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Hi everyone, my name is Kim, im 15 years old and i live in western PA. I have 3 sisters and 3 brothers, two brothers are in the services, which one is currently in Iraq and the other is leaving for there soon. im goin into 11th grade, and i play percussion in my school's marching band, and i throw javelin in track. i am a volunteer firefighter, and i am in an ambulance service. im getting my EMT certs. at the end of june. i like to help out my community any way i can. ask me any question you would like, and i will do my best to answer. i will warn you, i dont have answers to everything, but no one does. I hope i can help you. thanks for reading this!

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My parents and I really don't get along because my dad sets double standards between my sister and I.
Well he makes himself impossible to live with. He always says stuff like "I'll smack you in the face if you dont do this.." and the sad part is I'm 18 years old. Yeah I should just move out, but I don't have the financial means to.
It's driving me crazy. I can't seem to do anything right, and he always is quick to point out things I do poorly in rather then see the things I sucueed in.
What should I do?

well.. the best advice is hang in there. do your best to try to make the money to move out, maybe with a friend or relative if you cant take it anymore. look at all options available. good luck and i hope i helped. :-)

-Kim-

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I am divorced, my 15 y.o. son (whose mother has custody) has decided that he doesn't want to spend this Saturday with me. In the past, he has always spent the entire Father's Day weekend with me. In addition, about a week ago, I informed my son that his Uncle (who my son really gets along with - and lives out-of-State) will be having breakfast with us on Saturday. Now, my son says that he wants to celebrate Saturday with his step-father. However, he has never celebrated mother's day with his step-mom. I am enraged and don't know what to do.

well first off, i understand your frustration. though, explain to him how much it would mean to you if he could spend just a small fraction of the weekend with you. i mean it wouldnt hurt to try and talk him into it, just dont get angry with him, cause that will only hurt your relationship. now im not an expert, but i always believed that talking things out and reasoning solved problems. good luck. i hope i helped :-)

-Kim-

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Is it the stupidest thing to want a baby when u had a miscarriage earlier on in the year, when earlier in your life u had bad things going on with your dad but knowing your mum would give you full support, having the bestest boy friend in the world u’ve been with him for a year and just wanting something to fill that hole in your heart you just want something more to love.. at the age of nearly 15..?

if it will make you happy, and your mom supports it. and if you think you and your boyfriend are ready for it. then i say go for it. of course his parents should be okay with it too. and no its not stupid. follow your heart.

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my family is all messed up.. my mom is terrified of my father and my father is the BIGGEST bastard. the other night i told him i hated him and wish he died.. he hit me and almost hit my mom.. their supposidly getting divorced and their already selling the house..but my mom never does jack shi**T because shes scared of him.. i want to be emacipated.. how can i come about doing it? im 15/f

first talk to your gudiance counselor about this and they'll give you the exact information. Or find a lawyer you can speak with. i know you have to have a job and prove you can take care of yourself or that someone can help take care of you. best of luck..
hope i helped..

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Okay, so my mom is screwed up. She thinks I should respect her when she has not earned it. She makes me doubt that commandment, because I'm beginning to see that not everyone that births a child is fit to raise them.
She makes six-digits/year, so I'm not looking for DFACS to take me away from her exactly, but does anyone know of some free counseling/therapy I could have her attend, and how to get her to attend? I'm going to ask my school guidance counselor about it tomorrow.
Any other ideas about how I could change her course of thinking (she moved from New England to Georgia--where I am now--and the culture is very different. She has continued to fail to see that.) would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks, guys.

Just tell her exactly how you feel again and again untill she gets it in her head. its going to be hard, i understand that and she may get mad from asking her often. Then explain that you would like her to see a counselor, and if she wants you'll go with her at first of course. talking to your gudiance counselor is an excellant idea. good luck..
hope i helped

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;; i REALLY need your help ;;



my sister hates me i think.....

;; whenever i ask her to take me somewhere (she drives) shes like "no"

;; i ask her to cook me somthing (because last time i almost burnt the house down) she says no and i have to wait till about 1 im the morning for food

;; she treats me like crap

;; she always askes "do i look pretty????"

;; she slaps me

;; she called me a whore because i didnt feel well and she didnt also

;; ill get her a soda, the vacume, TRY to cook something, give her money, talk to her, get her something she needs to clean. walk the dog, feed the cat && dog && birds.. im practally the maid for when shes home.

;; she makes me clean the hallway (because i threw my books outta my room).... also HER bathroom and i have to clean her garbage she leavs at my comptuer.

;; i ask her for a simple thing "can you drive me 1 mile away from home so i can get something to eat" she automatically says NO

;; she calls me.. a bitch.. a slut.. a whore.. a faggot.. brat.. spoiled.. discusting.. etc.

;; i wanna be her friend, but i cant ever talk to her barely.

;; i always give her MY money, the money my grandma gave me for my birthday (it was a thousand dollars) she said she would pay back... now i only have about 100 left. she took 900 bucks from me, and i was saving up for a shopping spree.

;; she steals my money also.. she has a credit card, gas card, etc. but she wont use them!

please help me... i htink she hates me, is that a sign of hate? and sorry if this was too long for you

how old is your sister? i have 3 sisters myself, and i know whatcha mean. she doesnt hate you. hate is a very strong word, especially in families. hope i helped

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