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my name is Rachel and iam a 16 year old girl and my problem is that my friend we'll call her trina she's always asking me for money and I don't know what to do? (link)
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If you've given her money in the past, why not ask her to pay off what she already owes you before you'll loan her anymore?
Or simply say that you won't do it anymore. Will it hurt your friendship? Maybe a little. But (and I say this not knowing "trina") is it a real friendship, or is it based on your money?
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What would you do if your boyfriend that you really like hates your best friend, and he cursed her out for no apparent reason? What would you do? This is my situation. please help. I will rate! (link)
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I've actually had this problem...
I reccomend either:
1) Try to act as a moderator. Maybe you can't make them like each other, but you can at least keep it civil.
2) Try to keep them separate. I know it's very hard to hang out with two people at two different times, but it's better than being in the company of two people who keep jumping at each other's throats (it's actually not healthy to be in that situation x-x)
Also, if one or the other brings up an issue (ie, your boyfriend starts ranting about how much he can't stand your friend), quickly (but nicely!) change the subject. This is one of those cases where that silly little rule, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all", actually makes sense to use.
Hope it was helpful ^__^
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ok... i have a guy friend & i think bout him 24/7
we have known eachother for bout 1 month but didnt start to talk till 2 weeks ago..so i let him hit it the next day after we 1st talked. ( i know i shouldnt of but i wanted some) & since then we have been pretty close.n-e-way for some reason i say i dont like him & when we kiss i dont see fireworks or nothin. i dont think i like him, but if i didnt then why i spend all day thinkin bout him.he had 2 different situations goin on his gurl & then me. so i told him i didnt want to be on the side. so when i decided not to talk to him i got off the phone for the last time & i started cryin. i guess im havin mixed emotions or somethin. but some1 plz tell me how u think i feel bout this guy................p.s im 16...~1~
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1)nice move genius
2)1 month but only 2 weeks ago?????? and you think you love him? sorry, hon, "love at first sight" doesn't work out very often. wait a while before you decide--just because he's "dreamy" doesnt mean he's Mr Perfect. Wait and see if the feeling fades--if it does before 6 months, you probably don't want to worry about the "intimate relationship" which you have apparently already entered. Try just talking to him. If you cant get him to listen to your voice and carry on a decent, intelligent conversation, you're screwed on any real relationship with him--especially if he's not looking at your face or away from you entirely (if in certain cultures where looking at another's face is badbad).
PS: 16???????????? c'mon, where is your common sense?? hell, I have no common sense by most standards (mine is mostly just rules of algebra as opposed to "rules of life") and I think that's pretty dumb, getting that worked up. Yes, I have a boyfreind, yes we love each other very much, but we haven't done anything at all except sit together, hold hands, kiss. that's it. nothing beyond that. THough he does make excuses to look at my shirts. something about the baby snow leopard staring at him... but we do carry on conversations. And it's looking up.
I may be younger than you, but anyone under 25 should know not to do that so soon.
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THe REAL advice:
the whole "thinking about him 247" and "I dont think I like him but I think about him all the time" things...thats just plain instinct. that's your natural instinct to procreate. with that, you can think anyone is the "most perfect guy in the world". But if you ignore it till you really know someone, you'll be happy with that person even when the feeling fades.
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My friend is really annoying. She's always complaining about everything. Her grandma spoils her rotten, so I know her life is not that bad. I want to tell her o shut up, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. What should I do? (link)
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I had a situation like that a while back. I just said "lets compare, shall we?" then go through a list of things that happen in your life that are bad and things in her life that are bad.
if she's that spoiled, your list will be 20 times longer. if theyre the same length, then I suppose the Freud principle is at work here.
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i hope i put this in the right category... anyhoo, here's my situation...
i know this guy (we're friends, but not close) and i THINK he 'likes' my friend, but i'm not sure. he's pretty friendly with everyone, and it may just be me being paranoid, but i think he's being kinda flirty with her. AND i think she's being that way back to him. now my friend has never been out with anyone before but i think they both 'like' each other, and i'm not sure i like what's happeneing. how do you tell if a guy really likes someone or if that's just their nature? what does everyone think? what would you do if you were in my shoes? (link)
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if you're just friends, chill. it could cause problems, but if yall are all good freinds, there shouldnt be too much problems
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A friend of mine is getting married in a few months, and all she talks about is her freaking wedding. She's so annoying I just want to smack her. Some of our other friends feel the same way, others are all into this wanting to help plan and decorate and buy pretty white crap that I can't get excited about at all, because I'm just not a pretty white crap kinda girl.
She used to be so cool and normal, we'd talk about what was going on in the world, fun weekend activities, etc. Now she's wedding 24/7. What's wrong with her? How do I shake her out of cinderella land and get my friend back? (link)
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She's just excited. The "pretty white crap" is SUPPOSED to mean "virgin, pure and white". kinda stupid, actually, a quote from one of my favorite British comedies: "It means I'm a virgin, pure and white...Stupid male fantasy. Sleep in a different room, Tom."
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I have this friend...we'll call her laura. laura is really weird and she always corrects peoples spelling and shes kinda picky and um....strange. also, she keeps sending me all these emails telling me to go to sites,(spacefem, advicinators) and quiz results. WHAT DO I DO??? PLEASE GIVE ME GUIDENCE, O WIZE AND POWERFUL COLUMNIST! (link)
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that should be Lauren, wise, and guidance.
Chill out and mass delete. Mass deleting annoying emails is FUN!
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My best friend Joleen has been dating this guy Tom for a month now. Tom and my friends Allison and Grace go to the same school, but Joleen and I go to a different one.
Well, Tom, Allison, and Grace's school had a homecoming festival. Allison, Grace, and this other girl Mary were hanging around a fire pit, when Tom comes up and sits on Mary's lap. Then, he says "Oh, no. I'll crush you, you can sit on my lap." and Mary did. Apparently, that wasn't all that happend, either. They were flirting a LOT.
Should I tell Joleen what Tom did? Or should I keep it to myself? (link)
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tell her. Its her right to know, and she would probably find it out from you than from nasty rumors that might get started.
But DONT add any flair or anything--tell her exactly what happened.
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my worst enemy kathryn is talking shit about me(well she always does) , what would be a nice way to tell her she is the essence of evil and i would perferably not talk to her eever again?
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First--ask her to stop spreading crap about you
Second--listen around for if she has stopped
Third--If she hasnt stopped, give her the silent treatment. You gave her a chance
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I have been talking with this guy online for over a year now. He only lives about an hour away but neither of us have met people from online so we've never met in person before. My parents are having a bonfire the weekend before Halloween and I've invited him. He's accepted the ivite but I've also arranged to meet him this weekend. I'm really nervous about it. We're really good friends right now and I guess I'm just worried that meeting in person will ruin that. The question I have is should I be worried? (link)
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Probably. You've never met the guy in person, so you SHOULD be at LEAST nervous. You should probably have someone with you JUST IN CASE he's really a sicko. there's a chance; you never know for sure. I'm not saying hes actually a creep, i'm saying you don't know yet.
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