Hey, My name is Meagan and i am 15. I am 5 feet tall i'm a shrimp hehe. I love helping people and making them feel better in whatever I can. If you need any help please let me know!!
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I'm 16 and a junior in high school. I live with my mom and younger brother. I am involved in a lot of my high school's drama productions and am also a member of the dance team. My mom wants me to switch out of drama (she says it's making me miserable, but it's one of the few places I really enjoy myself) and she doesn't like my being on dance team, not because of grades, etc. just because it's her opinion. Anyway, I have had 8 drama performances, and she only went to three. One I was sick, , and then she left without picking me up because she said I was taking too long. My aunt made her come to one, and the third she went to see her friend's son. She refused to come to the only two performances I asked/begged her to (I had a lead role) and won't let me invite my dad.
My mom hasn't come to any of my dance performances and wouldn't because she'd have to leave work for 15 minutes. Her work is on the same block as my school so it's not like it's a long drive!
Freshman year I tried out for the school talent show ( a pretty big deal) and made it, but I told both my mom and dad about it. My mom found it I told my dad and wouldn't let me go. At 8:00 (the exact time the show started) she finally said I could go, but it was too late, I was supposed to be the first act. Sophomore year she wouldn't let me try out.
Now she wants to come to my next dance performance because I invited my dad, but she's trying to make me feel bad because she'd miss part of work. At this point it's not going to make a difference. I would have been thrilled two years ago, but now I don't want her to come. If I say that, she'll come just to piss me off. How can I make sure she won't come?
Sorry this is so long, but it's kind of complicated. Thank you if you actually read the whole thing. (link)
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Well babe, you need to talk to your mom. I know you have talked to her but I think if you make it 100% clear you ond;t want her to come and you tell her why, she might understand. I can never imagine what it feels like to be you right now, but I think you just need to talk to her and let her know what you think. Hope that helps and if you have any more questions just let me know k
Love Meg
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okay so this might be very long and im sorry but i need some other peoples opinions on this.
so i used to live with my grandmother. for 13yrs then i moved in with my mom and dad only a few months ago and my school work was getting better but now i feel in the same situation as i dont feel like getting up to go or just cant be bothered trying anymore. my mom is ALWAYS at work and when she does finally come home she sits and does MORE work. its not that she has to because he job only requires her to work untill 6pm. my dad isnt working and hes hard to talk to everything is a joke to him and if you have an issue you can deal with it yourself cause its all in your head supposedly which yeah on some things i can agree but a lot of times i just wanna talk. im not allowed to go places therefore i dont have many friends I DO though have a long distance relationship and he makes me extreemly happy whenn ever i talk to him which is usually for the most part of the day after school till some1 has to eat dinner then on the phone again till bedtime or whenever we fall asleep on the phone. he has helped me with so many problems and i help him when hes down too but its not all helping we have an awesome time laughing and making jokes and just stupid stuff that no1 else would think is funny but were weird together so its good for us. :) yea so mostly im in my room from when i get home from school till when its time to go back (except for bathroom and to eat dinner and stuff) and im always sitting by myself and eating dinner and my mom is at work of course and my dad well if he eats in the same room as me,im just not used to talking to him so its weird and he doesnt make any effort to start a convo. i used to try to wait for my mom to get home for dinner but by that time i would have to be almost ready to get myself to bed in order to even try to wake up and go to school. my boyfriend (long dist thing.) of almost seven months now came so visit me with his mom and his grandmom and his brother and his mom and grandmom treated me like so nice! and they gave me a hug and stuff and i almost wanted to cry cause i never get that and his mom loves me and stuff and thats hard to get his mom to approve of any girl for her sons :) anyways i have a therapist and i was talking to her about all this and she thinks it would be good that maybe on school breaks i could get away from everything and go see him and his family and stuff which i would love because sometimes thats all i want is to just get away. ya know and be happy, but my mom wont even let me to the mall with friends cause shes "overprotective" and i dont see why because shes never there. and alex (my bf) and i were talking about all this and he thinks id be wayy better off if i was there with him and his family hes 16 and im 14 btw. but i know my momwould never let me because she thinks ill im gonna do or want is sex or something but im not i just want to be happy i hate feeling alone all the time it sucks. so like does anyone else think it would be a good idea or do you think im being selfish or anything because i dont want to be like that. also i think if i was able to move there i'd be eating better for one thing and my school work would improve tons cause id have some1 there to motivate me and everything and plus his mom is way nice to me and shes fine if i ever wanted to or could do that. but i just dont know. so if anyone knows anyway that i could make it possible cause arent i being sort of neglected? if my theapist person knew all this stuff wouldnt she like be able to let me go there or something?!? ahh im just, i dont know. i need help.
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thanks a lot if you ever get to the end of reading that sorry it was so long. (link)
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Well sweetie, you have one crazy life let me tell you. Life is too short to stay upset and not have fun. I think that your parents are being really unreasonable. They either need to pay way more attention to you and trust that you can go hang out with your friends, or they need to let you go with your boyfriend. He sounds like such a nice guy. If he and his family is what makes you happy and what you want in your life, I think this is what you need to tell your parents. Be honest wih them, because they at the least deserve to know how you feel. I also think if they don't let you go, you should have your boyfriends mom call and talk to them. Either her or your theorpist. Something needs to change babe, You don't deserve this. If you you need anymore help, or have any other questions, please ask me. I would love to help somone as sweet as you. XOXO
Love Meggs
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ok well here's the thing........ i really dont eat a lot.... i just don't have a stomach that can take in so much food.... however, my mom thinks that i dont eat so that i can loose weight so she makes me eat more, and now she's convinced that i'm doing this to loose wait because i got into this fight with this girl the other day and she called me fat.... but pleasee its not like i took it seriously, because i weigh 105 pounds, and i called her a horse-head, so w/e. but now she thinks i'm doing it to loose weight and she's wants to keep on feeding me and feeding me....she's even like checking my lunch when i come home to make sure i eat, what to do????? i just really don't eat a lot, and i told her, but she just doesn't get it
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Well sweetie, what I would tell your mom is that you want to talk to her. Tell her that you don't eat a lot because you just have a little stomache. What you might want to do is not eat just when she makes you but when you feel hungary. So she knows you are eating, write down everything you eat in one day. When she sees that you do eat, She will back off and chill. She is just worried about you, I mean she has a right to be, You're her daughter and she cares a lot about you. I hope I helped, and if you need anything else, let me know.
XOXOXOXOXO
Meggs
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I can't turn to anyone else but my grandma got a stroke and ever since my uncle thinks he is the boss. He told me today he as putting her in a home and he did (I objected) and now I can't find one of her tablets that she needs. She hasn't even has her night tablet and I'm scared he's trying to kill her. I also saw on a piece of paper that he wrote "Do take out" on an account that is my grandma's and unfortunately his! I'm so scared...Please help me... and resonable advice please! (link)
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Well what I would do first is go and ask your uncle what is going on. If he does not give you a good answer then ask your parents for help on what he is doing. If it getting to bad and you honestly think he is trying to kill her then call the police immediatly
Hope that helps
Love Meggs
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I have a little sister and she is always getting me into trouble . And my parents dont do any thing about it and my step dad spanks me when I calll her a name what should I do I have no Ideas If any one could answer this question that would be great I need some serious help.
polly (link)
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ok well ya dont feel bad this happenes to me all the time. and what i do to take me mind off of it is come here. i talk to my friends. i just lock my self in my room and either think about it or i will write about it. if u write about it no one will know what u think about this whole little issue. im still very sorry and i hope this helps. let me know if this helps k. xoxox
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