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Q: In 2000 my grandparents got divorced, by this time I was seven years old, & I didnt think old people was supposed to divorce, needless to say, my grandpa had found someone over the internet. He left my grandma, I see my grandma almost everyday, but in the past 8 years, I bet I could count on one hand how many times I've seen my papaw, and I could count on maybe three fingers how many times he's told me he loves me since the separation.
This Christmas was the first Christmas I'd seen my Grandpa in a longg time. I miss him soo much, I'm so afraid that I dont have much time to restore our relationship. And something else that doesnt help, this woman, that lives with him, wont even let me see him. I use to call, when I was little, to go over to their house to see him, and she would say that I wasnt invited, and it was rude to invite myself, and anyhow they were busy. I dont have any other grandpa, he died before I was born, and I'm just so angry, and hurt, that my grandpa, the only one I've ever had, wont even take the time to call me, to tell me he loves me, he wont even wave when he see's me.
I was watching this video tonight...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCoViK0G43Y&feature=related
& it instantly reminded me of him. He's not going to be here forever...
Please, I just need someone to talk to, someone to comfort me.
Thanks, all is appreciated.
15/Female
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thats awful, im having family issues myself and i know how tough it can be, just remember to talk about it, do not bottle everything inside you. my advice to you would be to try and call him again and tell the woman he is living with about the situation if she still does not comply then i suggest you write a letter to your grandfather expressing how you feel, how you want your relationship to grow but every time you try some one else is pushing you away from him and it hurts you. Explain to your parents what you are doing and how you wish to send him that letter and if you dont get a response to that ask your mother/father to go over there and personally talk to them, because as you said he isnt going to be around forever and to show you care enough to go over and make things work. (the lady he is living with could be withholding info from him) but realistically there is always that risk that things may not work out, which is sad but its on your grandfather not you so never feel like its your responsibility for not making a great relationship with him. I honestly hope that everything works out for you though you seem like a very sweet girl.
if you ever need to talk send me a message to my inbox.
Brittni.
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Q: Hi Im a female 17. lately I´ve been having lots of problems with my mom cause She went throught my cellphone and found a really x rated...erotic whatever you want to call it conversation with my bf (which she didn´t even know I had) it was about 6 messages long. And now she calls me hoe, vulgar. and says Im a minor and lots of crap. Im 17 and i think I have a right to explore my sexuality but safely, which I do. It sucks because now she makes me feel like crap with sarcasms and she even went to the cellphone company to check up on my messages and to who i write them. Its a total invasion of privacy i can´t even text my bf anymore and i don´t know what to do cause i really like him and my mom is making me want to seriusly die or kill myself.
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hey there sorry to hear about your issue with your mother, believe me i have seen my fair share with mine so i completely understand where you're coming from. what i would suggest you do is confront you mother with how you are feeling, tell her that you dont feel its right for her to be snooping through your personal belongings and if she wants to know what is going on in your life just to ask. Also explain to her that you're not a little girl anymore, that she has to let you be in charge of your own future and you would like to be able to come to her when you have a problem instead of being called a name or being accused of something your not. im not sure if you find it hard to talk with your mother but believe me it will help a great deal with trust so that way she isnt invading your life and accusing you of things even if you dont tell her everything coming to her and talking with her about what going on in your life will help. she probably is just feeling like you are pushing her out of your life because you're growing up so fast, going out with friends and not spending as much time with her, that she feels left in the dark, especially the fact that she didnt even know you had a boyfriend of six months.
if you have any other questions feel free to ask
good luck with your mom!
Brittni
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Q: So, its my birthday, on july 20th. and i'm super excited. I guess. I mean i'm not having a party this year, and so my mom says i can get whateverrr i wanntt. like anythinggg.
but i already have alot of stuff. lol
this is what i havee..
-cell phone [whem my contracts up in september im getting one of those choclate phones] so ya dont need a cell phone.
-i dont need clothes. as weird as that sounds, i havent even worn half of my summer clothes yet.
-i have an ipod nano, its pink. so i dont need one of those.
-i just got a puppy a few months ago.
-i have a digital camera.
-i have wayyy too much make up.
-i have my own computer.
-i have my own flat screen tv in my room.
-i have lots of expensive jewerly.
-i have a pool, in my backyard, [i got that a few years ago for my bday..] and its huge. so dont need that
-i have a trampoline, which isnt old.
-i have a slide for my pool.
i mean i honestly have like everythinggg. what else is there? what would you want for your bday???
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well money is always a good thing to have, just ask for money that way you can travel somewhere, or save up for college(i dont know how old you are)or even towards a car.
what i would want for my birthday would either be a piercing or a tatoo of some kind, if you're into that see if you can get that done. Or i would want someone to pay for me to go to hawaii or new britain something of that sort.
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Q: My 17 year old sister is gone to bootcamp. She wont get out till January 17th 2007. I'm only allowed to see her 2 times between now and then. She is also allowed 1 phone call a week for a max of 5 minutes. Oh My God I'm so freakin' sad cuz we were so close and the day she left, when it came time to tell me bye, she went hysterical crying, that didnt make it any easier when I was trying with everything I had to suck it up and not cry. We were told to write her as much as possible but after 3 letters, I'm getting stumped, Ive already went on and on about how proud I was of her and told her things that were going on in my life, but I'm not that interesting lol so there's only so much I can say about that. I need help on topics to talk about in the letters, or what to discuss to keep her in on the latest news and stuff (She lovesssss music) I dunno... Any Ideas are much appreciated and I will certainly rate and give feedback for your time.
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hello,
i use to have the same problem but now i just talk about anything. Here is some stuff you can talk about.
talk about home life, talk about your friends, ask her how she is doing and whate she is doing, tell her about the weather, tell her about the events going on in your town, talk to her about something new you experienced, how about a new song on the radio you think she would like, or talk about memories and how much you miss her, you could talk about a new outfit you bought or a new haircut you got, the skys the limit. Heck you could even write her a song about how much you love her since she loves music so much. i hope this helps out.
Love,
Brittni
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Hello there the names Brittni, I decided to make a site on advicenators because i wanted to help others with their struggles, its a passion of mine, i hope one day to achieve my dream of opening a center for teens. Let it be known that i will never judge you based on a question you ask, i will simply give you an answer i find fitting, but dont expect me to candy coat my answer, im going to be honest. In the past i have been faced with many difficult things and looking back i am confident i made the right decisions. I've been through a lot personally, i've heard a lot, I've seen a lot, I've grown a lot. Heck, i know im not perfect but im the best version of myself i can be which is perfection in my eyes. I know sometimes speaking to someone you know about your issue is hard, trust me i've been there. Just like i have helped others i am here to help you with the best intentions. So i am here for you if you need me.
never feel hesitant when asking me a question, leave me one in my inbox and i will get back to you as soon as possible.
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: PA AIM: Member Since: July 19, 2006 Answers: 166 Last Update: March 9, 2009 Visitors: 11462
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