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So i have this "friend" that thinks everyone likes her and all and she's always like "oh everyone's posing me" and what not. and she CONSTANTLY wants to prove something to me, like she's better than me or something. and i frankly, don't care if she's better or not, but what really bugs me is that one of my bestfriends is ALWAYS complaining about how annoying she is but always goes out of her way to be nice to the "annoying" kid. i talked to her about it already and it didn't help but strain our relationship. and quite frankly, a lot of kids think she's kinda...awkward but they all STILL go out of their way to please her and all. it's gotten to the point that i just can't stand being around her because of her so focking annoying behavior. she ALWAYS wants people to pity her ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS and she ALWAYS thinks people are posing her when in reality, she's as much of a poseur as any of us. this has been bugging me for the longest time so what do you think i should do? sitting down and talking to her is definitely not a choice because she's such a butthole.

I HOPE ANY OF THESE ADVICE THINGS HELP!!:
my suggestion is just ignore her and hang out with your other friends and soon they will all begin to ignore her to and eventually she realize how shes acting and if that doesnt work then simply just yell at her and make sure she listens
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If she starts bugging you again, tell her, in a nice way, that she is really bugging you, and you want ehr to stop it, and if she doesn't then just don't be friends with her. Hope i helped.
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I have a friend JUST LIKE THAT! and it's RELE hard 4 me cuz she lives right next door, and I know EXACTLY whut u mean! I rele haven't figured out whut to do yet....but so far i have been kind of not hangin' out with her as much. i mean..dont blow her off completly but give her a hint and if she dont get it then...then tri to tell her...start the convo like "i have a friend that goes to another skool, she..." and tell a story about "someone else" and see if she gets it then. ya noe? i hope that helped a little.
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Maybe blowin up on her and sayin what you got say will straighten her out cause she needs some reality blown into her mind to think people are actually poseing her.. If everyone was posing her i think that you wouldnt be able to stand anybody.. but i would just speak my mind if i was you maybe be a lil bit mean but just so she knows whats going on.. ♥ Nikki
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Hi Hun, Sorry to hear about this friend of yours. Hmm.. I know this sounds weird, but iv'e had a friend like this a while ago. I know it seems like she wants to be "miss popular", or the most beautiful, or anything like that. I know this sounds a little mean, but if your this annoyed of her behavior and/or personality, you should try making some new friends that you can actually hang around or thats more like you. Because every girl is beautiful in there own way, and if someone like this girl your mentioning is putting herself out there too much, then she really doesnt have a true beauty. It doesn't seem like shes really a poser.. but maybe sort of a "Push Out Girl". If you know what that means.. But like i said. If this has been annoying you long enough, you should consider making new friends. And in the end, she will finally realize what shes been doing wrong.

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why did u take away your profile, the one with all the dif catagories in it...it was awesome, oh well.

well i took it away because i hate how my profile is always like "sorry to many characters"!!!! and so i got rid of my huge click profile thing. but if it's missed, i guess i'll have to put it back on huh? yay
remember: just eat it

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I feel like im losing one of my best friends... and it makes me feel even worse that i'm losing her to a guy she met this year. Even one of my other friends admitted "yeah, she has replaced u wither her bf". One of the worst parts is that she doesn't tell me anything anymore eigther and we never hang out or at least... when we do her boy friend in a "politfully/mean" way says to go away so that they can cuddle. i feel like telling him that the only time i get to see her these days is when hes there and its not fair that he gets to hang out with her 24/7 and still complains and i never see her anymore! i've tried calling her to invite her over, but shes always busy. so i guess my question is...how can i make sure i we lose our friendship for good and how can we hang out more with her boyfriend also there constantly telling u to leave?

First of all, you're not losing her. now that she has a boyfriend not all the attention is focused on you and you're probably not use to it. When her boyfriend tells you to leave I bet you anything she doesn't just let it happen easily. I'm thinking you should call her ahead of time and not just the day before/of because she obviously has a lot going on. You've probably already have let your friend know about how you feel so she's probably going to do anything in her way to make sure you're not feeling replaced because that is impossible. You've probably known her for a million years more than she has known her boyfriend so how could you even possibly think he could top all the fun times and inside jokes y'all have had. What are you doing still reading this! go call her up now and invite her!

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theres this guy at school that all my friends are friends with, but i havent really liked him from the start... maybe its b/c i hear all these bad things he says behind one of my best friends back... anyways what should i do...
i've tried being nice to him and talking to him more but, he just obviously doesn't like me eigher...if i could learn to be friends with him... that would be great, but he doesn't really want to be... or at least thats what i heard from one of my friends
One more thing... should i try to forget all of these mean things that he has said behind my friends back??
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So basically you'Re saying he doesn't want anything to do with you? Well that's his decision, and I suppose you just have to come to teRms with that. It seems like you've done all you could. Don't woRRy about getting him to like you; it seems like you've tRied to bRidge the gap, but he just Refuses. I say just give it a Rest and don't conceRn youRself anymoRe. If he's Really that good of fRiends with youR fRiend, peRhaps he'll change his opinion of you, oR at least tReat you with Respect in the company of youR mutual fRiend. Hey, if you don't like him you just don't. Some people just Rub each otheR the wRong way. Just be polite when you see him, but you don't have to be fRiends just because everyone else is. :)

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My bestfriend(15) , this guy(15), and I(14) all go to that same church. Now my bestfriend and this guy are going out and their parents dont know about itand are completely against them being friends. There hole relation ship is based on rebelion and she realizes it but says she doesnt care at least not right now. He has hurt her a couple of times and she still refuses to see it. She won't listen to any of her friends including me. What the heck am i supposed to do, just sit back and watch???

Ok well you should know that I always don't have the best advice so I got some OTHER people to help me with this one:

**Here's one way (if you're feeling really mean though): You could tell her mom. That would put an end to it if you feel that strongly about it.
~that could be a way to end ur friendship though so... yea not good
**I say tel someone about it her parents your parents, ANYONE RESPONSIBLE! Or talk to him and ask him if he relizes that he hurts her, cuase he might notice that it's wrong to do. But i really think that you should talk to your parents about this first and then see what they sa about it and do what they say.
**Ugh, that sucks. You are in the same situation as I was a few months ago. Just try telling her. Chances are, she won't listen to you. She will just have to learn the hard way. There is nothing else you really can do. Sorry.
**Pray. I mean there is nothing you can do when you have made your point and she isn't listening. She will feel stupid later when she finally breaks it off with him. I promise you, I have done it before as a teenager and a 20 year old. People in love are truly blind.
**that's all you can do, she'll be blind to it and he'll hurt her some more and there's nothing that anyone can do about it, and it's not because she can't see what he's doing, it's because she doesn't want to see it. women can be very blind when it comes to the guy she's dating
**Well, you're friend has her own life, granted at 15 (the teenage years) folks get more egocentric (only seeing the world from their point of view, kinda like toddlers) and well...the more you say she shouldnt do something, the more likely she is to do it. So quit feeling like its your responsibility to "save" her from herself...she will have to learn for herself...thats what life is about :o)
**It'll really be painful but as a true bestfriend. Talk to your bestfriend about it and say that you're only hurting yourself. Try to make her understand but if she doesn't listen no matter how you try to explain to her then just let it go. At least you tried to help her but she didn't listen
ok well hopefully at least one of my friends' advice will help!
~mags~

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