If you get married AFTER you have children, should you go on a honeymoon? My boyfriend and I are expecting now and are not married. He wants to get married after the baby is born. I think that sounds alright, but then we won't be able to have a proper honeymoon, right? We can't just leave the baby somewhere and if we take the baby with us then it won't be us "getting away" to be together. What do you think?
I think you should definitely have a honeymoon, especially if this will be the first marriage for both of you. It would be totally fine and acceptable for you to leave your child with either set of grandparents long enough for you two to get away a couple days (providing that the baby is at least a few months old). If you put it off and say "we'll just do it later on" it will never happen. This may be the only chance you ever get at having one because for the next 18yrs or so your top priority will be providing for your child and its needs. On the other hand--if it's not really of dire importance whether you have one or not, then don't worry about it because it's not something thats required.
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I'm only 16 years old ,I as well have a 6 year old sister.
My mom is a drug attitic and was sober for 4 monthes after a 9 month relapse,which was the worst time of life for me.
Recently she began using again,she yells at me for NO reason,throws my stuff,tells me all this bad negative stuff and doesn't understand how much it hurts me .She usually goes in the middle of the night to get drugs and it wakes me up and I end up crying all night .She never cleans the house when shes on drugs and leaves it to me to do.She blames everything on me and just thinks everything is my fault and she promises all the time that shes done and she lies about it and covers it up with some story.I'm such a happy girl,I've never smoked and never done drugs and I don't need this negativity in my life.My father used to be a drug attitic as well but he doesn't yell at me or blame me ,he understands me...yet he just doesn't do anything.He lives with his mother now,so I can't turn to him.
She's gotten close to hurting me before ,but she hasn't...yet im scared.
She thinks that when shes on drugs,that she's no different from when she's not on them.Obviously thats false.I sometimes pack my stuff and stay at a friends house,but sometimes she threatens that If i dont come home,she won't give me money for things like food,clothes,etc. So I end up coming home,even though I just wanna stay out with my friends.
Please help!,im trapped and alone
I realize that even though your mother is a drug addict, you obviously love her very much, but having said that my advice to you is that you need to get you and your little sister out of that situation as soon as possible!! It's definitely not healthy and possibly not even safe for you two to be there. Do you have any family members you could go stay with? If not, then please find an adult that you trust and let them know your situation. Unfortunately sweetie you can't help your mother if shes not willing to help herself but you can prevent any harm coming to you or your little sister. Not to scare you ..but if you don't do something soon it might be too late. Not only that but eventually someone else will figure it out and then they will notify the authoritys and there may be a possibilty that you and your sister get seperated. Please keep in touch with me and let me know how you're doing and in the meantime I will pray that God keeps you and your sister safe. Good luck!!
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I am 19 and have a 4 1/2 yr old daughter and my boyfriend has a 18 month old son that lives with us. I am now very pregnant with twins.
Today, after I had picked up the kids from pre-school and daycare, I went into the store to pick up some things for dinner. While I was picking up the baby and putting him in the cart, my little girl was playing by the quarter machines. A woman (probably about 30 years old) saw me and said, "Aren't you a little young to have a baby with another one on the way?" I didn't get a chance to say anything when my daughter came running over, screaming, "Mommy!!!" The woman just looked at me glared, shook her head, and left. I just wonder what people must think of me. Yes, I made some really poor choices in my life but I would like the chance to talk about it so maybe some other girls wouldn't go the same route I did. It's not uncommon for me to get crazy looks or stares when I'm out with the kids--or even just one of the kids! At least I'm taking full responsibility for my actions by raising my children the right way. It's just A LOT harder with me being so young. What would you think if you saw me in the supermarket? What would you say to me?
Thanks
First and foremost it is not my place or anyone else's to pass judgement on you. Not one single person on the face of this earth has lived a life with no mistakes and I really wish people would remember that before they go looking down their noses at someone else! I, personally want to praise you for taking responsibility for your children and doing the best you can. You should hold your head high and not give a damn what others think, at least you aren't the majority of teenage mothers in this country. As long as you are a good mother to these children and raise them with love, and put them foremost in your life, then even God himself wouldn't dissaprove. Keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about what society thinks.....at the end of the day all that matters is what your children think of you. God bless you!!
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Ok, so my boyfriends dad offered to sell me a car, that was valued at 6000, for 1500. He said eh wanted to keep the insurance and title in his name until the car was paid off. I had no problem with that, but when i was on my way to take him somewhere, someone ran a red light and smashed the car. its gone, totalled. now he wants to pay his random bills with the settlement! My bf thinks im being selfish by thinking that he should keep the 1500 that he would have gotten from me out of the settlement, and give me the rest to get a new car. Am i being selfish, or is his dad being a real jerk? I really think that he only wanted to keep it in his name so that he could reap the benefits if I got in an accident. Help! dont want to see his face everyday while im so angry at the fact that he's gloating that hes making out on the deal!
I honestly don't think the man is being a jerk. Entering into an agreement such as the one you had with him is basically the same as any lending institution. What I mean by that is this: if you borrowed the money from a bank or credit union and you owed money on the vehicle at the time of the accident, and the car was totaled, then they would get their money first and you would get the balance--that is providing you had made payments. Now, if he is the one that made the insurance payments as well, then is entitled to recoup that money also. You never really said whether you had even made any payments so I'm just basing this on what you did say. I feel if you did make a few payments then the fair and righteous thing for him to do would be to at least give you that money back considering the car was a total loss.
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