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would you consider someone who

*tap, jazz, and hip-hop dances
*used to listen to britney spears, went to 2 of her concerts, owns her autorgrpah and danced to her songs on his porch
*loves pretty woman & thats so raven
*and gets excited when going to the mall or shopping

gay? do all of those things add up to gay also he gets overly excited about gossip. . . do you think hes gay? he denies it but it seems like he is, i want to believe him since hes my friend but theres so many signs!! aghh

well, he could be and he couldn't be!Not to be rude but why do you need to know so bad?!Personally, im against being homosexual, but that dosen't mean you have to judge the person or think of them any different!

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Ok, i recently posted a "get advice" thing because my sister hates me, and wanted to know what to do about it. So i started to talk to my friend, Mel who is REALLY good with advice, and i went on and on on how horrible my life was and she said:
her: NO
her: don't even start on that "my whole life" shit
her: okay!
her: You life has sucked i guess
her: I mean, duh, you've had a family, and money, and you get anything you want. You have both parents who love you
her: My dad died on christmas eve, my family has NO money, my mom is depressed
her: my older brother won't move out
her: don't even start saying that your whole life has sucked
her: because you have NO CLUE what a sucky life is like!
and then she signed off. Now her away messages says "Yeah, pretty pissed right now. Don't feel like talking. Be back on later." and i totally can relate, but i just REALLY hope i dont lose her friendship. Like, she's really the only person who understands me, and has been there for me. I really dont want to lose her. And i thought since we were such good friends i could just sorta cry on her shoulder, when it turns out she was the one who wanted to cry i guess. What do i do? i called her house, but her brother said she was sleeping, although i really dont think she was. What i want to know is, 1. how do i know she'll still be my friend, and 2. what do i do when i need to get this off my chest? cause i obviously need someone to talk to :(

Thanx,

-Daddy's Little Defect

Wow... that was probably her only way of telling you how her life is and how she feels. Sooner or later, if she dosen't confront you, then keep trying to confront her about it. Apologize for saying your life is bad and tell her you just wanna be friends and that you dont wanna fight or loose touch because she means alot to you. If that dosen't work then give her some space for awhile. If that dosen't work, then it wasn't meant to be. I hope you guys get back together cuz it seems like you were pretty close..good luck ♥

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ok so i have this friend and she thinks that we are "bffe" we kinda are but she doesnt act like it. so when ever i tell her something she doesnt seem to listen. she totally ignores me. when i tell her about liek guy stuff about what the guy i liek tells me you blah all that she has no reaction. like for example she doesnt say awww how cute or anything like that. but if i was another person liek her other "bffe"'s or cousin she would totally give them advice and tell them everything.. i dont understand?

ps im in 9th grade and shes in 11th

I'm in the same situation. I only have one friend at school (Im not a dork its a small school with immature kids lol) and she dosent act like a good one at all. She always thinks im too nosy. But anyways, I just wouldn't open up to her like I would a best friend. Just talk to her about normal girl talk. Its probablly because of the age gap. 9th graders and 11th graders have really different views on things, and of course they will because the 11th graders have already been there, and they wanna talk about 11th grade stuff. Find a good loyal friend your age to talk about things your going through right now. I hope I helped ♥

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I have this really annoying neighbour that lives in my appartment complex.
I feel that she is just trying to use me. This is what happened. I ran into her when I went to check my mail. She asked me if I knew anyone who would want her budgie(a bird in a cage). I said I couldnt think of anyone and that she should put an add in the paper. She told me that would be too expensive. Then she asked me if I could give her and her bird a ride to the SPCA. She doesnt have a car. I really didnt want to and told her it would have to be another day. She told me she would try another person who had a car.
Well she just knocked on my door. She said she couldnt get a hold of this other person and needed a ride tomorrow afternoon. I told her I couldnt and that I would be working (which is true). I thought she would leave me alone but then she had the nerve to say, "Well WHEN CAN YOU GIVE ME A RIDE TOMORROW"? AND WHAT TIME DO YOU START WORKING"? I wanted to tell her off but I live in a small building and didnt want people to bad mouth me. So I caved in and now I have to drive her and her stupid bird to the SPCA tomorow at 11. She didnt even offer to give me any gas money!! I don't even like her, she's a nosy old bag and always asks my when I'm going back to finsih my college degree and should move back in with my parents. I also heard on the weather channel that we are getting freezing rain tomorrow, and it's a bad road up there. Am I overreacting or is this lady just using me?

Well, I know thats a pain in the neck, but why not do a favor for her. I know you don't want to but you already said you would, and it can't be that bad. It was really rude of her to say that, but she's older and I think it would be really nice of you to give her a ride. Maybe she's messed up in her life or something bad happened in the past and she's trying to help you out in a grouchy mean way. Just maybe!
I hope I helped

♥

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A friend of mine is avoiding talking to me. She says that she isn't talking to anybody who needs help/advice or anyone whos going through things because she has her own stuff to deal with. So, yeah, we're having problems because I should be able to count on her but I just can't. We're both in theatre, and both doing Costumes for this next show. So basically, i'm stuck with her. Plus i've been sick and i've missed some of the crew calls. Should I just quit costumes?? I would do the show after this, but I don't feel like being on her crew. I enjoy sewing and making costumes but.....

xoObriianax3--thats not true, everyone makes mistakes. She's obviously going thru tough times and it may be hard, but try to be there 4 her 2 comfort her.

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ive been best friends with this guy since the day he moved in across the street from me nothings ever been wrong i mean we got in small fights every once in a while but we hugged and forgot. since he went into 9th grade and i went into 8th we havent seen alot of each other but i understand why i mean he always has football practice or hes hanging out with his other friends i saw him at the beggining of the year and we hung out and caught up on what we did over the summer it was just like nothing had ever happened and everythnig was alright but when i saw him a few days ago he completely ignored me and it might have been because his friends were there and he just wanted to be stupid but i dont think so because he didnt even look at me and when i said i hate you (its an inside joke) he said it back when he usually says but i love you. to tell you the truth if it was one of my other friends i could really care less but its not because i like him and last year he said he liked me. what do i do so he doesnt ignore me and so i can see him more?

Well theres nothing for you to do about him ignoting you,thats his choice and its his fault.DONT let him take advantage of you!!!!!
You just worry about being you and dont try to change the person you are for him.If hes not realizing that theres this great girl that he used to be frends with and is ignoring you,then forget him!!Its hard to do but you can either just move on and forget about him or you can talk to him about it or try to have more 1 on 1 time like on the fone,or online or something..



I hope I helped!
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