I LOVE giving advice so thought this was perfect for me. I actually came here to GET advice and ended up GIVING it. Ask me anything, i do not care what it is. I'm married with 4 kids so i'd be real good at relationship advice or parenting advice. I'll answer them the best way i can! Through my own personal experiences.
E-mail: christyjonescleckler@yahoo.com
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Location: Alabama
Age: 28
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Okay I'm pregnant with my current boyfriends baby and I have three choices. My first choice is to move in with my sister while he gets a job and we both move in together. My second choice is move in with him and his family. My last choice which is giving me the biggest problems is staying with my mom and my other sister. The problem with that is that me and that sister don't get along and both her and my mom don't want me to be with my boyfriend until he gets a job. I love my boyfriend so much and I don't want to live with my mom and she is trying to force me into staying with her but I don't want to because I wont be able to see him. My question is out of the three which one would sound like the best choice for me right now? (btw I'm 19) (link)
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I feel like the best place for you to stay is the place where the LEAST stress is! Your pregnant, you have to think about your baby and you can have a miscarriage if your under too much stress! You love your bf and your family, but NO stress is what you need right now. Good luck sweetie! -Christy
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I love my husband to death but we have not been getting along i know that i can be picky sometimes but what woman is not. So my husband made a promise to me that he would not smoke anymore so when he asked yesterday i immediatly said no and of course he got mad. So today he tells me he has been thinking alot and since we have gotten together i have tried to change everything about him and pretty much hes the one that tries to make me happy but i dont do it in return! so my question is what should i do about this?????? I told him from the beginning what i was looking for and now hes mad!I really just feel like this relationship is sinking and sinking fast.
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okay. I'm married too. You have to give some and take some. If he made a promise, then he should keep it! But IF he doesn't keep his promise to not smoke, it's not the end of the world. Just make sure you let him know that you understand how hard it is to stop smoking. Or heres another idea... compromise with him. Try to see if he will come to an agreement on how much he smokes and how often. Men do not like to be told what to do! And marriage is all about compromising anyway so try that. That way he is happy too because he doesn't feel like your trying to "change" him. If he said you dont try to make him happy then prove him wrong by telling him you want to compromise. If he doesn't want to compromise then he's just selfish! I've learned from my marriage that things are not always what you thought they were in the beginning unfortunately. But just try to let him be him, but also respect your wishes and keep his promises. I hope that works for you Christy
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My mom gets really angry really easily. I'm her only daughter and i'm 16 and she treats me like i'm disposable.
Like today she found out that I missed school because the power went out and screwed up my alarm clock last night.
I told her what happened and she refused to believe me and made up all sorts of crazy delusions in her head about what she thinks really happened. She started screaming and cussing me out and telling me that she's going to call social services and have them come take me away because she hates me so much and that she thinks i'm a complete failure.
Every time anything go's the least bit wrong she go's nuts. She makes up scenarios in her head that never actually happened and lets them build her anger up.
Every single day she explodes about something and always takes it out on me.
She thinks she's the perfect parent though and whenever shes around anybody else she acts positively angelic.
I'm always being accused of something and I never get a say in the matter. If I try to explain myself she slaps me and tells me to shut up.
Yet she'll go on an on about how I abuse her trust and how she's the perfect parent and that I don't deserve her.
I really think she hates me.
She always insults me and belittles everything I do. Nothing is ever good enough for her and every day I come home from school to a pissed off mother who stresses me out the point i've thought about calling DCF.
She's even gotten angry to the point she pushed me down the stairs and hit me with a pan.
I'm in all honors classes with A's and B's and i've never been to the discipline office for anything.
I don't know why she thinks i'm such a horrible monster but she does and it drives me crazy.
What can I do about her?
I can't live with my dad because he lives in a really tiny 1 bedroom apartment with 13 cats and a 12 hour job. He barely has enough money for himself and his pets so he wouldn't be able to take care of me.
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I answered your question before, but i wanted to add something. My Father was physically and emotionally abusive to me for years. I always thought it was my fault. My mother was the same way, except she didn't hit me. It wasn't my fault and it's not your fault either. That's not what i was trying to say in my first answer. I am now a Mother of four and i have NEVER hit or abused any of my children in ANY way! I do not even "spank" them as a form of discipline. Anyway, i now understand how hard it is to be a "mom" and i've been a "single mom" before too. It's very hard and it takes a tow on you emotionally and physically. It's something that a 16 year old just would not understand because i didnt when i was your age and going through the same thing. I suffer from depression and i'm bipolar, but i have never abused my children. I just want you to understand more than anything that your Mother loves you, she doesn't hate you! It feels like she hates you because of how she treats you, but let me tell you. She secretly feels like crap for treating you that way and she will regret it for the rest of her life. My Mother does. Its hard to have any control over anything when your a teenager, but i think talking to a close friend or close family member would indeed be a good idea. I'm not real sure about anyone at the school. I think you should even tell your Dad whats going on. Even if he can't take care of you right now. He might FIND a way if he knows what is going on! I just didn't want you to think i meant it was something you were doing wrong because i wasn't trying to say that. I re read what i wrote and it didnt really come out the way i planned for it to. If your religious try to pray, prayer is powerful. Pray for God to give your Mother the patience she needs. And pray that God will give you the strength to get through this. Although this is NOT something you should be going through. No one should go through anything like that. Your Mother is the person that's supposed to keep you safe, not harm you. I agree that you could end up in a place worse than where your at if you contact child services. Please try to stay strong and dont EVER let someone make you feel worthless or a monster! I know what your going through. I've been on both sides. I know what its like to be abused, and i also know all the stress that comes with raising kids, but i've never harmed my children. So, i guess it's all in making the right or wrong choice. And your Mom is making alot of wrong ones. I hope you can eventually find a way to get out of this situation your in. And when you do, please don't let this affect your self confidence. It did mine. Your a strong person. Show her how strong you are... emotionally. Good luck with everything. -Christy
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