hello! my name is amber and i have been through a lot over the years! my father died when i was 6 years old and 6 years later i developed an auto-immune disease called lupus. i have been in and out of the hospital many time and have been through severe pain physically, and mentally because of it. no question is too odd or confusing, and i will try my best to give you my best and most honest advice. i am very spiritual and into positive thinking, so i could also help you out with anything having to do with finding your way in life. love and light!
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how your family have impact on you (link)
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we are all affect to each other in various ways. your family can have a huge impact on everything from your over-all mental health to your physical health. it's important to try and establish a healthy relationship with your family otherwise it could lead to other emotional issues going on in other various parts of your life. everything in life is linked to each other in some way and family plays a very large role in that web of inter-connections.
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My mom and I dont get along. For example, i listen to music revolving around Harry Potter (wizard rock) she says Im doing it to purposefully annoy her since she doesn't like it.
I explained that i was not doing it to annoy her and I really did like to listen to it.
She said that if i listened to it in private (headphones, when shes not in the room.
So, today i was dancing to one of them, with my headphones in and when she wasn't there, like she said. I was having a good time. She came down and blew up at me because i was listening to it. I reminded her of what she said and she shouted she never said that. (note: her memory is fine) then she said
"maybe i should call your teachers and tell all them how disrespectful you are, and how they think you're a perfect angel. But really a brat!"
I did what she told me to!
Please give me some advice, i really dont want to lose my music!
Ps: there is nothing bad in my music.
Thank you! (link)
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wow.. sounds liek yur parents are being a bit ridiculous.. no wait, they're being REALLY ridiculous. sorry you have to go through this hun, but you really need to stick up for yourself and calmly explain to your parents that there is nothing wrong with your music and there is nothing wrong with you for liking it. our parents challenge us to grow as individuals and we do the same for them! this is just another small obstacle along the road, and i wish you the best of luck in staying strong and standing up for your freedom/rights. love what you love and don't let anyone else tell you differently!
amber
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What to do with a gambler (link)
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my mom had the same issues and it started getting bad so we made her get therapy at a local health centre. the therapy was only for one week and included her meeting up with other people like her who had the same addictions. the trick is you need to get to the root cause; why does he/she REALLY gamble? you can;t just try and make someone stop gambling, because there is an unresolved emotion behind it which will still be there, and it will end up resulting in another form of addiction, even if that is food or the shopping. the best advice i can give you is to try and seek help from an out source who knows what they are doing and have dealt with people like that before. they will know how to truly heal them. there are many sites on the internet that will help, i'm sure you know how to use google so just search for therapy centers near you or ask your doctor next time you see them.
good luck
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My mom says i can go to boys houses if she talks to the parents. I told her she can talk to this boys parent that i like,but now she wont let me go unless my friends come with me.She says he can come here,but i want to be able to go out too! What should i do? (link)
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same thing happened with my mom.
start off with what she lets you do, just go wit it and be easy with her.
then you will start to gain her trust :)
don;t worry about the future! have fun Now.
for now you were just meant to hang out like that, don't fight against your mom, go with the flow
it will work out :).
be grateful for what she is letting you do now, and everything else will follow..
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ok, basic story in short form: girl gets boyfriend, almost three months later girl and boy are planing to go to school dance. girl's mom wants her to get readdy at mom's. girl wants to get readdy at dad's (divorced parents since girl was like 2). mom feels hurt. mom is kinda pissed off at girl. girl now feels guilty. mom tells girl point blank that girl must get readdy at mom's for prom in two years...girl is not sure if she wants too. but girl still feels guilty about getting readdy at dad's for her frist fromal dance with boy. should girl be feeling guilty???
please help! i feel horrible!
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I dont think you should feel guilty at all... I wouldnt worry about it because peopple get in fights sooo much with their parents and some people dont at all but everyones different. I think that with you parents divorced and all you might get in more situations like these. so you should choose whcih one you would like to spend at your Dad's more, and then tell your mom that you'll spen the other one with her to make it up. Plus your mom can probablly help you more on getting ready and tips and things, you should maybe try to give her a chance at it :D
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ok here it goes...My mom had a disease which you call Gillian Bereau in 2001 and she almost died from this and she finally got over this but not fully now we have found out she has lupus but not tha bad kind yet but its still bad and it could get real bad if she dont treat it...She cant swollow nothing she lives off on icecream and boost because something is wrong with her throat that causes her not to be able to swollow nothing so she cant take the pills...im not that healthy myself i have alot of problems and im a 15yr old so im going through the rough times like friend troubles and relationship stuff and now im stayin really stressed out and i dont know what to do about it please help!!
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You should get a doctors help! I have lupus also and if you don't take the pills you can get very sick!! I would also get someone to help, like a very close relative, or a very close friend that could help out around the house, and also help you out with things you need to deel with. I hope everything turns out better :)
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