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Gender: Female
Location: Dallas ,Texas
Age: 13
Member Since: October 12, 2004
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Okie, here's a little background...my guy and I have been dating for almost 11 months, and we're really serious.
Recentlyish, my mom's been focusing on EVERY little "mistake" my guy makes. For instance, today he was late picking me up for school and she kept saying "I hope he's really coming, because you missed the bus and I'm not driving you." and stuff like that., and I wanted to smack her...Lol. I HATE that she keeps doing this. She takes the tiniest things, like lateness, or the way he's so tight with money and turns them into huge flaws.
I pointed out to her that she makes me think she doesn't like him, and she tells me she's just "looking out for me" and "making sure I see things/the whole picture". Honestly, the only thing I see wrong with him is that he snores on his back...
My guy also thinks my mom has issues with him, and I suggested maybe HE should talk to her about the impression she's giving off, but I doubt he'd do it unless I bothered him about it enough.
The thing is, I've been really careful with this relationship and am able to take myself out of the picture and see what's going on because I want it to work more than anything.
The confusing thing is, mom says she actually likes him. I don't understand her. How do I get my mom to shut up? (link)
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i think your mom is worried she can tell that things are getting serious unlike other relationships in the past. she probaly dosent want to loose her little girl.
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my brother smokes pot and well he is 21 and he has done drugs since about 5th grade and i know he does it but he wont just come out and say it his friend is so stupid he got high of a air can while me and my little sister were ther in the room right next to them and my brother made up that he might have just had a cesure should i tell him that i know he does drugs and i think it is stupid or just keep quiet and not get involved please help i am worried about him
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tell him how you feel. maybe he wil relize whut hes doing is stupid. maybe he will get someone that will help him stop.
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For as long as I can remember, my currently 19 year-old sister, isn't having the best life right now. I'll refer to her as Lexi In 2003 Lexi dropped out of her senior year in high school about 4 months before graduation. She claims it was because she hated that school, and hated everyone in it. I mean, she's not really the preppy, Barbie Girl type. She did get her G.E.D. after dropping out of high school, though. She went to the 2nd semester of college. Our whole family was overjoyed and really thought that Lexi could make something of herself, finally. I mean, she is really, really smart and an extremely good drawer.
But then she ended up skipping her classes to sleep in, and the night before college finals in spring, she drunk so much alcohol that she passed out and was under severe conditions and had to be hospitalized. She didn't even call our parents, because she knew that she'd be in trouble for underage drinking at that tim (age 18) and she had missed finals. She went to court and pleaded guilty, and was fined. But our family left that in the past and forgave her.
Lexi's back home now, and I pray every night that she goes back to college, or at least gets a job. She always promises our mom to get a job and never does, claiming that "nothing motivates her to do anything." Usually she appears in a pretty good mood, but once every month my parents and her will have a nasty fight. I'm not saying physically. These fights involve swearing, screaming, yelling, shouting, and insulting. Then the next day it's almost as if nothing happened, but my parents and Lexi won't talk to each other. My mother cries her eyes out, and I can't blame her, because she went through several hours of pain and labor to bring Lexi into the world, wanting , and my sister does nothing but smoke and swear at her. She and my parents eventually make up, and then it will be another fight.
Lexi is in financial trouble too (I'm not saying what), and won't return tax collectors' calls. She is too lazy to get a job, all she does is eat, sleep, and smoke, and go out with friends. I really want Lexi to get a job and stop smoking. I really want her to have a better life and go back to college. I really want my parents and her to not fight. I can't control any of this, because she is 6 years older than me (I'm 13) and I can't tell her what to think. Lexi refuses to go to a counselor, and no one can change her mind. Sometimes I even cry myself to sleep because I'm only 13 and I'm already going through emotional pain. I really need help, and I would appreciate anyone's sincere input on this. (link)
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i have an olde sister too. try to get out of the house till the time you can. distract yourself with after school activites. i cant say itll take the problems but just try them to see if it works.
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Hi,
I'm a 26 years female married from 3 years and a have a lovely happy family one baby boy.
I met a new colleague at work he sexually likes me and tried so many times to have some sexual relation with me,
After i refused so many times,i'm feeling that i'm getting along with him and i'm falling in love with him i can't stop thinking of him I want to be with him all the day.
I need your advice. what shall I do
Thank you
Bouba (link)
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would you like your husband to cheat on you? think about how he would feel it would ruin your marriage and family.
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