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I am a young adult now. I am not independent. I dont know how to pay bills and how to live when i move out and live by myself. So, anyone please tell me what to do first when i move out? What all do you have to do and go before you move out? I wanna be independent. Is it very hard?

Being independent is a lot harder than most people think it should or would be! I know when I first moved out I had the hardest time. Things that have been there for you everyday (soap, bread) get really expensive really fast. I would say so you don't get yourself into a crappy situation is to start getting things for a house or apartment now. Dishes, spices, towels, furniture. things that you will need on a day to day basis. That is what I did. Then when you have most of the things that you will need you can find a place and move in without feeling too panicked with having nothing! Trust me living out of a duffle bag and sleeping with no A/C when its 100 outsite isnt exactly fun! Being independent can be a blast and the best experience of your life if you plan it right! I hope this helped and good luck!:)

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My mum has been smoking for a long time now, and need a way to get her to stop. And all the typical ones arent working. I'm really scared that something is going to happen. Help Me!!!

Honestly quitting has nothing to do with what othe people do or say to try and get you to stop. The person that is smoking has to want to stop for themselves, not for you or anyone else, just themselves. It will either take a long time for her to realise this, and she'll try and try. or she might not ever quit. this is all up to your mom.

Hope i helped (:

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My niece is turning three years old and my sister is going to throw her a birthday party. My sister wants an original birthday party. What we have so far is a safari party and bumblebee party. Any suggestions would be helpful. Also maybe something to put on the invitations to go with the theme. Thanks in advanced!

My little sister always loved the princess theme. On the invitaion make it like a roayal ball and they can all come in their little dresses and play princess games with tea and such.

Hope i helepd =]

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i kinda feel like i complain all of the time!
and it drives people nuts.
how can i stop complaining?
and just be happy with who i am?
and my life?

Try to look at things from a different point of view. If something bad happens dont get down just tell yourself that it happened for a reason. If your going to work and your not in the mood, tell yourself it will be a fun day, because if you go in with an attitude that your day is going to suck, it will suck i promise. So just try to have a different view on everything.

Hope i helped =]

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Okay well my lifes pretty good. except for the fact that my mom is on and off with smoking. how do i get her to stop?! or at least try to stop?!

Smoking is a really hard habit to break. You cant tell a person that they have to stop smoking, it scares them. They have to want to quit smoking for them, not for anyone else. But maybe print of statistics on how many women die a year from smoking and show her. Say that you know people that have had to grow up without a mom and you dont want that. Just ask her if she would try to stop.

Hope i helped =]

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my da malested me a long time ago but i still love and want to talk to him i still keep in contact through facebook but my mom found out and now we argue everyday i told her that i would not stop talking to my dad and the other day we got into this huge arguement what should i do..

Talk to her and tell her that you know what your dad did was wrong but she needs to accept the fact that he is your dad and every child needs two parents.

Tell her that you promise not to see him, but you would just like to talk to him.

I hope this helps =]

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How do I get a guy to get me praegnent? I really like this guy and I want his babys but we haven't really done anything like sexual or anything. Is there some way I can get him to have sex with me but make sure I get praegnet?

Ok well first of all whether you like him or not, whether you have his baby or not, it doesnt mean that you guys are going to be together forever. Your obviously young and having a baby is really stupid especially if your not "with" this guy. And if he doesnt want a baby he wont support you and he will leave you. No one wants that responsibility at your age.

I know you probably like kids and you want someone to love you unconditionally. I understand. We've all been there but having a kid isnt the right thing to do and i promise if you have a baby you will reagret it.

Im not trying to tell you what to do, i mean that is my opinion. But if you really want to have his baby talk to him about it and maybe there is a slight chance that he wants one too. But im doubting it.

Hope i helped =]

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what do you think about cousins dating?

I personally think that it isnt very smart. If they planned on having kids there can be a lot of complications and if they are blood related i just think thats weird... actually its called incest.

I know a lot of people do it my bff is pregnant by her second cousin, blood related and i just think that it is the weirdest thing but that is just my opinion.

If the people both agree that it is ok i guess its ok. its their life not mine.

Hope i helped =]

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14/f

what happens if i get pregnant? like will i be able to move out of my parents house? and live with my boyfriend? or will i have to stay home? and how would i tell my parents? what if i runaway and call my parents and tell them. will i have to go back home? because i know my parents dont want me to do this. and would pretty much beat me if i did. but i dont care about them. they just make my life worse and worse everyday. and starting a family sounds like the best thing to me right now. im not actually pregnant. but im kinda thinking about it. because of things ive talked about with my boyfriend. i know your gonna say dont do it. and im not ever sure i want to do this. so PLEASE dont tell me i shouldn't do it. or how its going to ruin my life. because it wont ruin my life. my boyfriend already has things planned out if i do want to do this. and no. he's not pushing me to do this. its only if i want to. and i just want these questions answered before i do make a decision.
thanks for the help.
- cuttechick24

Ok well no you cant move out of your house your still a minor. And if your parents dont kick you out you would be considered a run away and depending on how old your boyfriend was he could get into trouble for running away with you or letting you move in with him. If you run away and call your parents they have this thing called screening and they will find you. well having a family isnt going to fix anything i promise.

Ive been through the same thing you just want someone who will love you unconditionnaly no matter what. Well if you really think about it you still want to party and hit 21 and dring and everything. If you have a child you wont be able to do this, unless you leave your kid all the time so you can carry on with your life. and your not going to be financially ready to take care of a kid either. Im not telling you not to just think about this twice before you do.
Hope i helped =]
and if you need anymore advice feel free to go to my column and ask me personally.

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I hope you can help me with my problem. I am a young mother and have a good husband, but my family does not like him and thinks we are stupid when it comes to my child. They keep butting in and trying to tell me how to raise my daughter and constanatly tell me what I am doing wrong. What should I do????

Thats weird my mom had the same problem when i was little.

Well tell your mom that she had to choice on how to raise you, and its none of her business on how you want to raise your child. Hopefully she understands and will back off.

Ask her if her mom ever told her how to raise her child and i bet it bugged her too.

Hope i helped and if you need anymore advice feel free to message me again =]
Good Luck!

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what are some ways to get someones trust back??? i just lost it and i need to get it back.

Well most of the time if you've had someones trust and you've lost it, its really hard to get it back. Especially if you hurt that someone or lied. Your going to have to do a lot to show "them" that you are trustworthy and that you do care. Prove to them that you wont lie to them or hurt them. And its almost guaranteed you wont get it back right away so be patient. Hope i helped =]

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how do you pick up a really good guy who wont hurt you?

Honestly it is really hard and most of the guys that dont hurt you aren't the best looking or the most popular but they are the ones with the best personality and the ones that are most likely not to hurt you. Also if you have some close guy friends (i know this might sound weird)but if you sorta have feelings for any of them i would give it a try because most of them wouldnt hurt you either. Just give it time you will find someone =] Hope i helped

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