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Q: im 16/f and ive been thinkin about leaving home for months but now its got serious. things at home are really crap i hate it! ive tried to talk to my parents about it but they just say if your gona be that stupid then go live with your grandma. but where i live there is a place which helps young people who want to or have left home and its full of appartments and im thinking of moving there but because the law here (as far as i know) is that you need your parents consent otherwise the police will report you as missing and will get involvd, i dont htink my parents will giv me consent and i dont want to live here no more! theyre not violent theyr not abusive! they just dont show love towards me lik they do to my brother and sister. me and my father havent spoken nicely to each other in over 3 months and my mum hates me for that! DO you think its right to leave? or do you think im being selfish? and does anyone no the laws about leaving home at 16?? thanks
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grownup thing to do would be try to make things better not worse, just leaving... worse on mum & dad.
crap situation you are in for sure.
know what, TRY talking to your dad nicely...
even your mum, try yo ease the tension in the house.
make a couple of jokes, do what ever you can.
if you can honesty look yourself in the mirror and say, i'd given my best for a couple months and no differance, go.
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Q: 16/F
105 lbs/5'4"
I recently came out to my family that I've lost 10 pounds in the last two weeks due to not eating and throwing up when I do eat. Now my parents want to send me to an in-patient facility for rehabilitation. I'm really really scared/angry because I think that I can beat this or figure it out myself with a little help from my family...I'm not even that underweight. I feel like this whole thing is ridiculous and I shouldn't have tol them about it. What should I do? I need to convince them otherwise very soon...
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they are scared you are becoming bulimic,
don't do the not eating and throwing up thing and they will chill out.
problem with what you are doing is that it can very VERY easily become a very bad habit,
start showing interest in losing weight in other ways, even if asking the family for advice.
that should start putting them at ease, actually trying it, totally at ease.
And by the way, a 100lbs (odd) is a good , a little meat on a girl is lovely.
a skeleton on the other hand is kinda hard and too uncomfortable too hold... :)
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Q: I'm so depressed, I only found out this morning that my dad wants us to move house, he says he doesn't know where...Just go. We only just got here really, haven't been here long , but it's a really great place and we all love it here. I don't know why he wants to go. I'm just about to start a new school, a new job and now we have to go?! All that aside, the best thing that's ever happened to me will be taken away from me. My boyfriend is the most perfect, beautiful person and I'm so scared I'll lose him, that's my biggest concern. I love him more than anything and I just don't think I can let him go. My dad is often all talk no action but I dunno this time. I can often talk him out of stuff....Please, I need help, what will I do? Now I havent even started school or my new job yet...and I just could bear to leave.
Thanks
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talk to your dad, why does he want to leave a place he just moved to?
try to get more "dad" related reasons (or awnsers) for staying and tell him about it.
hope i helped and good luck
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Q: I know this might not sound like that big of a deal but it is for me!
Well my mom and me have been fighting a lot lately..........almost like every day. But its never my fault like i would say " Mom there's no more laundry detergent." the she would blow up and say " Of course we dont because you have to use so much" and then she would start yelling at me bacause i ask for so much stuff and that she has no money to spend and i hate! I really dont want to hear about her problems then when i say that i don't want to hear it then she starts yelling at me again! please help me and tell me what to do! im going to start school on tuesday, and i dont want this to mess with my head so please help !
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Sorry man, there is no easy way.
Sounds like your moms under alot of stress and so are you. You'll need to be a friend to your mom.
Sounds like you guys have money trouble, and on a perant I sure that it might well be the biggest part of her stress, try to distract her from it by telling a joke from time to time.
It sounds like she needs your support, try to see it from her side. You'll need to be mature about this.
I was fourteen when I started waitering cause my perants went bankrupt the year before, I also had fights with my dad and also the same type of scenarios you are descibing, to the extend where I told him "fuck you", and he hit me in the face. I was pretty fucked up and at school nobody understood. I wasn't making it easier on them.
that year I paid for my sisters matric-farewell dress (suppose thats like the graduation dance the americans have). IT SUCKED, but sometimes thats the way life is.
You could try to relieve some of the stress your mom has or you could be part of it. By trying to relieve some of hers, you may well relieve some of your own. In the end family is ALL you really have.
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