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im 14 and ok im kind of a prude and believe no sex before marriage and you should wait for someone special before going out with them... especially when you're young... and my best friend is turning into a hoe. she got her first boyfriend, and i was reaally happy for her, but then on their first date they made out, and other people were around. they werent even going out for a week, and they didnt even kiss normally before that. then she wanted me to grind with her at the last dance, and i was like NOOO. i would only grind with a guyyy and if i had been going out with him for a while.

i know this is how like old people think, but i want a guy who cares about me, not just a guy that wants to do stuff with my body. and i dont care if i wait for that. but my friend is alwayss bringing up her bf and its soo annoying. she hasnt been a good friend for the past year either, although she says im her bff... shes been ditching me for her other group of friends a lot, but hangs out with me mostly in schol.

i am really sick of her and im afraid shes going to do something that she regrets... should i keep being friends with her, try to help her, or ignore those problems?

thats sweet and all that you care, but she isn't you. And most people find stuff like that normal. And maybe if she isnt a good friend and doesnt share your morals oyu arent ment to be, so dump her and move on. Hope i helped.

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okay so my best friend moved about 3 years ago but were still THE BEST of friends maybe even closer. Normally i call her everyday after school. Then when finals came up i didn't have much time to call her, and she got pretty mad about it And now that its summer i'm always out so i call her sometimes but most of the time she doesn't answer. Then about a week ago i dropped my phone in the pool and it doesn't work and she got a new number that i don't have memorized. So i left her a message on myspace telling her what happened (cause that the only way i could get a hold of her) then today she flipped out cause she hasn't talk to me in a week. It just makes me really mad that she gets mad at me for that. It wasn't like she was picking up the phone calling me, she never does. what should i do?

Well In all seriousness you might want to tell her you arent dating. I mean c'mon she should understand how hard it is to keep home life under control let alone keep in touch with friends 57356 miles away. Tell her she can't expect you to live for her becasue you have other friends and things. And not in a harsh way becasue you are sure she does too. But tell her you're trying your hardest and if that isnt good enough what would be? Because she can't expect you to skip out on your life jsut to please her.

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In my sophomore year in high school, I've become friends with a senior and known him for only a year. As soon as he graduated and school ended, I have thought about no one else but him. It was then that I realized that I liked him a lot, and I missed him a lot. We still talk over the phone and e-mail and instant message, but I want to open up to him and tell him how much I like him personally before he moves on to college. I know there is no easier way to do this, but are there a couple of things to say before I open up, just to ease up the conversation?

invite him out with you and your friends and when you're ready to talk to him lagg behind. You might even want to start the converstation with one of him past relationship and show that you have all of those qualities she was missing just to show him you're an option. Hope I helped good luck;

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ok, i have this friend. she's a girl and i'm a guy. we're really close. we kinda flirt with each other but we do it in a friendly way. but she has a bf who thinks that i'm trying to steal her from him. we(me and my friend) keep trying to tell him that we're just friends, but he won't listen. then my friend and i went to a nightclub last night without him. well, the next day he found out that i was dancing with his gf(my friend) and he calls me up and he's like "You better F****ing stop that S**t or else i'm gonna F***ing beat the S**t out of you when i see you!" what i'm wondering is what should i do?

Okay well you sound interested in her and even if you aren't you should tell her he said this so she can either talk to him aobut it or dump him. If you think of this as a serious threat like he might kill you I would inform the police but if hes just some whimpy white boy I wouldnt take him too seriously :] hope I helped xoxo good luck.

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