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14/f
I'm sorry this is going to be sort of long.
Sometimes a really...well, sometimes I HATE my best friend. I know that's a really bad thing to say, but that's really how I feel sometimes. She never wants to do the same things I do-like when I say, do you want to come over? She says, flat out, no, which is not only rude, but it's really hurtful, or if I want to go on a walk, I always have to talk her into it, otherwise she says she's "too tired". I can never have fun with her-like if I say, I love you! She starts freaking out on me and calls me a lesbo, so I can never say that to her. And the most annoying thing she does is she ALWAYS cancels on me! Here's what normally happens:
I invite her over for a sleepover 2 weeks before. She says yes, and we get all excited and start planning out our sleepover. I have to bend and negotiate with my parents for it to happen- usually something like double chores, a lot of begging, or etc. So for the two weeks we talk about it and whatever. Then the night of the sleepover, the phone rings, I pick it up, and she's on the other line. Here's what she says: "Hey. Uhm, I can't come." The excuses are normally: 'I'm tired.', 'I don't feel like it.' 'My stomach/head hurts.', 'My parents don't feel good.', 'I haven't seen my mom for two days.', or 'I have too much homework.' Something along those lines. Once it was something totally out of the blue--her dad broke his foot, so apparently she couldn't come over. This really wouldn't bother me, but it's just that it's happened more than once. Actually, WAY more than once. Maybe fifty or so times.
So I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to her about it, but she gets all upset, and she doesn't understand where I'm coming from. I really love my best friend, I've known her since 3rd grade, so I don't want to end our friendship. I really need help! I'm sorry that was so long. (link)
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i have a so called best friend just like that too. i wouldn't call that type of person a friend at all. i say you start making new friends and hang out with other people so that you wont get your plans canceled and ruined once again. trust me, one day she'll get sick of her own lies and excuses and she's gonna come back to being your friend.
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I am 13 and in seventh grade. I sit with a group of nice people at lunch, except for one. "Grady" insults us, cries, yells at us for minor things, and has come right out and said he sits with us only because he likes to annoy us. Once, he started crying on purpose so we would feel bad and sit with him.
We have tried moving to a different table, ignoring him and being unpleasant so he wouldn't want to sit with us. Most of us have known Grady all through grade school, and we have had enough of his crying and yelling at us for no reason. We just want our space. Do you have any suggestions on how to get Grady to leave us alone? Most of us have classes with him, so avoiding him is not an option. (link)
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maybe if you guys TRY talking to him and being more considerate of him, he'll stop acting that way. communication is key. be nicer but not in a sympathetic way. maybe this boy has some problems in his life or something. but whatever you do don't be mean or rude to him, just give him a chance. if he continues to act that way talk to your school counselor about him, so they could talk to him. do not do what the other advisor told you b/c that will just make things worse.
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my bestfriend is called chloe she's the best.
but we used to have another friend called paige who became a bully.
she had a cousin called tania that came to my school i thought she was nice at first until the more she embraced the school the more chloe began to be her bestfriend and leave me out of it,like i wasn't alive .Until one day my mum told me that my bestfriend was caught on cctv at a shop stealing sweets i saw the tape and got abit upset because she was my bestfriend i thought she would be normal but no she wasn't.
now she thinks im a bully because i always mention it when we fight.
now i don't know what to do to get my best friend back i kinda miss her she's really funny
please write back as soon as possible.
signed confused subject :) :(
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i think that you should talk to her and telling her that you care about her b/c she's your best friend, and try not to fight with her, being nice will help. let her know that when she does things like that hurts you and that you don't want to lose her as a best friend. but just remember 'communication is key.' and if is a real friend she'll understand you but if she starts acting that way again then I guess she isn't worth being your friend and eventually she might drag you into doing things that she's currently doing & you'll get into trouble.
hope I helped:)
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ok so one of my best friends that ive known for like 3 years, yeah his grandmother has cancer. and shes basically dying :/
he visits her in the hospital and he did today actually and he said she was really "weak" and he was really quiet and didnt really talk much. hes like that a lot lately and im pretty sure its because of his grandmother.
he lost his grandfather like 2 years ago and that pretty much devastated him, he just slept around all day for weeks and i know that thats what he'll do if his grandmother (who hes extremely close to) dies.
now, hes a guy so of course he never ever talks about his feelings.
so..what am i supposed to say? i want to get his mind off of it but its like impossible. and i want to be there for him but if he never tells me his feelings i really cant do anything for him.
so, i need some tips on what i can say or do for him. (link)
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SHOW HIM YOU CARE :)
thats probably what he needs most right now especially when he's in that kind of situation, he needs to know that someone also cares about what he's going through. hope i helped :)
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I just realized something. I have a really crappy social life. I dont have any close friends, and Im not even talking about best friends. I used to have a best friend but she changed a lot so we dont talk as much anymore.
I have friends, dont get me wrong, but theyre just friends, and we never hang out outside of ___. We dont talk on the phone, just talk and stuff at ___.
Ive been really lonely lately, and Ive been going through some tough times and I really need someone I can talk to, and someone who will listen to me and CARE. I need someone I can depend on, but I just dont know who. I dont see any of my friends becoming a best friend, and believe me I tried to get closer to some of them, but it didnt work, I guess they have enough close friends and dont need me.
How can I find a best friend? I am already really busy, and I do a sport, and I take classes at this charter school (but most of the kids are really wierd). I dont have time to join more clubs and stuff, so please dont say that. Im homeschooled, Ill be graduating this year and it would be really nice to have a best friend that will be there for me all through college.
Any advice? Please dont say "youll find a best friend in college" because I want one now. (link)
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i know this sounds stupid but.. myspace is the best way for meeting new friends :)
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Age:14
Gender: Female
So there's this guy. From grade five up until grade eight we had always been really close friends. Actually he always liked me more than a friend and he told me that. I never liked him back though. However, at the end of grade eight he stopped talking to me completely. Rumor was that he stopped talking b/c I was too obsessed over this guy I liked and I talked too much about him. That just doesn't seem like what he would get mad over though. He never has before, so I doubt he would this time. I've tried talking to him online,on the phone, at school, just about everywhere... but it's like he never knew me. However he knows me better than anyone I've ever met. It's been 7 months now and things just keep getting worse and worse. It's like I don't exist to him, he honestly doesn't notice me at all ever. I miss having him as a friend so much, he was the only one I ever really trusted and he kept me happy. To make it even worse, I have this small crush on him that keeps growing by the day... I don't know what to do or how to solve this. I have no clue whatsoever why he's mad. No one does. Some good advice would be great. Thx so much!
xox~Becky (link)
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maybe he's jealous of the guy you like and wants to play hard to get with you so he's ignoring you or something, i could be wrong but whatever it is try talking to him yourself and let him KNOW that you are starting to have feelings for him. hope i helped alittle :)
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i have this best friend i've been bestfriends with for a while now.
lets say a year or two?
i always feel so bad because she calls herself the ugly duckling.
she's pretty, and guys are really into her.
but for some reason (please dont think this is conceited sounding..)
whenever me and her are together, the guy ends up being into me and not her.
she gets so upset and has creid on my shoulder about it and told me how jealous she is of me.
it's flattering, sure.
but it hurts to see her like this.
now.. the guy she likes.. lets call him "bob."
bob and her have had a thing for a little,
nothing serious though, they never even kissed,
it was just a mutual liking eachother thing.
but now bob texted me and tells me he likes me.
i don't know what to do.
he said he wants to hook up with me and stuff,
but i would do that to my best friend.
he said if she doesnt find out, it really cant hurt her.
i cant even tell her that bob likes me, because i dont wanna hurt her.
when she gets upset about those things she takes it out on me and it makes me cry.
i don't know what to do.
hook up with him or not?
i'm starting to like the guy but that just makes metters worse.
what do i do!? (link)
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this is gonna sound bad but, you should set him off, because your friend WILL find out and she'll think your backstabbing her and not only will it hurt her so much but it will definitely ruin both of your friendship. tell him you just want to be friends. you dont have to tell her that he likes you as long as you arent backstabbing her by leading him on.
hope i helped :]
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