I am a 37 year old college-educated female, married, full-time stay-at-home mom and home-maker
Gender: Female
Occupation: homemaker, mother of 2
Age: 37
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For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other. (link)
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I TOTALLY agree with AuntKerry. I have been married 10 years, have two kids. We do argue, like in any marriage, but we have a partnership. Neither person is right all the time and neither person is wrong all the time. Marriage is give and take, compromise, choosing your battles. Having children requires a great deal of unselfishness; sounds like your husband is a selfish spoiled child himself. When you love someone, you are able to put their needs before your own. This man needs a wake-up call; you need to put your foot down about what sort of behavior and treatment will be tolerated and what will not be tolerated. I wish you the absolute best of luck and many blessings. Peace & Joy...
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Im 16 and my dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do? (link)
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The best advice I have ever recieved in my life is CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES. It applies to so many situations. Look, you love your mom and you wante her to be happy, so sometimes you just need to go with the flow of things, and be passive rather than aggressive in certain situations. The best thing you could ever be to someone you love is honest, and communicative. Try to choose your battles and remember, your stepfather is in the picture to make your mom happy. It's not his job to make you happy. You just need to put up with him and be courteous and respectful. Good luck.
37/f with a stepfather
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