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I seem to have a way with words that often comfort my friends. I am often asked advice and I have not heard a complaint from anyone who has taken it and as for the ones who didn't i usually hear a "I should have listened to you" sooner or later. If you have any questions I will be glad to hear them but remember my advice is only an opinion from the knowledge that I have and you take my advice at your own risk. I plan to make this my career by majoring in journalism and minoring in psychology and am using this for experience so feel free to give me your feed back. I'm very good at giving advice on family affairs and relationships. I have had my own personal experience and have had friends with very different situations that i was able to help them through. I will always answer your question if you send it to me, so feel free to ask anytime.
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My father and my husband HATE EACH OTHER. They aren't nasty to one another, they just complain to me. It is a huge emotional burden to carry. Any advice for peace is appreciated.
Just tell them that you are uncomfortable when they talk bad about each other. Let them know that you care about them both so you don't want to hear about how much they hate each other.
Dear Adviceanators: A few years ago my mom passed away. My sister who is in her fifties received my moms house of 130,000.and most of her money (about 80,000 dollars) I got a lum sum as well but not nearly as much as my sister. The problem is this my sister is a master manipulator. She worked very hard on my mom behind my back saying things like if I would give the house away If I got it. (both of our names were always on the house my mom told me) She also told my mom she needed more money than me because she need to fix up the house. I never new my name was taken off till after she died. You have to understand my sister is a lpn nurse who used to make 20.00 an hour. Before my moms house she lived in a trailer with hole in the walls. She always had the ability to make a good living instead she only worked 2 days a week just to get by. What bother more than anything is that she abused my mother physcially and mentally and my mom enabled this bum by buying her cars and giving her money and now my mother has just enabled her after she died as well. I get so angry at this whole situation still to this day. Espcially if I ride by my moms house and see her sitting there like she worked so hard all her life to get all these things. I do have to say that GOD had truly blessed me in my journey of not getting that house. I just feel she got away with what she did. Oh and also she plans to get one of those reverse mortages to live off of. Any advice?
I understand your anger and if it were me I would be livid but since she has passed away and it is in her will there is nothing that can be done. I think your mom knows what she has done now but she cant change it considering she is gone. Your just going to have to be the bigger person and turn the other cheek. Karma always gets her revenge so don't worry eventually your sister will get whats coming to her. You should be proud that you work hard for what you get and at least you still got some money. The people who do nothing advance in life and the people who work advance after death. Just stay strong and be happy for the things you have, it could be way worse.
i kinda feel like i complain all of the time!
and it drives people nuts.
how can i stop complaining?
and just be happy with who i am?
and my life?
This is something i can relate to cause i just went through the exact same thing. Everyone was telling me i was negative and that i always complain.
Here is what i did , My main problem was that i was complaining about things that no matter how much i complained it wasn't going to change anything. the first thing you have realize is that you saying something negative isn't going to help the situation and its just going to make people annoy you more. I'm not saying you should cheer about it i am just saying to keep it to yourself and wait to talk to someone you are close to and usually by the time you get to that person you realize you might have overreacted. Its not going to be easy cause its something you always resort to just remember that if you keep it to yourself and deal with it on your own you wont have people making you feel worse by saying your negative.