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Q: hola rica,
how's it going? you obviously know who this is, and well....i guess i don't really have a question....i was just bored and was lookin at that one question, hahaha....anyways...i guess im suppose to ask for some advice sooo...umm.....well....i dont really need advice....damn, ah well....just answer that first question...yea...
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Heh heh--Hey Glenn.
It's going great. Lol.
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Q: i really like this guy and it kinda seems liek he likes me too. there could be a furture between us but its my friends. I haven't told any of my friends because they don't like him at all. but i like him alot. and its not like i don't know him. we have been best friends for over a year now and my friends haven't talked to him in months. i don't know what to do. i wanna tell my friends but i'm afraid of what they will think.
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Don't worry about what your friends will think. If you do tell them, they shouldn't think any less of you because of it. If they do, what kind of friends are they? If they really TRUELY hate him, then you might have something to worry about. But it doesn't seem like they do, so just relax and let them know.
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Q: what is your view on "friends with benefits" idea?
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Well, seeing as though I've been in that kind of relationship before, I know that there are some good qualities and some bad. A good one is that if you're single and don't want a commitment, then there you go; you still get some action. But a rather awful one (that happened to me) is you could fall for him/her, or vise versa, and the person wouldn't feel the same back. You'd imagine that it'd be sort of akward after that. So I'd say that it's really the person's choice, but there are a few major ups and downs to it.
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Q: I have two best buds, but they treat me like a third wheel! Whenever ones not somewhere, THEN the other one actually treats me normaly. Then my other bb comes back and there like..who are YOU again? I've tried talking to them, and they say they'll change, but they never do. And don't tell me to dump them.
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Maybe you should try to bring another friend into the mix. Someone who's a better friend to you then to them. Because then, if your two bb's start acting up again, the other friend is always there to back you up if you try to bring this subject up to them. It's always good to add another person if there's a 3rd wheel.
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Q: oks so i have this friend and she always like "your my best friend in he world" but since this summer she found her own little group and then she rubs it in my face like when shes like "yeah i had a couple of friends over today" like its no big deal when it really hurts because everyone of thoes people that shes randomly buddy buddy with was one of my best friends but ever since they have gotten into this group they have never been the same to me and its gone way past telling her bc we have been in so many fights already and i'm tired of talking about everything with her now. also did i add shes a jerk to my other friends and she always makes me feel little with the people i like on tv. can you help me?
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No offence sweetie, but that seems pretty simple to me. You don't NEED a friend like that. I'm having trouble figuring out why you would even want one. You can do so much better than to have friends like her bringing you down. I mean, does it REALLY matter to you whether or not she likes your friends? So she talks shit about them. She's only trying to put you down in that area, because it sounds as if she is, indeed, a bitch. But you don't have to put up with that. Just forget about her, it's almost a lost cause. Face it, she's gone to Hell, and she's not coming back.
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Q: my "best friend" copies me a lot and it gets on my nerves. But yesterday she bought the same purse that I've had only for like a month when I asked her not to get it. Then she returned it but layed on the guilt and she mae me feel really bad because she said she was jealous of me cuz I have a great life, but i moved to TX from MD last year, and she said that moving wasnt a big deal but it was and so she wants to be fine and friends again but she really pissed me off and I don't really want to be her friend anymore so I don't know what to do now(I am 11 and a girl)
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Is she younger than you? I think she's copying you because she wants to be like you. Everyone needs someone to look up to. Just tell her to lay off some. Sure, it'll be hard, but it's really the only way to get her to stop trying to be like you.
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Q: Alrite I need some help. Basically here's how it goes. My bestguy friend and me are very very close. We hang out like everyday cause we are practically neighbors. And I've known him 4ever. Alrite so lately I notice that he has been like touching me & my bestfriend alot. Not really sexually just putting his hands on us(if you know what i mean)He has touched me before though on my leg and touched my boob on 'accident'. So whenever he goes to touch me, even if its somethin small I tell him not to put a finger on me. He will always go why, why, how come other guys can touch you? So I just needa know if the problem is like me getting older and beingm more 'touchy' about this kinda thing, him going threw puberty, or he might kinna like me! pLeAsE hElp if yOo caN! thanks ;)
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Absence of a girlfriend makes a boy a pig, basically. No offence to you, but I don't think he likes you in a serious relationship way. It may be because you have grown in certain ways, and he's noticed that, and he's become interested. And when I say interested, I don't mean dating wise. Maybe the reason that he's touching you is because he may want to get with you. Blame hormones.
But, if you're uncomfortable about him touching you, then you have to tell him. And if he asks you why other guys can touch you, all you have to tell him is "Well, yeah, that's cause I LET them touch me." If he's a true friend, then he'll respect you and stop. Because the last thing any girl needs is a guy pretending to be their friend just so they can touch them.
But yeah, it's probably just hormones. Maybe you should find him a girlfriend, so he can touch her instead of you and not get slapped in the face.
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Q: The thing is, im a guy 15 and i really have a nak for getting gay guys to like me and having girls think im gay. im not gay and i dont come off as gay..i think, but i try to be a generaly nice guy is there any reason why a person would think another person is gay.
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Another person really shouldn't assume that a guy is gay. It's kind of discriminating. The only real way to know if someone was gay is if they came out and told the people. But there are some steriotypical ways that people judge other people on...
If you act kind of girlish at points
If you're really into fashion
If you have somewhat of a high voice
If you most of your friends are girls
But, like I said before, those are just steriotypical. They're not always true.
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Q: OK
every1 always tells me that impopular just becuz i have lots of friends well all summer my bestfriends and i have been hangin out and im kinda getting sick of them and now im going into middleschool and i kina wanna hang out wit other people but i dono wut to do. i have lots of other friends but i dont wanna abandin my bestfriends.
Wut Should I Do?
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Middle school years are great. You meet a ton of new people, you get a bigger atmosphere, and you try to be smarter, haha.
You should go out and hang out with some new people. After, what's life without meeting new faces? If your best friends get jealous or get mad at you for having new friends, then you have to ask yourself if they're really good friends. A good friend would be open for you to meet new people. Just imagine, if you get a new boyfriend, and you want to hang out with him a lot, would they get mad?
A real bestfriend should be able to understand that you want to open your horizons to people.
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Q: my best friend is really kewl and everything but she's stubborn and she wants to have sex but she just turned 14 and she doesn't even have a boy frined but how do i talk to her about the dangers and stuff?
signed,
confused
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That's a really hard position you're in. Sometimes friends can block out help from people because they trust their instincts so much. But that doesn't mean that she doesn't value your opinion or help.
You have to just be totally blunt about speaking to her. The next time she brings it up, just plain out tell her "Yeah, we need to talk about that."
Yes, sex does have some pleasurable qualities, but they should be saved for when people are in love. Because if they're not, there are other qualities about sex that will make her regret it BIG TIME. I think that you should just set them on the table for her. Show her that there are some major issues she would have to worry about after she's done it:
~She'd probably be labeled as an "Easy Target" for most guys. And trust me, that may sound like a good label at the time for her, because of all the action and attention she'd get, just that's a horrible thing to be known as.
~She would have to deal with the threat of teenage pregnancy. Ask her if she would really want a baby at the age of 15. Yes, there are some birth controls that can be used, but none of them are really 100%. Condoms break. Birth control pills are 99.9% affective. There is a chance that the other .1% will slip up. The only truely affective and safe birth control is not doing it all together.
~Is she ready for the risk of death? Believe it or not, sex can kill you. AIDS, STDs, there are so many health threats that come along with the package. It only takes one time for a disease to pass through. You have NO IDEA where your partner has been, so you don't know how many people he's slept with and, unknowingly/indirectly, you've slept with.
If your friend knew that, I doubt that she'd still consider it. You have to bring some of these issues up with her before she does anything drastic.
There is a possiblility that she won't listen, but she can never say that you didn't try or care.
Good luck!
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bio
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So, I decided to start this up again after having it idlized for over 2 years. I would have made a new site, except I really like the name that I had. So yeah. Here I am now. A.Good.Lie is back.
I'm a cosmetology major. I love art. And music. And..yeah...
I'll update this later.
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Info
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: New Jersey Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: July 24, 2004 Answers: 85 Last Update: August 5, 2007 Visitors: 9595
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