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Q: Before I begin I want to say that I am not complaining, I absolutely love my mom and my life.

So my problem is my mom's yelling. It's almost like she feels that she cannot get anything across to my siblings and I unless she yells. Sometimes she is even too busy yelled that she doesn't realize that we have already done the things she's asked us to do. I've tried talking to her about it several times. My younger sister once told her that sometimes she doesn't listen to my mom because of her shouting at us all the time. Talking to her never works. I can understand that she is very stressed out at times and wants to come home without any trouble. But instead of asking us to do something, she'll say something like “GET OFF THE TV/COMPUTER AND CLEAN THE GAME ROOM NOW!!!” I'm even embarrassed by it at times because she does it while we have friends over also. I don't think she's simply asked us to do anything in a year.

I want to know if anyone ones anyway I can get through to her. And once again, the talking about to her does not work. I can't even talk to her about anything any more. It feels as if she just does not like having us around even though I know it's not true.

My parents are divorced so it's not like he can help. He lives in Iowa while we live in Texas.

-i have the same problem-except she doesnt yell all the time and sumtimes she can go over and hitt me-but she has stopped now-i talked to her-i told her that sumtimes it feels like she would be happier if i left-then i ask if she wants me too-cuz i could always go live with an aunt-but then she sees how bad she hurts me-your mom may think cuz she doesnt phiscally hurt you its ok-but she doesnt kno that inside you feel like she wants you gone-next time she yells-tell her that she doesnt have to yell for you to hear her-if she doesnt get it-try giving your dad a call-he can do alot more then you think--

Q: My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me?

--my parents were the same way-but see the problem was-that half my bestfriends were guys-at first my mom didnt rlly like the idea of that-but once i asked if they could come over to the house and hang out with my parents there-that way they could meet them-they totaly went for it-then after my mom and dad met them they said they were ok to hangout with-now my mom knos all my guy friends-she takes us everywhere and lets us hangout-yes it did take a while for her to see that the guys i hung out with were ok guys..--well i hope you can get your mom and dad to understand too-

Q: okay so my mom smokes and i hate it.. like all my clothes smell like smoke b/c our house always smells like it and my teachers look at me evilly b/c i smell like smoke but i cant do anything about it do you know any way to either get my mom to stop smoking or to like at least have my house not smell like it all the time?!

ok-talk to your mom-tell her that its getting so bad that teachers are starting to question you-if she doesnt understand that-try opening windows and using sum air spray-and ask her if she could do it outside-not in--