, about the card issue, turns out my best friend and X have already started going out secretly and privately for like a week after I found out best friend liked her. and they said they didnt want anyone to know and it was my best friend's Idea. (So B.P 4 was an act)
6. They both lied to me for a week, and thought their acting skills could last their whole relationship.
7. X actually already told heaps of people before I knew, so why am I left out, and i believe that B.F told X I also liked her.
8. BF has lied to me occasionally on important events before
9. I wasn't actually into her as much since the highschool courses are important for tertiary courses, and i knew being in a relationship would distract me. However my main issue is TRUST.
My question is "Should I trust the two of them again?"
My current stance is: No, B.F lied many times. X Followed B.F mindlessly, but even still, told her whole year level, apart from her close friends. So X followed like a sheep against me but also betrayed B.F by spreading it to the year level. But my way of knowing is simply reason and logic, not emotion, authority or morals (link)
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If your best friend lied MANY times before, then I wouldn't trust him. This seems important to you, so what if he does something like this again?
Now for X... If she also lied many times before, then I wouldn't trust her either. But if this is the first time, then I'd still trust her. It seems like she wanted to spare your feelings.
Good luck and take care,
Christina
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