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Hey...Im sabrina.
Im 18, I may be young, but i have been through many things i thought would never in a lifetime happen to me! I try to give the best advice i can, so feel free to ask me anything!
*Bri*

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Ok so my best friend and I hang out all the time and we tell eachother everything. Lately a lot of my stuff has been missing, some of my favorite shirts and a special necklace that I got from my great grandma. I honestly know that I had my shirts in my closet and my necklace on my dresser. I know that they are not lost, i looked everywhere. I have a feeling that my best friend stole them. a few months ago she stole my other friends shirt and my friend found out and took it back. But my best friend swears she didn't steal it and it is hers. I really think she stole them and I really want them back. How do I find out if she stole them? And if i ask her how do I get her to tell the truth? Please help!

you definetly need to confront her about this.
and maybe if you spend the night at her house sometime soon, look around her room...?
hope you get your stuff!
*Bri*

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15\F
i want something cool to do with my friends we don't have cars but were able to get around i have two guy friends n a girl we've been bowling n to the movies but what other things can we do?

haha this may seem wierd, but ice blocking!
its where you find like a grassy hill...and get huge blocks of ice and ya sit on them and race down the hill..lol i know its nerdy but so much fun!

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15f

i have one friend and we're inseparable. except she's not really friends with the clique i'm in with these three other girls, with whom i'm going trick-or-treating with because our costumes match.

i am, in fact, pretty much closer with that girl than the three other girls, but since they invited me to do the costume-matching with them, and i didn't have any prior plans, i said i'd do it with them.

i don't want my other friend to ask me what my plans are for halloween in case she expects me to do something with her. i'd feel really badly because i would rather hang out with her for the night or go trick-or-treating with her. i can't bail out on my three friends, either. and i'm not even sure whether my other friend has other plans with other people. (if she does, then there's no problem cause she can go with her friends and i can go with mine).

so what i'm asking is, i don't want my friend to be mad at me and feel as though i'm "replacing" her because i would feel that way if she said that to me. i have to match costumes with those three girls and go trick-or-treating with them, otherwise it would look weird.

if my other friend does ask me if i have plans, what should i say? i don't think this is a big deal at all, and i don't want it to become a big deal (which it might if she gets mad at me). i know i should be honest and tell her the truth, but how can i make it upto her? i don't think it would make her feel better if i said "but next year we can do something" because neither of us will remember, even if we stay friends.

would it be possible to do the costume-matching with them but go trick-or-treating with her? i KNOW i'd have more fun going with her as opposed to those girls, and then THOSE girls might feel like i let them down, especially since we matched costumes and all.

i didn't intend for this to become a big deal, but it might be unless i explain to my friend that they wanted to do it and i chose to go along with it. those girls pretty much assumed that i'd do it with them since we always hang out and such.

what do you think i should do?

(please don't lecture me about how my friend is not a real friend because she may get mad at me. she is my real friend and i would get mad at her too if she did that to me. she may not get as mad if i explain to her the situation before she even asks if i have halloween plans)

options:
(a) match with my three other friends and go trick-or-treating with them, making a separate compromise to my other friend.

(b) match with my three other friends and go trick-or-treating with my other friend, hoping that my other three friends would understand. (my other friends are, in my eyes, a little bit more understanding than my other friend, although they would be a little hurt if i bailed out on trick-or-treating with them)

(c) explain to my friend the situation before she even asks me if i have halloween plans so that she does not feel as though i was trying to ignore her from finding out.

(d) other.

I agree with the other answer...
Go with your friend...You'll fell so much more comfortable and have more fun...! and you know you can trust her so things would'nt be awkward for ya...
:)

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A year ago i was in eigth grade and a new boy from the seventh grade moved from minnesota to iowa. he hated it here and people would make fun of him just because he was new. I kinda thought he was a little attractive. So one day i say hi. and the next thing you know we always make jokes around each other. Then girls start thinking hes really hot and start hanging with him. So we kinda talk but not as much. Then my friends start to make fun of him while i dont talk. so then he'd ignore me on myspace. the last time he ever said anything to me is on the last day of school. Now im in 9th grade and he goes to another school thats 15 miles away. I've sent him messages on myspace like hey how have you been....jw... or.......wats up.....and hes respond to everybody elses comments other than mine. now i feel like im annoying him and he thinks i probaly like him or obsessive with him or something. How can i get back to the way we were?

well ask yourself...is it really worth all this trouble?
Maybe your better off just letting it go?
But honestly if you want to talk to him so bad then just kinda stop for a little while and maybe text him or message him a little hey...or an old joke you guys used to tell each other...
~Bri~

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my friend lies about everything she makes stuff up all the time and its starting to buyg me. its getting hard to just ignore it. like, if i tell her how i guy likes me, she has to tell me how some guy ive never heard of likes her. or she just lies to make herself seem more interesting. shes honestly the biggest liar ever.

what should i do? its getting hard to trust her..

Well Ive kinda had something like this happen to me recently...just on a bagger scale.
For me it was'nt that hard of a decision...but i had to let her go.
you just need to ask yourself how good of a friends she really is.
thats what i did and honestly she was'nt.
we still talk and are nice to each other...we just dont hang out.
and to be honest ive been so happy and drama free lately!
so you kinda just need to ask yourself is it worth staying friends when you feel like this all the time?
Hope i helped at least some.
keep me updated! :)

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