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Q: lets say your friend moved, and your friend asks
"hows your life without me?"
what is the cutest/nicest reply?
for ex:life without you is like_____
please use methaphor and list at least 3 thank you =]

Life without you is like Peanut butter without jelly.

Life without you is like salt without Pepper.

Life without you is like Chips without Salsa!

I thought it was cute... Not sure if it's metaphoric, but hey... lol

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: Okay so i had really liked this one guy and i told my BFF (we'll call her j). And we were setting up for this promotion thing and afterwards some extra people came to clean up...and he was one of them, in my mind i was screaming yes! So i talked to him for like a second... and when he asked me where some things went i told him...so about 10 minutes later i went home...but i guess when i was gone j told him i liked him! And she didn't even tell me she told him...so the next day i made a total fool of myself flirting and such...He even told other people...and i found out later from my other BFF,b, that j likes him! Please help me .
Thank You and God Bless,
Breezy:)

Are you the same person from yesterday, i remember reading something about a girl talking about her best friends B and J.. lol anyway! That's besides the point. If I were in your shoes I would tell J that you didn't want her to tell him, because in reality she may not even know that you didn't want it to be told to him. So I would tell J this and then I would tell her that you like this guy also and that it wasn't a nice thing to do if she did it purposely because it made you feel embarrassed. Anyway hope I helped :)

PS: If she likes him too then I suggest live with it because this always happens with best friends. Boys Boys Boys...

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FiaBean

Q: I have this "friend" and she is totally annoying. She calls me, talks to me all the time, and is really obsessed with this fugly guy Tyler. Well I think she knows we (me and my bff) don't like her, but i also feel bad because NOBODY DOES!!! What can i do without hurting her feelings? %(

Okay there is no real way to break this to her without hurting her feelings. But honestly, by the look of it this may not be the only time that this has happened. I think you should sit her down and explain to her how you feel. If you want nothing to do with her then i suggest telling her that you can't continue the friendship because you think that she may be a little cllingy. Or maybe if you still want to have her as a slight accuaintance you can tell her calmly that you just need space. That always gives off a hint to back off. This "frienship" is definitely not fair for you and you need to let her know that. Back off yo! :) Anyway...

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: ok well just recently my friend sent me a message over myspace saying that we havent hung out in forever and we should. i havent hung out with him since last summer and he is a year older then me and we were always good friends. well he messaged me and said how about friday? and i said sure. so then i just started gettin texts from him and i think he thinks were more then friends and this is gonna be a date type thing. weve never been more then friends and i dont like him like that. i dont want to go out on friday with him anymore beause i dont want him thinkin its a date but i dont wanna blow him off either but i dont wanna tell him that i think we should just be friends because i think he will back off and wont talk to me cuz thats his personality. what do i do?

Personally, I think you should go on the outing and see how it goes. If you notice he is acting like it's a more than friends date then just keep your distance and don't lead him on. If he doesn't act like that then you will know he just wants to be friends to! You can always drop hints or you can even bring a friend! Bringing friend's always make things less awkward and can send a message that it is just a friendly outing.