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Q: Im moving to the Korea next week and my close friend is avoiding me or we barely talk now and i dont want her to avoid me any idea why shes not talking to me that much? but when we talk sometimes she gives me a big bear hug like im leaving tommorow what is she trying to tell me?

Your friend could be telling you diffeent things. Your moving and she could be hurt. Knowing that shes losing you and she thinks that if she talks to you too much she will break down and not able to be with other friends or people and just be downright miserable. Your friends obdviously mean alot to you. She may feel like shes never gonna see or talk to you ever again.
Just talk to her and Actually ask her "Why are you not talking to me and Im leaving next week and I dont want to leave a bad situation unfinished" Ask her and see what she says. Email me back with her answer.

Q: I was reading these things about friends being attached and its everything me and my best friend do except hes a guy but everyone thinks hes gay and he does look gay and he told me he doesn't really like anyone. hes had girlfriends before but he flirts with guys a lot and he'll tell me that they are cute and sexy. he doesn't believe in bisexuality either. Sometimes it seems like he likes me and I get it a lot from people and they think we are together.
Its really annoying cause I would never want to be with him like that.
Do you think he likes me more than a friend?
I'm not really sure.
thanks :]

Well If he flirts with other guys then you knows its something. Recognize if he does sports like basketball and the way he talks. Maybe distance away from him for A little while and see the way he reacts. Look on yahoo or www.dogpile.com and Find the definition for Gay. See If they give any results or qualitites of A gay person See if your friend shows any qualities then just watch your back on him.

Q: how do you know if your friend is attached to you? and do you think being attached with your friend is bad or good and why?

Being attached Is not always a bad thing. When you really enjoy spending time with someone and You and them are best friends or have a lot of fun together then its not bad. Making sure you have time with other friends too especially if yyou have any jealous friends. Attached is not real. People use attached as A bad thing. Attached just shows How much you love being with that person.

Q: I am 13/f, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months. My friends absolutly hate my boyfriend. I can see why though. He is always calling my friends names!! It gets on there nerves and even my nerves quite often! Its nothing bad like, fat, ugly, ect. but its like your stupid, your a loser, and, like blonde jokes. So far all of my friends told me i should break up with him. Isn't that crazy?!? Even some of them say that if i dont break up with him, then we wont be friends anymore. So they are asking me; me, or your boyfriend? I dont know. i really love my boyfriend, and love my friends. i sure am in a mess.

Thanks for all the comments/advice, it is well appreciated.

Tell your boyfriend that its not right for him to say those things. You really love him but you love your friends too. Theres no reason your friends and boyfriend cant get along. Make sure your boyfriend Apologizes or acts nicer to them. Your friends are going to be more stubborn then your boyfriend. Trust me.
I had to deal with this A few months ago. My friends boyfriend stood up on a chair and Told the whole homerom who I like I couldnt believe it.I hated him but he Apologized and picked me on ihs teams and I knew he didnt like me but he was trying to apologize and make up for it. Just trust me on this.Just make sure You have a balancing act between your friends and Boyfriend too.

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